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Jodi shares her journey of healing from an 18-year abusive marriage and the courage it took to rebuild her life on her own terms. Through raw conversation, she reveals how starting over multiple times taught her the power of putting herself first and recognizing her own worth independent of relationships.

• Embracing "day one, not one day" as a philosophy for starting over
• Recognizing early warning signs of controlling behavior in relationships
• How physical health problems can signal emotional trauma
• The challenge of leaving "for the kids" and why waiting rarely helps
• Healing from love bombing and manipulation patterns
• Learning to give yourself the same grace you extend to others
• The importance of asking for help from your support network
• Finding peace without needing closure from your abuser
• Trusting your gut when it tells you something isn't right

If you're struggling in a relationship or working to heal from past trauma, remember that you deserve peace and happiness. You're stronger than you think, and your worth isn't defined by anyone else.

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Today I am sharing a personal milestone: my published poetry collection titled "Love: Thoughts from Crumpled Pages"

*Dedication: to those who continue to cheer me on (in public and in private). To those who broke my heart into pieces. To me. With my deepest appreciation, thank you. 

*This collection of poems, thoughts, and ramblings has been sown together from notes, journals, crumpled pieces of paper, and 3am dreams. I am still working on loving all of me. 

1. The Shutdown - "You never realize your light went out, until you look back and all you see is darkness." Me

2. Lies - "Half a truth is often a great lie." Benjamin Franklin

3. Lost - "Now you're lost, lost in the heat of it all." Frank Ocean

4. Death of Love - "Don't break your own heart trying to fill someone else's. " Bianca Sparacino 

5. Faith - "So we live by faith and not sight." 2 Corinthians 5:7

6. Space - "The right one does not stand in your way. They make peace for you to step forward." Rupi Kaur

7. Sun and Moon - "You never know when a moment and a few sincere words, can have an impact on a life." Zig Ziglar 

8. Attached - "It takes two flints to make a fire." Louisa May Alcott

9. Maybe for Real - "Maybe the time, like every time, it is about me." Me

10. Was it Love? - "Love is when you meet someone who tells you something new about yourself." Andre Breton

11. At First - "You had me at hello." Jerry Maguire

12. Quiet Love - "And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." Collossians 3:14

13. I Want - "Find someone you can heal with." Young Pueblo

14. To Be Honest - "You have dug your soul out of dark, you have fought to be here, do not go back to what buried you." Bianca Sparacino

15. Turn Around - "Sometimes we go back and repeat an old mistake just so we can remember why we moved forward." Young Pueblo 

16. One Foot - "Lovers are Lunatics" - Latin saying 

17. Maybe - "Maybe this time, for the first time. Love won't hurry away. Maybe this time. Maybe this time, I'll win." - Maybe This Time 

18. Peace - "You cannot love someone into loving you if they do not." Bianca Sparacino 

19. It Starts - "Taking a moment to figure out how you really feel instead of letting old patterns decide for you is one of the most authentic things you can do." Young Pueblo 

20. She Is - "You always find it when you stop looking." - Me

21. 44 Laps 

Thank you for lending me your ears while I pour out a very vulnerable side of me. 

Stay cute, stay kind and keep dancing, even when everyone is watching.

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Justin shares his powerful journey of being adopted from Tijuana, Mexico to two white lesbian parents in rural Wisconsin and how he navigated identity, loss, and finding his authentic self. From dealing with the passing of his beloved grandparents to meeting his birth mother in a full-circle moment, his story reveals how breaking free from limiting environments leads to personal healing.

• Growing up as a Mexican adoptee in a conservative white community created a constant feeling of being unsafe outside his home
• Losing his grandparents during college sent him down a dark path before he found healthier ways to process grief
• College provided his first opportunity to remove the "mask" he'd worn and connect with diverse people who accepted him fully
• Meeting his birth mother at 21 in the same hotel where he was adopted created a profound healing experience
• Reconnecting with childhood joys like soccer helped him honor his grandparents' memory rather than staying stuck in grief
• Learning to stop chasing love and instead attract authentic relationships by staying true to himself
• Finding healing through embracing "safe discomfort" and honoring his inner child's happiness

If you're struggling with loss or identity, remember that who you were is different from who you are, which is different from who you will be. Stay cute, stay loud and keep dancing, even when everyone's watching.

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Jamie shares her healing journey from anxiety, stress, guilt, and shame, revealing how therapy helped her recognize these feelings stemmed from childhood patterns rather than personal failings.

• Growing up in a household with alcoholism where Jamie took on the caretaker role
• Learning to separate her emotions from others' through EMDR therapy
• Understanding that her value isn't tied to fixing others or making them happy
• Creating space in relationships by asking "do you want advice or just listening?"
• Facing the fear of losing relationships when stepping back from the fixer role
• Using tools like writing thoughts out and sharing vulnerably with trusted people
• Recognizing healing as an ongoing process of identifying patterns and choosing new responses

Stay cute, stay loud, maybe check out therapy, and dance even when everyone is watching.

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Beth shares her decade-long healing journey from divorce, revealing how losing her marriage helped her discover she'd never truly found herself. We explore the difference between healthy independence and over-independence, why yellow flags deserve as much attention as red ones, and how building a metaphorical toolbox helps navigate future challenges.

