Hey gang!

We are in the processes of editing a backlog of episodes we have recorded, but in the meantime we wanted to publish this special announcement. Spoiler alert, this episode goes heavy on the jiu jitsu and light on the fatherhood, but it's for good reason, we promise!

Thank you all for rocking with us last year - much more to come.

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In this episode we unpack how our expectations of being parents and jiu jitsu players compared to our actual experiences. We also talk about how these expectations can cause unwarranted stress and anxiety, and ultimately how we can focus a little more on our experiences than our imagination.

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In this episode we unpack the idea of the “white belt mentality” and how we can apply it to fatherhood. The feeling of eagerness and seeing everything as an opportunity to grow and get better. The absence of ego and presence of excitement - everything that we felt when we first started out on our journey.

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It’s belt promotion season. What does that mean to you, and how can the concept of belt promotions in Jiu Jitsu apply to parenthood? In this episode we get into it, plus Blake turns 40 and Uday travels to Vegas to teach a seminar.

We also answer some questions about how jiu jitsu practitioners navigate their own feelings and expectations around getting (or not getting) their next belt.

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Hope you enjoy!

In this episode we dig into community - it takes a village to raise a child and you cannot do jiu jitsu without a partner. Topics covered include: struggling with the mental and emotional challenges with job hunting, the importance of community as we get older and how to cultivate it, and a little bit of Masters World Championships.

As always thank you for listening. Questions, comments, concerns? Drop us a line: [email protected]

Protect your neck!

In this episode we Uday and Blake get into competition mindset. What it means to be a competitor vs a participant - in jiu jitsu, fatherhood and life. Blake talks about training on vacation and Uday explains what it takes to get a team ready to take on a tournament.

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This is a long one, we're sorry and you're welcome. This week we get into some of the challenges going on in our personal lives as well as some challenges in raising kids and pushing ourselves on the mats.

We also cover (at length) how we both found Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and how it came to be such an important part of our lives.

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This week Uday and Blake talk about balancing (and sometimes failing at balancing) the many roles we inhabit: dads, husbands, providers, competitors and coaches.

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Show Notes:

TWIF (2:00): Uday talks Disneyland and traveling with the kids, Blake talks about the cognitive leaps in his toddler after 6 months.

QOTW (21:23): How do you deal with the feeling of not being ready?

TWIT (33:35): Uday talks about managing burnout, Blake talks about ramping up for a comp

This week in grappling and in fatherhood is all about checking our egos. 
From getting tapped by lower belts to realizing we don’t have this gentle parenting thing totally figured out, this week was full of lessons in humility.

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Welcome to the Grappling with Fatherhood podcast. This is our first episode so thanks in advance for rolling with us (see what I did there?) as we work out the kinks.

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In this episode we cover:

3:10 - This week in fatherhood Uday got an unexpected call from a teacher at school and had to handle some tricky topics with his kid. Blake talks about struggling with managing screen time and how to be less reactionary.

15:45 - This week in training: Uday talks about the terrible feeling of accidentally injuring your training partner and we both talk about how to scale your strength and intensity for different training partners.

39:00 Snacks and pop culture

54:00 Lessons from the week - being less reactive and more thoughtful.