We keep memories of the offenses of others. That’s why when brought up, we flare up. It is a memory file that is a trigger point of anger. The truth is, it is hard to be locked down with past hurts and remain vulnerable in this area.
The antidote is to practice agape love. Scripture says in verse 5 of 1 Corinthians that love “keeps no record of wrongs.” This is amazing, love keeps no list of wrongs with the idea of not bringing a brother or sister in Christ to court in context. We can put up with one’s offense because we are willing to forgive. Love says, “I can put up with you because I am willing to forgive you.”
True forgiveness never denies the hurt that's been done, nor does it condone the wrongdoings, but it means you will not allow your heart to be ruled by anger, hatred, and bitterness that counting an offense eventually produces. Refusing to keep a list or record of wrongs clearly expresses that you have God’s love and experienced His total forgiveness.
Why is this important?
Keeping a list of wrongs burdens a heart with vulnerability to unnecessary evil and negative thoughts. It can be a way for the devil to set up traps to destroy lives and your relationships. Ultimately, we walk best and light when we keep no records of wrong through practicing constant forgiveness with wisdom of confrontation and not letting oneself get abused.
The Lord Jesus Christ provided the ultimate example of this type of love. On His death on the cross, He paid the price for the entire world's sins. While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Jesus kept no record of wrongs; instead, He prayed in Luke 23:34, “Father, forgive them.”
Let’s reflect for a moment:
Are you keeping list of offences or wrongdoings done to you? What difference would it make if you practice true forgiveness, so you always walk light? Since true forgiveness does not mean being a punching bag, how would you confront and adjust in dealings with a repeated offender?
May the Lord fill you with His love so you can keep no record of wrong through constant forgiveness. Amen.