Grateful Living

The other day I was talking to a friend and we were talking about her mental health. And she admitted a lot of his mental health not being great came from her own self. She was her biggest critic and he was hard on himself – she didn’t acknowledge the good she was doing, she didn’t acknowledge his good qualities as a human being, and he mostly focused on the negatives, his anxiety and stress.

She asked me, I know you preach self-love being the #1 priority, but how do I implement being better at self-love?

In this vlog, I answer that question with my pieces of advice and strategies to implement more self-love.

Grateful Living Info:

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Leslie Weirich is a Suicide Prevention Specialist for the Oaklawn Community Mental Health Center and a keynote speaker who speaks about hope and resiliency wrapped around suicide prevention and mental health awareness. Leslie’s son, Austin, unfortunately died by suicide on September 10, 2016 during his junior year at Wabash College.

She realizes that suicide is stigmatized and her hope is that by sharing Austin's story she will get people talking and working towards a common goal of ending young adult suicide.

In this interview, we talk about:

-- Austin's life and mental health journey

- Topics related to suicide - the toxicitiy of perfection culture, people having trouble asking for help, unhealthy/toxic relationships and what Leslie's advice is on these topics in looking back at Austin's journey

- Advice to a parent finding out their child died by suicide today

- Advice to a parent in year 1 or 2 of grieving their child's suicide

Leslie's Socials:

Leslie's Website: https://leslieshope.org/

Leslie's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/?trk=seo-authwall-base_signin-form_submit

Leslie's Email: [email protected]

Grateful Living Info:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bo0LHtRJJNJBUYIceg27w

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Hn4ttttmbWfVqAhWh4Jhi

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503185956

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aroy81547/?hl=en

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gratefulliving4

Medium: https://gratefulliving4.medium.com/

Approximate Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro

1:23 Background on her son Austin Weirich

7:16 Leslie leaving her job to become a suicide prevention specialist

10:03 Sources of Strength Program

12:18 Importance of mentor

15:00 Can you speak about Austin’s mental health journey?

23:46 Did Austin have trouble asking for help?

31:32 What would your recommendation be for people in unhealthy relationships?

36:30 Did Austin verbally talk about suicide prior to his death?

43:03 Any advice you would give to the parent finding out their child died by suicide today?

56:08 Advice for parent in year 0,1 or 2 or grief?

1:08:41 How have you handled your daughter’s grief process?

1:13:10 sources of strengths

1:23:23 Austin positive memory

The other day I was catching up with a friend and she said: I've been casually dating someone for 3 months. We've never put any labels like exclusivity on anything up to this point but now, I'm getting to the point where I'm developing an emotional connection.

I asked him if he would want to more seriously date. He says he's been having a great time with me but is not ready to seriously date. He says he's still not over his ex. They dated for a couple years so I get that it still weighs on him. For context, it's been 6 months since they broke up.

He's openly told me - do whatever you need to do. Cut me off if you need to or if you want to continue to casually see other, we can as well.

He says he is trying to figure things out, and should things get better mentally, he'd be down to try and be in a serious relationship. He's just open about not being sure if that'll actually happen anytime soon.

I'm not sure what to do. How should I handle this?

In this vlog, I answer that question.

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Grateful Living Info:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bo0LHtRJJNJBUYIceg27w

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Hn4ttttmbWfVqAhWh4Jhi

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503185956

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aroy81547/?hl=en

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gratefulliving4

Medium: https://gratefulliving4.medium.com/

David Allen is most well-known for being the international best-selling author of “Getting Things Done: the Art of Stress-Free Productivity”, a book that has sold over 1.6 million copies and has been translated in over 28+ countries. David is also the creator of the GTD Methodology. For the last 35 years, he’s consulted, trained and coached corporate managers and CEOs at some of the most prestigious corporations in the U.S. and around the world.

In this interview, we talk about:

- David’s journey as a consultant in the leadership development space

- David’s writing journey to writing the international best-seller, Getting Things Done

- Strategies for how people can improve their productivity and feel less overwhelmed by the tasks in their life

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David's Socials:

Website: https://gettingthingsdone.com/

David’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/gtdguy?lang=en

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Grateful Living Info:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bo0LHtRJJNJBUYIceg27w

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Hn4ttttmbWfVqAhWh4Jhi

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503185956

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aroy81547/?hl=en

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gratefulliving4

Medium: https://gratefulliving4.medium.com/

Approximate Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro

0:56 David’s childhood

2:16 How was losing your father at 9?

