What do you do when you love your spouse, but you discover that you are gay? In this episode of Graying Rainbows Rosemary Cianfarani shares how after struggling with anxiety and depression for decades she was able to find a place of self acceptance.

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In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows transformation coach Brian Gorman share the story of how he helped a younger man come out under very difficult circumstances.

More about Brian Gorman:

• His website:  https://TransformingLives.Coach
• The Ten Most ImportantThings I have learned about change in 50 Years by Brian Gorman (video)
• Facebook Live videos
• Forbes Coaches Council

Other Links:

• ACT UP: a grass-roots organization that fought for victims of AIDS-HIV
• Harvey Milk: a gay pioneer who advocating coming out so that people would learn that LGBT+ are everywhere.
  • Lillian Faderman shared her new biography of Harvey Milk in GR 14.

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I really appreciate that Graying Rainbows listener Elana Knoppvolunteered to share her story with us this month. It is a fascinating tale self-discovery from within an orthodox Jewish Community. You will be both amazed and inspired.

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I discovered Ronni Sanlo through her long running blog series about LGBT history and I am excited to have her as a guest on Graying Rainbows. Ronni was one of many LGBT parents who lost custody of her children due to Anita Bryant's homophobic campaign in the late 1970's. She shares how her experience led her into activism and continues to influence her writing.

Links and References:

• RonniSanlo.com
• GR 14: Dr. Lillian Faderman discussed her biography of Harvey Milk. This includes a discussion of Milk's pivotal role in helping bring Anita Bryant's homophobic campaign to an end.
• Alternate Paths: a site for mixed orientation marriages

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In this episode we talk with retired Navy captain Eric Kearsley about his personal journey and the unique way he and his wife dealt with the fact that he is gay. Even though Kearsley "came out" publicly 15 years ago, he remains in a committed relationship with his wife. His story is an important reminder that there is no "one size fits all" way to come out LGBT+ Later in Life.

Helpful Links:

• GAMMA: a website for gay/bi married men
• Husbands Out to Wives
• Making Mixed Orientation Marriages Work
• Lancaster LGBTQ+ Coalition

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• Please contact me if you are interested in sharing your story or you have suggestions for the show.

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This month we have an unusual guest, Kristin Kalbli from the Straight Spouse Network Podcast (now OurPath). Kristin shares her own personal story and introduces us to the Straight Spouse Network, which has actually existed for 30 years. Our conversation gave me an entirely new perspective. No matter where you are in your journey I know you will find this conversation enlightening.

Links and References:

• OutPath (formerly the Straight Spouse Network)
• Straight Spouse Network Voices Podcast
• The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out Hardcover by William Dameron

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This episode is an interview with Jax Wheatley from Portland, OR. Jax shares their double coming out story, which included coming out as Lesbian in their forties before transitioning to male in their 50's. I know you will appreciate this story of courage and resilience.

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This episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with Shelly Johnson of the podcast Latter Day Lesbians. In her podcast she shares her story and helps many other listeners who are struggling with being LGBT+ in the context of a very conservative religious community.

Links and References:

• Latter Day Lesbians podcast

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This episode is a discussion of Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming Out in Later Life by Karol L. Jensen. We explore the question of why so many women do not discover their attraction to other women until after marriage. Jensen's book was published 20 years ago, but many of the cultural factors she identified remain powerful in women's lives.

References:

• Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming Out in Later Life by Karol L. Jensen
• Serving in Silence by Margarethe Cammermeyer
  • Movie starring Glenn Close

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This episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with sociologist Arlene Stein about her fascinating book Unbound: Transgender Men and the Remaking of Identity. In Unbound Stein follows the story of four people who had so-called TOP surgery and discovers surprising diverse stories. More importantly, their stories reveal fascinating trends in how young people view their gender identities. It is thought provoking stuff for those of us coming out LGBT+ later in life.

Links:

• Unbound: Transgender Men and the Remaking of Identity by Arlene Stein
  • wikipedia
  • Rutgers University

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