Pastor Ray Bentley says. So many think in the give and take of love, it's better to take rather than be taken. That's the world's idea of love. It's very much a 5050. What are you going to do for me? What have you done for me lately? And that's why it falls apart so many times. There's no commitment. There's nothing there. That's not what the Bible says. Love is. Love is saying what is important to you is important to me.