Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert

What happens to intimacy after birth when everyone is exhausted, touched out, overwhelmed, and trying to survive on broken sleep and cold coffee?

In this episode, I’m joined by postpartum doula and educator Danielle Bruner for a conversation that every married couple needs to hear before the baby arrives — not after the damage is already done.

We talk about why so many couples feel disconnected during this season, and how emotional safety and practical support directly impact intimacy inside a marriage. Danielle shares what moms actually need after birth, why “bouncing back” culture is failing women, and how partners can become a source of stability instead of resentment.

We also unpack:

• why postpartum recovery is about more than physical healing

• the mental load mothers carry that often goes unseen

• how non-sexual intimacy lays the foundation for sexual intimacy later

• what dads and partners often misunderstand about postpartum

• how couples can stay connected without pressure or performance

If you’ve ever wondered why sex can feel complicated after kids, this episode gets to the root of it with honesty, compassion, and practical wisdom.

Because spoiler: healthy intimacy doesn’t grow in exhaustion, overwhelm, and isolation.

It grows where people feel cared for, safe, supported, and seen.

For easy, non-sexual ways of connecting, check out my Small Moments of Connection Guide

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Resources referenced in this episode:

What am I Thinking? Having a Baby After Postpartum Depression by Karen Kleiman, MSW
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A Dude’s Guide to Baby Size: What to Expect and How to Prep for Dads-to-Be by Taylor Calmus

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Most women were never actually taught how their bodies work—we were just told to deal with them.

Push through the exhaustion. Ignore the mood swings. Feel confused when your desire changes. And maybe blame yourself when your body doesn’t respond the same way every day.

But what if nothing is wrong with you?

In this episode, I’m joined by traditional midwife Lauren Hall to break down the four phases of a woman’s cycle—and how they mirror the seasons: winter, spring, summer, and fall.

We talk about what’s actually happening in your body during each phase, how your energy and emotions shift, what to lean into, what to avoid, and how understanding your rhythm can completely change the way you experience your body.

And yes—we go there. We talk about how your cycle impacts your desire, your connection, and your marriage… because you’re not meant to feel the same every day.

If you’ve ever felt inconsistent, disconnected, or frustrated with your body, this episode is going to make things make sense in a whole new way.

You’re not broken. You’re cyclical.

And once you understand that? Everything changes.

Lauren is a traditional midwife, trained through an apprenticeship model, Indie Birth Midwifery School and a great deal of self-directed learning. She serves her local community in Central Arkansas, as well as women around the country as a midwife and holds hopes and dreams of international travel for missionary midwifery. She is a mother to 8 children, including a set of twins, and has experienced a great variety of birth stories with them. She is the founder Rooted in Eden, cofaciliator of Holy Wild Birth Podcast and Hearthmother Journey, and the primary facilitator of Hearthmother Midwifery Unschool.

To connect with Lauren:
Rooted In Eden Website

Hearthmother Ministries Website

Living as Cyclical Beings Podcast Episode

Holy Wild Birth YouTube

Resources Referenced in This Episode:
31 Days of Intimacy

The Fifth Vital Sign: Master Your Cycles & Optimize Your Fertility by Lisa Hendrickson-Jack

Holy Wild Birth Podcast: Living as Cyclical Beings

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If purity culture was supposed to lead to healthy, fulfilling sex in marriage… why are so many couples still struggling?

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to unpack the real impact of purity culture—where it came from, how it spread far beyond the Church, and why so many of us are still carrying its messages into our marriages today.

We talk about:
• How purity culture moved from evangelical spaces into mainstream culture
• The ways it shaped both women and men (yes, men too)
• Why so many people still feel shame around sex—even after marriage
• And the uncomfortable but necessary truth: Jesus was never at the center of purity culture

If you’ve ever felt like sex was something to avoid, control, or feel guilty about—even with your spouse—this conversation is going to challenge what you were taught and open the door to something healthier.

Because sex was never meant to be driven by fear and shame.

And healing is possible.

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Resources referenced in this episode:
Dr. Tina's podcast with Dr. Cami Hurst

Sex, God, & The Conservative Church
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Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-Free, Confident Kids, and Heal Your Shame Too!
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So… let’s talk about toys.

For a lot of Christian couples, this conversation comes with immediate tension:
Is this okay? Is this sinful? Are we crossing a line?

In this episode, I break it all the way down—without shame, fear tactics, or vague “just pray about it” answers.

We’re diving into:

• What the Bible actually says (and doesn’t say) about bringing outside tools into your intimate life

• Why drawing a hard line at toys—but not things like pillows or position aids—might not be as consistent as we think

• How resistance to toys can unintentionally exclude or shame people with physical limitations (yes, we’re talking about ableism)

• The different categories of toys and what purpose they actually serve

• And how to approach this conversation with your spouse in a way that builds trust, not pressure

If you’ve ever wondered whether curiosity in the bedroom is something to fear—or something to explore with wisdom and connection—this episode is for you.

Because healthy, connected marriages aren’t built on rules rooted in discomfort…
they’re built on intimacy, communication, and mutual enjoyment.

Go Have Good Sex. 💜

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You think she doesn’t want sex.

But what if that’s not actually the problem?