2:51 How was being an exchange student in high school?

4:47 What was your mindset in college?

7:30 You got married decently young. Do you have advice on relationships?

8:20 Can you talk about your Cal Berkeley days?

9:47 What led to your big mindset change?

13:14 Any advice on finding your authentic self?

15:11 You were institutionalized at some point, can you talk about that time period?

16:03 Was it hard leaving your Ph.D. program?

17:22 You had 35 jobs before 35, did you feel self-conscious about that and not being more stable?

20:00 What was it like forming a mentor relationship with John Rodgers?

21:52 Any advice on getting into leadership development space?

22:42 What was the first seminar like as a consultant?

25:42 Any advice on advising companies especially ones you've never worked at?

27:15 Meeting your current wife

29:11 Did your life philosophies affect your personal relationships?

30:36 What was it like being an entrepreneur?

32:35 Any advice on building seminar business?

34:50 Any advice on setting prices as a consultant?

36:15 Any advice on working with a significant other?

36:48 When did you hire your first employee?

37:30 How do you look at people copying you?

38:46 Process for writing your book “Getting Things Done”

40:40 What are the major lessons from the book?

41:38 Did you ever find yourself working too hard?

42:44 Were you managing employees when your company got to 32 employees?

44:47 Experiential learning vs. empirical research?

46:13 What’s wrong with writing “mom” on your to do list?

48:15 What do you think CEOs and leaders most often use from GTD?

49:32 If someone feels overcommitted, can they use something from GTD?

51:10 Can you talk about the "purpose" of actions?

53:36 Any advice for people struggling with finding their purpose?

55:03 First action people can implement from GTD

56:08 Any advice for anyone entering speaking business?

The other day a friend of mine talked to me about how she’s in a relationship with someone who doesn’t like sharing his relationships online because he’s friends with his family on his social media accounts and doesn’t want them to talk/know about his personal life.

In modern times, young people put a lot of stake into social media and so it can be difficult dating someone like that.

She asked me, how should I handle this situation as someone who does post to social media a lot? Is there a way to avoid “red flags” from this situation?

Grateful Living Info:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bo0LHtRJJNJBUYIceg27w

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Hn4ttttmbWfVqAhWh4Jhi

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503185956

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aroy81547/?hl=en

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gratefulliving4

Medium: https://gratefulliving4.medium.com/

Chris Herren is a former NBA basketball player, a voice on the topic of substance use prevention and a wellness advocate.

Chris was himself addicted to alcohol and heroin for much of his basketball career, but through many steps, Chris has been sober since August 1, 2008.

Since 2009, Chris has spoken to over one million students, athletes and community members. He has shown us that even the best can falter, and even the most desperate can rise. Chris has founded three organizations that provide programs and services with the goal of overcoming setbacks and navigating life’s challenges.

Chris is also known for the 2011 ESPN film “Unguarded” and the 2018 film “The First Day:A Substance Use Prevention Education Film”. __

In this interview, we talk about:

- Chris’s childhood and growing up with an alcoholic father

- Chris’s advice to kids and adults on drug use

- Chris’s basketball journey - being a McDonald’s All-American and NBA player

- Chris’s advice on the sobriety and addiction recovery journey

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Chris's socials:

Chris's Twitter: https://twitter.com/HerrenTalks

Chris's Website: https://chrisherren.com/

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Grateful Living Info:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bo0LHtRJJNJBUYIceg27w

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Hn4ttttmbWfVqAhWh4Jhi

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503185956

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aroy81547/?hl=en

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gratefulliving4

Medium: https://gratefulliving4.medium.com/

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Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro (could edit)

0:55 Chris’s childhood into his college years

4:37 Any advice to kids who have an alcoholic parent?

7:33 What advice would you give to a parent who is an alcoholic?

10:42 Any advice to kids who are going through a divorce?

14:05 Advice to a highly touted basketball player whose feeling a lot of pressure?

17:22 What are your thoughts on drug consumptions?

20:33 What would you say to kids who say it would be hard to reject kids?

23:00 How does your son reject alcohol?

26:01 What questions should parents ask if they catch their kids using drugs?

29:15 When do you think your real addiction began?

33:16 When did you lose the love of basketball?

35:17 You said playing in Denver was the healthiest point of your life up to that point, how do you look at that now sober for 14 years?

