Gist with Tofu

The conversation explores the dynamics between friendships and romantic relationships, particularly focusing on the boundaries that should exist between friends and partners. It discusses the potential insecurities that arise when friends become too close to a partner and the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries.

In this engaging podcast episode, Tofunmi and Harriet discuss the complexities of friendships, particularly in the context of moving to a new country. They explore themes of loneliness, the challenges of making new friends, and the importance of recognizing toxic relationships. The conversation delves into the emotional dynamics of friendships, including the impact of celebrating wins and the feelings of resentment that can arise. They emphasize the need for intentionality in friendships, the balance between friendships and romantic relationships, and the significance of open communication. The episode concludes with practical advice on addressing issues in friendships and the importance of expressing love and appreciation for friends.

We finally decided to join them on the white and red app. The podcast handy really been doing well and we decided on what better way to save it than to start video podcasting.

Go check out gist with tofu on YouTube

Link below:

https://youtu.be/roO0OgKxq1A?si=Di4rn2ks_k_dEp3w

2015 to 2019 was a golden era in Nigerian music, no arguments. From Mr Eazi’s Banku vibes to Runtown’s Mad Over You, Maleek Berry’s endless jams, Nonso Amadi’s soft hits, and the rise of the alte scene with SDC, Lady Donli, Odunsi, and more… every day in that period felt like summer.

In this episode, I take you back to the songs that raised us, the soundtracks to our teenage years, and why that era will forever be goated. If you ever felt like the main character with earphones in your ears walking through Lagos traffic, this one’s for you. 🎶

I also created a special playlist of these throwback jams, link below and in my Instagram bio.

What song from that era makes you most nostalgic? Share with me let’s reminisce together.

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3OEbzPtRiA3Xfdf9EKhtlY?si=P7xmgl_ETUa3LH1LVC6bYA&pi=VfD-6zGHRFWHw

That Place in Surulere

A memory, a song, a quiet street in Surulere.

This episode is a nostalgic stroll through a place that once held laughter, music, and the soft ache of growing up. Pour a glass of wine, press play, and let The Cavemen hum in the background as we talk about lost places, who we used to be, and the cities that remember us even when we forget ourselves.

Best enjoyed on a rainy day.

Who got her pregnant? A goat? A ghost? Abi wind blew and baby appeared?

In this episode, I’m calmly unpacking society’s obsession with blaming single mothers, while the men who got them pregnant magically vanish from the conversation.

We talk about accountability, respectability politics, parental responsibility, and why this blame game is tired. If it stings, maybe it’s meant to.

In this episode, Tofu breaks down the chaos that happens when people jump into relationships before healing from past trauma. From projecting insecurities to turning partners into unpaid therapists, we get into the gists, the drama, and the necessary self-awareness. If your idea of a relationship is “I can change them,” or “they complete me,” you definitely need to listen to this one. Therapy isn’t a buzzword, it’s the bare minimum.

Have you ever paused mid-rant and asked yourself, “Wait… what if I’m actually the toxic one?”

In this episode of Gist with Tofu, i get real about accountability, exes, and the kind of growth that only comes after messy lessons.

It’s honest. It’s funny. It might sting a little. But it’s the gist you didn’t know you needed.

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In this episode, we’re keeping it real (and hilarious) about the soft life some people are born into — and the hustle many of us are still deep inside. From jumping buses in Lagos to dreaming of spontaneous trips to Marrakesh, I’m sharing personal stories, struggles, and why I’ve vowed that my children must be trust fund kids by the grace of God.

But beyond the laughs, there’s a lesson: don’t hate your life while waiting for the one you’re building. Gratitude, prayer, and hard work are powerful — and your soft life is still loading.

Tune in for real talk, hearty laughs, and a reminder that you’re right on time.

As we get older, friendships can slip through the cracks of our busy lives. In this episode of Gist with Tofu, we’re talking about those distant friends—the ones who used to be at the table but slowly faded into the background. From the simple joy of gathering around for a meal to the quiet, unspoken distance that can grow between even the closest of friends, this episode is a reflection on how we navigate adult friendships.

Through a blend of nostalgia, real talk, and a touch of poetic introspection, we explore what happens when life moves faster than our connections, and why it’s never too late to hit rewind. So, grab a seat (even if it’s just for the vibes) and join me as we revisit those friendships that shaped us, the ones we’ve lost touch with, and the ones still waiting for us to show up.