• Moving from blame to accountability as the first step in healing
• Losing independence before marriage and transferring dependency from twin sister to spouse 
• Starting small with solo activities to rebuild confidence and self-reliance
• Learning to wave yellow flags instead of pocketing them in relationships
• Standing up for your worth through difficult conversations
• Building an emotional toolbox for handling triggers and challenges
• Finding balance between independence and willingness to share life with someone
• Using daily gratitude journaling to end each day on a positive note

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We explore what makes healthy friendships, how they evolve over time, and why these connections are essential to our wellbeing. 

• Healthy friendships include people who cheer for you, show up when you're vulnerable, and lovingly call you out when needed
• True friends welcome you back after periods of absence without judgment
• Outgrowing friendships often happens naturally through distance rather than confrontation
• Our approach to friendship is heavily influenced by what we observed in our parents
• Friendship represents one of the most unconditional forms of love in our lives
• Deep friendships allow us to be seen and accepted through different life phases
• The isolation from missing friendship connections can significantly impact mental health
• Supporting friends should come naturally without having to be explicitly asked
• Being honest about the state of your friendships and how you show up as a friend is crucial

Let's be honest about our friends, check in with ourselves about how we show up as friends, and remember to be loud and dance even when everyone is watching.

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Season 5 kicks off with my friend Toya from Universal Teas! In our mini series,  Backyard Conversations, we will dig into healing, friendships, and shining bright. Sit back and join us for episode 1 - Healing isn't Happiness. 

Healing isn't happiness, and happiness isn't healing. In this candid conversation with Toya from Universal Tees, we explore what healing really looks like, when it happens, and what we learn through the process.

• Healing looks different for everyone—sometimes it requires isolation, sometimes community
• Breaking out of cultural "bubbles" can force us to confront aspects of ourselves we didn't know needed healing
• Shame is an "inside job" that comes from within, not something others can put on us
• Being "healed" means having awareness and tools, not the absence of negative emotions
• Self-trust is essential to healing—if you don't trust yourself, you'll never truly trust others
• Essential tools for healing include therapy, movement, journaling, meditation, music, and honest self-reflection
• Consistency with your healing tools builds self-trust and accelerates the healing process
• Healing requires ownership of both who you were and who you're becoming

Join us next week as we talk about our circles: who's supporting us, who's holding us back, and knowing when to let go.

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In this final episode of our journaling series, we explore how healing comes in circles and manifests when familiar wounds are triggered but we respond differently. Mercury retrograde creates a perfect opportunity to slow down and reflect on our personal growth since April, measuring healing not by perfect avoidance of pain but by our newfound tools to navigate it without drowning.

• Started journaling series in April with "finding yourself again" as our foundation
• Explored topics of worth, shame, settling, and why we lie to ourselves and others
• Discussed abandonment issues and how they trigger feelings of being unworthy, small, and ugly
• Healing happens when same wounds get activated but we have new ways to respond
• People who hurt us most are usually those who don't know their own worth
• Healing requires recognizing your value even when others don't reflect it back to you
• Small consistent actions like daily journaling or exercise compound into significant change
• Season 5 will focus on stories of healing beyond just the host's experiences

Send your healing stories to @GoAskSawyer on Instagram or through the podcast text line. Please stay cute, stay loud, keep dancing, even when everyone is watching.

Season 4 Episodes: 

April 13 - Finding yourself again 

April 20 - Finding your worth - choosing you first

April 27 - Shame - What is our authentic self

May 4 - Setting - Why do we do it and how do our unhealed versions of ourself keep us settling 

May 18th - Break time! Shake off routine - what did you try that was new? 

May 25 - Lying series begins

June 1 - Part 1: Lie to ourselves - self deception 

June 8 - Part 2: The masks we wear and how we harm ourselves 

June 15 - Having faith, cutting cords, and zero fucsk - how have any of these impacted you? Didn’t listen, go do that. 

June 22 - Unlocking your personal legend - what is it you were meant to do and how are YOU holding yourself back. I feel like I am supposed to be using my voice more and I know this because whenever I go to do it, I get really nervous and second guess everything I want to say. I feel like that is the sabbatoge part of me coming out to keep it hidden. The parts of us that are supposed to be used and seen, we often feel the most uncomfortable with. (Not everyone, but most.)

July 6 - Part 1: Emotional Honesty in relationships - what being the strong one (lying) can actually cost us. 

July 13 - Part 2: The silent war in relationships - what is left unsaid speaks volumes.

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What we don't say in relationships is still speaking. Silence, people-pleasing, and passive-aggressive behavior become forms of dishonesty that create voids in our relationships instead of keeping the peace.

• Avoiding hard conversations doesn't keep the peace but creates a quiet war and builds resentment
• The longer we swallow small frustrations, the harder it becomes to address issues before they explode
• When we think we're "fine" but feel disconnected, our bodies often signal the truth through stomach tightness or that gut feeling
• Relationships require brave honesty - having faith that truth, even uncomfortable truth, ultimately serves connection
• Effective communication tools include expressing feelings directly instead of shutting down
• Taking space when needed ("I need 24 hours") can prevent unnecessary escalation
• How others respond to our truths reflects their character, not our worth
• The only way to the other side is through - silence is never neutral, it either protects connection or erodes it
• You don't have to be loud to be heard - the louder you get, the less people will hear you

This week, pay attention to where you decide to be quiet in your relationships. Let's keep practicing brave honesty with ourselves and with others.

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