38:30 What advice to give you to people trying to get to their sobriety day?

44:15 How honest were you with your kids about your sobriety journey?

47:21 Any advice to someone whose a year or so sober?

49:42 Have you gotten close to breaking your sobriety?

51:35 Can you talk about Heather, your wife and her impact on your life?

53:37 What’s the impact of Mrs. Reed on your life?

54:22 What’s the impact of the Mullens on your life?

57:24 Any advice for re-integrating to society after rehab?

59:40 Was there a point where you realized speaking about substance use was your purpose?

1:01:52 What’s the best way to support you?

The other day, a friend of mine said that she wanted to start a vlog channel. She loves to travel and was like I’d love to make travel vlogs.

I then asked her, why haven’t you started? I don’t know, lots of different reasons, fear is definitely one of them.

I think a lot of us are in her boat about starting something new- there's fear of judgment, of failure and of just the scariness of trying something new.

In this vlog, I give several strategies on how to get over fear.

Grateful Living Info:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bo0LHtRJJNJBUYIceg27w

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Hn4ttttmbWfVqAhWh4Jhi

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503185956

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aroy81547/?hl=en

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gratefulliving4

Medium: https://gratefulliving4.medium.com/

Many people who grow up in a family business environment atmosphere face the question: “Should I join my family business?”

In this vlog, as someone whose worked in his family business for 5 years, I give my 8 pieces of advice for things to reflect on as you try to decide where to join or not.

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Grateful Living Info:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bo0LHtRJJNJBUYIceg27w

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Hn4ttttmbWfVqAhWh4Jhi

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Steve Pemberton is currently the Chief Human Resources Officer at Workhuman. Previously, he’s also held roles as Chief Diversity Officer at Walgreens and Monster Worldwide. Steve is also the author of A Chance in the World, which became a best-seller and was made into a movie. Steve is also the husband of Tonya and the proud parent of 3 children.

Before all of his professional success in his adult life, Steve was an orphan and a foster child. For 11 years, he was abused mentally, physical and emotionally by his foster parents. Eventually, he told his social worker about the abuse and was able to escape his foster parents.

In this interview, we talk about:

- Steve’s childhood and living with foster parents who physically, emotionally and mentally abused him for 11 years

- How Steve gathered the courage to tell his social worker about his parents’ abuse and got the opportunity to leave his foster parents

- Steve’s thoughts on the foster care system and his advice to kids currently in the system

- Going to Boston College

- How Steve managed to create a great personal life - getting married and having 3 children, despite all the trauma from his childhood

- How Steve grew to become a C-Suite Executive at Monster, Walgreens and now Workhuman

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Steve's Socials:

Website: https://www.stevepemberton.io/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/iStevePemberton

Latest Book “The Lighthouse Effect”: https://www.amazon.com/Lighthouse-Effect-Ordinary-People-Extraordinary/dp/0310362326/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&qid=1617308084&refinements=p_27%3ASteve+Pemberton&s=books&sr=1-2&text=Steve+Pemberton

Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro to Steve

1:00 Steve’s childhood

3:06 Any piece of advice you would give to someone currently in the foster care system?

7:43 What made you tell your social worker about your foster parents’ abuse?

10:01 Are there any signs that a foster child is being abused that a teacher could spot?

12:06 How did you continue perform so well in school?

15:57 Did you ever consider suicide?

18:11 How did you remain faithful?

23:31 Did you have nightmares after you moved out of your foster home?

26:08 If someone is struggling with resolve, is there something you would say to them?

31:18 How was adjusting to Boston College?

35:32 How was love for you since you didn’t have a frame of reference?

39:57 Did you ever feel unworthy?

42:14 How did you approach BC mentally?

44:10 Any thoughts on working in higher ed?

46:35 Any love advice?

53:12 How much did you tell your eventual wife about your past?

58:38 How honest were you with your kids about your past?

1:01:22 Did you fear anything negative happening to your business career as a result of your books?

1:03:28 Did your past ever trigger you?

1:09:40 What lessons have you learned to become a C-suite executive?

1:16:30 What’s best way to support you?

Grateful Living Info:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bo0LHtRJJNJBUYIceg27w

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Hn4ttttmbWfVqAhWh4Jhi

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503185956

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aroy81547/?hl=en

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gratefulliving4

Medium: https://gratefulliving4.medium.com/