In this episode, we’re unpacking what I really mean when I say, “Healthy women, in safe marriages, don’t turn down good sex.” Because “healthy” is doing a lot more work in that sentence than most people realize.

We’re talking about the real, often ignored factors that impact desire—mental health, trauma (including purity culture), hormones, physical health, medications, nutrition, and even where she is in her cycle.

If desire feels inconsistent, confusing, or completely gone, this episode will help you understand why.

Because low libido is often not the root issue—it’s a signal.

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If you would like to learn more about reconnecting to your body, please join my Patreon. I have a whole series on different ways to reconnect - because a woman well-connected to her own body has better sex!

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A lot of men think their marriage is safe because they’re a “good guy.”

They don’t cheat. They don’t yell. They don’t hit her.

So why doesn’t she want sex?

In this episode, we’re breaking down what a safe marriage actually means—and why the absence of harm is not the same thing as the presence of safety.

Because if a woman doesn’t feel emotionally, relationally, and sexually safe, her desire isn’t going to show up… no matter how “good” her husband is.

We’ll talk about:

• Why safety directly impacts desire

• Signs a marriage might not feel as safe as it looks

• And how to start creating an environment where intimacy can actually thrive

If you’ve ever wondered why the spark feels gone—or why sex feels like a struggle—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.

Because you don’t fix desire by forcing it.

You build a marriage where desire feels safe to exist.

And as always… go have good sex.

Resources referenced in this episode:

Marital Coercion ft Nat LaJune

31 Days of Intimacy

Small Moments of Connection

Sex Drive Divide Masterclass

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If you don’t talk to your kids about sex… someone else will.

And chances are, they’re not going to do it with your values.

In this episode, I’m joined by Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, to talk about how to raise sexually healthy kids without shame, fear, or awkward one-time “talks" - all from a Biblical world view, but without the shame and guilt of purity culture.

We’re covering the real-life situations parents are facing right now—like how to talk about porn, what to do if your child is exposed before you’re ready, how to approach masturbation and sexting, and how to set boundaries around phones and privacy.

We also tackle the questions so many Christian parents are asking but don’t know where to start:

• Does talking about sex make kids more curious?

• What if I didn’t start these conversations early?

• How do I talk about porn, sextortion, and more?

This episode will help you move from avoidance and anxiety to confidence and clarity—so you can guide your kids toward a healthy, shame-free understanding of sex.

Resources referenced in this episode:

Get lifetime access to the Sex Ed Reclaimed curriculum here

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Raising Sexually Healthy Kids ft Dr. Ashley Hudson

Talking to Your Kids About Sex ft Dr. Ashley Hudson

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What if the things you were taught about sex in church… are the very things making it harder to enjoy it in your marriage?

In Part 2 of this series, we’re tackling three more damaging myths that quietly shape expectations, fuel shame, and leave couples feeling disconnected:

• That sex is only for procreation

• That having more sex will magically fix your marriage

• That struggling with sex means something is fundamentally broken

These beliefs sound spiritual on the surface—but in real marriages, they often lead to pressure, disappointment, and silence.

In this episode, we’re unpacking what Scripture actually supports, what healthy intimacy really looks like, and why good sex is built on more than just frequency.

Because sex was never meant to be a duty, a quick fix, or a measuring stick for your marriage.

It was meant to be a celebration of the intimacy you’ve already built.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing in this area—or just confused about what’s “normal”—this conversation is going to bring clarity, freedom, and a whole lot of truth.

Things referenced in this episode:

31 Days of Intimacy

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Trying for a baby can put a spotlight on every part of your marriage—especially your sex life.

What once felt spontaneous, playful, and connecting can quickly become scheduled, stressful, and painfully outcome-focused. And when month after month doesn’t go the way you hoped, sex can start to feel more like pressure than pleasure.

In this episode, Kimberly Koll, LPC/LMHC discusses the realities of intimacy and infertility.

We cover:

• How infertility changes the emotional and physical experience of sex

• Why desire often drops (for both spouses) during this season

• The grief, pressure, and performance anxiety couples don’t talk about

• How to reconnect with your spouse when sex starts to feel clinical

If you’ve ever felt like your sex life disappeared into ovulation tracking, doctor’s appointments, and disappointment… you are not alone.

There is a way to stay connected—even here.

Connect with Kimberly:
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What if some of your core beliefs about sex in Christian marriage simply aren't true?
For YEARS evangelical culture has repeated the same messages about men, women, and desire: Men are the only visually stimulated creatures. Men "need" sex constantly. And women are supposed to just tolerate it.

But when you look at scientific research, Scripture, and real life, those myths start to fall apart.

In this episode I'm breaking down 3 of the most common myths and why they are causing harm.

You’ll learn:

• Why the “men are more visual” narrative isn’t supported by research

• Whether God actually created men to need sex every 3 days

• Why the Bible paints a very different picture of women’s sexual desire

Because good theology shouldn't lead to bad sex.

Resources referenced in this episode:

Neural substrates of sexual arousal are not sex dependent by Ekaterina Mitricheva, Rui Kimura, Nikos K. Logothetis, & Hamid R. Noori

To learn more about the 1 Samuel 21 passage

Intimate Conversations Journal

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