According to John Maxwell, People change when they hurt enough that they have to. He concludes that another way that people change is that they learn enough that they want to change because they see the benefit. The ability to change is one of the benefits of humanity. We can change location, change directions, change vocations, and to adapt and learn. We can change our attitude. The question that troubles Bro. Hughes is “Why is it so difficult for some to change.” Or, ask another way, why is it easier to change some things than others. Our text highlights a man who made a monumental mistake. Esau was the first-born, and was entitled to at least 2/3 of his father’s possessions. He sold that birthright for a bowl of pottage. Afterword’s, he realized his mistake, but he was never able to recover though he tried. Bro. Hughes observes that Esau is not so different from any of us. He struck a deal in the heat of a moment that at the time he must have thought was a good decision. The bible tells us that at some point in his life, Esau changed his feeling about the situation, but was never able to find a place of repentance. He was able to change his feelings and his desire, but he was never able to change his situation.
We can all look back over our lives and identify decisions we made, or paths that we took from which we should not have been able to recover, but we have. What was different about Esau that he was not able to recover from his mistake even though he sought it carefully with tears? Bro. Hughes notes that Esau was seeking the wrong thing with his tears. He sold his birthright but he sought to recover the blessing. He wanted to recover the fruit of the blessing, but did not want the responsibility and the hand that came with the blessing. He wanted the blessing but not the bless-er. Some people only want God to make things better, they do not want the relationship with God.
The key to real change is in the mind. If we can change the mind, we can change the destiny. If there is no change in the way of thinking, there can be no real change. The key to change is not tears. Desire is not strong enough to change.
The reason Esau could not turn around was not because he could not find a place to turn around, he could not change the way he thought about turning around.