Go With Your Gut

We all want abundance, but it goes much deeper than money or finances. If dig a couple layers down, what do we spend money on to obtain abundance?

Buy yourself a weekend away. Experiences with friends or family. Maybe you get yourself the equipment to do things you love. Lots of times, we can find ways to get these things without the finances. So what does abundance look like in your life? Time with family, the ability to create things. The ability to create things that serve others?

We have a tendency to want to label things to organize them. Not just on drawers or cabinets, but ourselves, relationships, etc.

What labels have been put on you that need to come off? Maybe someone called you lazy, stupid, impatient, or incapable and its not true but it took root. It make take peeling some layers as its been stuck for a while, but I'd bet with some persistence, some of those can come off. Maybe you were called something and you choose to take it as a positive regardless of how it was meant, because why not?!

Have you put labels on yourself that need to come off?

We also tend to need to put labels on processes, relationships and other things because we need to decide what we think about them, how we feel about them, and where we want to file them.

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Its the most wonderful time of the year. But what if your not a huge fan? Whatever your reason is for feeling the need to hunker down instead of burst with cheer, your not alone.

This season is also a time for reflection on where you want to go next year and what you want to accomplish. What better way to escape from festivities than to dream a bit. Instead of setting a new years resolution, come up with an end of year goal, end of next year that is.

First: Figure out where YOU want to be at this time next year. Now what are a few things, maybe one per quarter that you could accomplish? Now what small things can you plug into your schedule and calendar to make those happen?

Second: Look at all the things you have going right now. Even if they are good, what needs to be taken off your plate. Meetings, committee's, memberships, etc. Some of those things may just not serve where you want to go anymore.

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"I can't help it, its inherited." Do you ever find yourself using this as an excuse for a behavior your not real proud of? There are lots of things in life that could be inherited but are "dormant" in us. We can do things to be proactive and make sure it stays there. Now, does it always work? No.

I'm talking about things like criticism, negativity, perfectionism. If multiple people, even generations of your family all do one of these things or something like it, do you accept the status quo? If it "runs in your family" does it need to keep running in your family? Or can it stop and run into you?

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Growth and Change. Things that happen over and over through life. Throw in motherhood, and the world seems to flip upside down. Not necessarily good or bad, but it does flip. Routines change, activities change, friends change. We as moms know we'll change, but for some its more drastic than others. What do you do when pieces of your identity change and you don't know what they look like but you can feel it?

Alison Avayu and I talked about what that looked like for us. We talked about the struggles and mom guilt that comes with not being able to do everything for your kids and being ok, and needing to know who you are as an individual outside of motherhood.

Its scary to need a change but not know where to go. That helplessness.

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New perspective on anxiety. Did you know freezing and overcompensating are both ways that we all numb anxiety? I got to chat with LMFT Rachael DeKoning who has a therapy company and specializes in anxiety. We talked about some things I hadn't considered were anxiety and she added a couple metaphors to help us understand how we can view how anxiety affects us and how we can cope and manage.

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What is it? Where does it come from? Do I have it? How do I deal with it?

All good questions. I think anxiety is very misunderstood, both by people who have it and those who don't.

Living with anxiety and living with someone who has anxiety are both hard. Learning how to manage and support is so important and quite crucial to those relationships because it takes both people. The person who struggles to know what they need and the other to know how to support and what they need.

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Imposter Syndrome affects the majority of people in some way. We chalk it up to part of our personality that we don't like as much. It could come off as a weakness. Maybe it is something that was accidentally instilled in us growing up.

I talk about some different types of imposter syndrome that you may not be aware of, some you may relate to. Maybe I can shift your perspective and help you listen to your gut in order to move past imposter syndrome.

I use the word can't a lot and later conclude that I can, I just don't want to. Why? Because i'm tired, or its hard and I don't want to try, or because i want to finish what i'm doing.

Very rarely do I find something that can't happen. The thing we need to do might be difficult or take a long time to figure out, but most times can be done.

Its a change in mindset to replace can't with won't. Because then the decision falls upon us. Won't is not a bad thing, it just makes us take ownership. We won't do something because we need to stay focused on the task at hand. We won't do something because we know it will be a bad experience or dangerous.

How would your mindset change if you started saying won't instead of can't? "I can, but won't", "I can, but not right now."

Most times we CAN, but WON'T

Pain. Its not fun, but its a neccesary part of life. It means change, it means difficulty, it means growth.

The hard part is that we don't like feeling that pain. Its uncomfortable and it never comes at a good time. Have you noticed that when you go through those hard seasons and get some grit, your come out better? It's easy to look back and see how things happened for you instead of to you.

This episode, I talk about looking for that opportunity in the difficulty. That's right, while your in it. What do you need to learn from this? Don't get bitter in that pain, let it make you better. Have that solid belief in yourself that you'll figure out what you need to learn if you trust and believe that you are in a hard season that is pushing you into a new level.