Go With Your Gut

How does fear affect you? Do you turn away and numb it somehow? Or do you think "challenge accepted" and go right towards it?

Fear comes at us in lots of different ways: fear of failure, imposter syndrome, the "what if" game, and so many more. Marianne and I talked a lot about what it looks like for us to challenge that and work through it. Turning that nervous energy that comes from fear and using it as adrenaline to take that action.

Ever find yourself tired and feeling in a rut or stuck? Ready for something new but don't know where to go? Conflicted. I've been there. I've got a couple of ideas to help you get some clarity and figure out what next steps to take or what new things to do in order to gain some forward momentum.

Being stuck in that spot can be very lonely even if your surrounded by people.

In a rut? Too comfortable? Not sure why you love your job/what you do but your not happy? Have that "restless" feeling that you can't get rid of? Maybe you do feel stressed because you have grown as much as you can where you are.

These are my signs that its time for a change. Change is hard, uncomfortable, and if your a people pleaser it means you don't want to disappoint anyone by moving on.

When I have that feeling but I'm not sure what the bigger picture or the road to the goal looks like, I have a couple things I've learned to do.

Watch to find out what i do and how you might be able to apply to where you are.

Does opposition frustrate you? It did me. My reaction was to figure out how to get out of the opposition. What if you (and me) shifted that perspective. We love to easy times because its just that, easy. There will always be those hard times, and opposition. Jobs, relationships, medical issues, finances, etc. Instead of looking for the way out, what if we looked at opposition as a good thing.

The hard times push us, and make us grow. Look at opposition as something that will make you stretch, expand your comfort zone (if it doesn't shove you out) and spring you into a new level of success. Does it hurt while in it, yes. Growth is painful. Like fear, if you work through the opposition instead of try to get out of it, it will spring you forward.

Whats your reaction to confrontation? Avoid at all costs. Avoid until no longer able to? Or are you someone who welcomes confrontation if it means getting things resolved?

I discuss my thoughts and how my ways of navigating confrontation have evolved over the years. Watch for some of my tips on how to achieve long term resolution with some short term discomfort and how to approach confrontation.

Anger is tricky. Comes on fast, or sometimes takes a while to build up. Not to mention it makes itself known no matter where you are. Some of us like to sit in it, others push it away because they always stay positive. But is either one good?

No matter what, anger is something we all feel from time to time. Its also something we cause from time to time. The important thing, is learning how to manage it whether you feel it or cause it.

Even if you claim to always find the bright side, that doesn't mean you can't be angry or frustrated. In fact, in my experience if I claim to always be positive, I still have that anger on the back burner that I didn't deal with and it starts to grow. If instead I deal with the anger, it passes much faster and I can move on.

On the flip side, if we make someone angry, we have to learn to let them deal with it how they prefer. Everyone deals with it different and some take longer than others. If your a people pleaser, you most likely want nothing more than to hear you are forgiven. And quickly. Thats not always how it works.

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What do you do when things feel off? I don't mean being sick, I mean those time when you can't quite put a label on it but you know something isn't right. What do you do? I've had some clear times in the past years where I had to #gowithmygut and listen to what my intuition was telling me.

What action do you take when you feel this way? Do you push the feeling down and keep going? Do you numb it? Or do you buckle down and figure it out? I talk about my experience with all this on the #gowithyourgut podcast

I got to chat with Joann about so many different things. How she got started in a career and how the road she took looked very different from what she pictured. That road to the unkown can be terrifying, but can also lead to great results. Along that road sometimes we discover gifts (aka purpose) that we may brush off.

If we can learn to fight off the fear of the unkown and go with that gut instinct of where we're supposed to be, its very rewarding. This means sometimes tuning out those outside voices that tell us we're nuts, we're going to make it, we can't do it, we're not good enough, we don't have the right experience. Sometimes this also come from the inside. If we can learn to tune into that gut and go against the normal grain, we can make big things happen.

Tune in to hear more!

If your gut was trying to talk to you, would you know how to listen? Charli and I chatted about it all. Getting to know yourself and your body. How you feel things like stress and fear. Being able to turn the energy that comes with fear into adrenaline to move through it and still take the action.

What does it look like to be scared and still figure out how to move forward. Charli has been a business owner for years and describes how she is still afraid to do things, yet doesn't let that stop her. Check it out for her tips.

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So often people look outside themselves for belief that they can do something. Big or small. I’ll take you through the things I did to develop that within myself.