As we get older, friendships can slip through the cracks of our busy lives. In this episode of Gist with Tofu, we’re talking about those distant friends—the ones who used to be at the table but slowly faded into the background. From the simple joy of gathering around for a meal to the quiet, unspoken distance that can grow between even the closest of friends, this episode is a reflection on how we navigate adult friendships.

Through a blend of nostalgia, real talk, and a touch of poetic introspection, we explore what happens when life moves faster than our connections, and why it’s never too late to hit rewind. So, grab a seat (even if it’s just for the vibes) and join me as we revisit those friendships that shaped us, the ones we’ve lost touch with, and the ones still waiting for us to show up.

Bills, responsibilities, traffic, and somehow still trying to be a responsible adult—why is nobody talking about how hard this thing is? In this episode, I’m breaking down the struggles of adulting, from the constant debit alerts to trying (and sometimes failing) to balance faith, friendships, and just keeping it together. But don’t worry, we’re not here to cry—this is a fun, lighthearted, and faith-filled conversation about surviving the chaos. If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, ‘God, I no understand oh, help me,’ then this episode is for you!”

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Friendship is meant to be a two-way street, but what happens when you’re always the one listening, supporting, and carrying the weight of someone else’s emotions—while they barely check in on you? In this episode of Gist with Tofu, we’re diving into the tricky dynamics of one-sided friendships and emotional dumping. Are you being a good friend, or are you just a free therapist? How do you set boundaries without guilt? Let’s talk about it!

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If overthinking was a sport, I’d be a world champion—gold medalist, undefeated, back-to-back winner! In this episode, I’m finally tackling the thing that has been holding me hostage: overthinking. From stressing over what content to post (even when I have plenty stacked up) to turning simple decisions into full-blown projects, I’m exposing all the ridiculous ways our brains like to do extra.

Why do we type a message, overanalyze it, then delete it? Why does checking our account balance feel like preparing for judgment day? And why do we stress over things that will NEVER happen?

Let’s talk about it. Let’s laugh about it. And most importantly—let’s break free from this overthinking wahala!

Press play, let’s gist!”

Why do we do this thing where we just ‘manage’? Manage relationships that drain us, manage jobs we hate, manage friendships that don’t pour into us? Even small things—why are we buying clothes we don’t like just because ‘it’s on sale’? It’s giving struggle, and honestly, we deserve better.”

“In this episode, we’re having a real, funny, and eye-opening conversation about settling—why we do it, how it sneaks into different parts of our lives, and most importantly, how to stop. Because life is too short to be in ‘manage mode.’ You deserve more, and it’s time to start acting like it!”

“So grab a drink, get comfortable, and let’s talk about why ‘managing’ is officially canceled!”

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Big changes, big feelings. In this episode, I’m sharing the highs and lows of my recent move from Nigeria to Canada—what it’s teaching me about growth, faith, and adapting to the unexpected. If you’re navigating a new chapter in life, this one’s for you. Let’s gist!

Background music: String of pearls by Alex Isley

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In this debut episode of the Young & Thriving series, we sit down with Olusegun Dele Ajegunle, a dynamic IT professional and an accomplished photographer. Segun shares his inspiring journey of navigating two demanding career paths while staying true to his passions.

We dive deep into the realities of balancing creative dreams with corporate expectations, overcoming rejection, and finding purpose in the midst of uncertainty. This conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt stuck, doubted their progress, or wondered if they’re doing enough.

Segun’s story reminds us that thriving doesn’t mean having it all figured out—it’s about taking one step at a time and embracing the process. Tune in and get ready to feel seen, inspired, and hopeful.

Segun’s social media handle on all platforms: @liilgenius

In today’s episode of Gist with Tofu, we’re diving into a topic that touches every one of us: understanding our self-worth through the lens of God’s love. With so many pressures around us, it’s easy to feel like we don’t measure up. But what if our worth wasn’t based on achievements, looks, or the opinions of others? Join me as we explore what it means to see ourselves as God sees us fearfully and wonderfully made, loved unconditionally, and valuable beyond measure. Whether you’re struggling with insecurities or just need a reminder of who you are in Christ, this episode is for you. Tune in, and let’s walk this journey of faith and self-love together!

In this episode of Gist with Tofu, we explore the intense pressure to “blow” in Lagos’ fast-paced hustle culture. From social media flexing to real-life burnout, I dive into the emotional toll of chasing success and how to stay grounded. Tune in for tips on balancing ambition with self-care and keeping your peace while still pursuing your dreams. Don’t miss this real talk!

In this episode of *Gist with Tofu*, we dive deep into the real and often overwhelming experience of anxiety. From personal reflections to practical tips, I’ll share how anxiety shows up in our daily lives, the pressures we face, and ways to manage the stress that comes with it. Whether you’re feeling stuck, lost, or just need a reminder that you’re not alone, this episode offers a safe space to explore and understand anxiety. Tune in as we unpack the weight of life’s challenges and find hope in the midst of it all.