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In this deeply informative and compassionate episode of Grief, I Didn’t Sign Up for This, host Shaleka Smith explores the often-misunderstood roles of End-of-Life Doulas and Grief Doulas, support professionals who help individuals and families navigate one of life’s most difficult transitions.

What does an End-of-Life Doula actually do? How can a Grief Doula support families after loss? And why are more people seeking holistic, emotional, spiritual, and practical support during times of serious illness, caregiving, death, and grief?

This episode breaks down:
• The difference between End-of-Life Doulas and Grief Doulas
• How doulas support families during active dying and after loss
• Anticipatory grief and caregiver burnout
• Legacy projects, bedside companionship, and emotional support
• How doulas work alongside hospice and medical teams
• The importance of culturally sensitive grief care
• How services and laws may differ from state to state
• Why grief support should continue long after the funeral ends

Whether you are supporting a loved one through illness, grieving a loss, working in caregiving, or simply trying to better understand the dying process, this conversation offers insight, comfort, and hope.

Because no one should have to walk through grief alone.

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Mother’s Day can hold both celebration and sorrow.

In this heartfelt episode of “Grief, I Didn’t Sign Up for This,” Shaleka Smith creates space for the many emotions that can surface on Mother’s Day. Whether you are grieving the loss of your mother, mourning a child, longing to become a mother, or navigating a complicated relationship, this conversation reminds listeners that they are not alone.

Through honest reflection, faith-filled encouragement, and compassionate insight, Shaleka explores the many faces of grief connected to motherhood and offers gentle reminders to give yourself grace during difficult seasons.

This episode also highlights the importance of honoring love that continues beyond loss and finding healthy ways to process emotions during holidays and special occasions.

Plus, learn more about Shaleka’s book “Grief, I Didn’t Sign Up for This” and the “Hey Mom: Letters to Heaven Journal,” created to support those grieving the loss of a mother.

Take a deep breath, give yourself permission to feel, and join us for this meaningful conversation about love, loss, healing, and hope.

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What does it really look like to love someone through grief?

In this deeply honest and compassionate episode, Shaleka Smith explores the complexities of supporting your spouse through loss. Whether your partner is grieving the death of a loved one, a life transition, or an unexpected heartbreak, this conversation offers practical guidance and emotional insight for navigating it together.

Shaleka breaks down what grief can do to a person’s identity, communication, and capacity to connect, and how that can impact a marriage or relationship. She shares what to avoid, what truly helps, and how to remain present without losing yourself in the process.

This episode is for the ones standing beside grief… trying to love well, show up consistently, and hold space when there are no easy answers.

You’ll be reminded that:
Support doesn’t require perfection, just presence.
Grief doesn’t follow a timeline.
And both partners deserve care in the process.

If you or your spouse are walking through grief, this episode will meet you with understanding, grace, and practical tools to help you move forward together.

And as always… you are not alone in this journey. Take it one day at a time.

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This episode features a powerful conversation with Rob Shep, a dynamic leader known for his impact in creative strategy, community engagement, and building meaningful connections. Wherever Rob shows up, things move forward with purpose and excellence.

As the Co-Owner and Founder of the I AM HIM Platform, Rob is creating intentional spaces for Black men to heal, grow, and connect through brotherhood and honest dialogue. More than a brand, it’s a movement focused on identity, elevation, and transformation.

This episode is a reminder that growth doesn’t happen in isolation—and that when you show up fully, you make space for others to rise too.

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This gentle 7-minute meditation is designed to support you as you begin a new week—especially when grief feels heavy. Whether you’re carrying personal loss, witnessing the pain in your community, or feeling the collective weight of the world, this meditation offers a moment to pause, breathe, and ground yourself.

Rather than rushing past grief, this practice honors it—creating space for both sorrow and strength to coexist. You’ll be guided to reconnect with your body, find steadiness beneath your feet, and take the next step forward with compassion and grace.

This meditation is not about fixing or forcing positivity. It’s about showing up as you are and moving into the week gently, intentionally, and supported—one breath at a time.

Perfect for Monday mornings, moments of overwhelm, or anytime you need a reminder that even in grief, you are allowed to begin again.

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What happens when the loss you’re carrying isn’t the death of a person—but the quiet disappearance of who you used to be?

In this deeply reflective episode, I’m Grieving Me, we explore a form of grief that often goes unnamed: the grief of identity change. This conversation is for anyone mourning the version of themselves that existed before trauma, transition, responsibility, burnout, or becoming “strong.”

Through honest reflection, compassion, and gentle reframing, this episode creates space to acknowledge the versions of ourselves we’ve outgrown, lost, or had to leave behind. You’ll be reminded that growth can still hurt, that missing who you were doesn’t mean you regret who you are, and that becoming requires just as much tenderness as healing.

If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t recognize myself anymore,” this episode is for you.

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So many of us are experts at caring for everyone else—meeting physical, emotional, and financial needs—while quietly neglecting our own. Over time, this pattern leaves us depleted, disconnected, and unfamiliar with ourselves.

In this episode of Grief, I Didn’t Sign Up for This, we talk honestly about what it means to make yourself a priority—not out of selfishness, but out of necessity. Grief, loss, and life changes introduce a new version of us, and healing requires that we slow down long enough to get to know who we’re becoming.

This conversation explores the importance of being intentional with your health, finances, mental well-being, and grief care. It’s an invitation to stop pouring from an empty cup and begin protecting yourself with the same love, boundaries, and attention you give to those you care for most.

If you’ve been feeling exhausted, stretched thin, or disconnected from yourself, this episode offers permission to pause, reflect, and choose you—one intentional decision at a time.

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The start of a new year can bring pressure to move on, start fresh, or leave the past behind—but grief doesn’t follow the calendar.

In this meditation episode of Grief, I Didn’t Sign Up for This, we create space to gently acknowledge what the previous year held and to step into the new year with honesty, compassion, and intention. This guided meditation invites you to release unrealistic expectations, honor what you’ve carried, and move forward at a pace that feels true to you.

Whether you’re grieving a loved one, a relationship, a season of life, or a version of yourself, this episode offers a moment to pause, breathe, and remember that healing does not require perfection—only presence.

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Christmas can be beautiful—and heavy.
For many, this season carries joy and grief side by side.

This Christmas meditation is a quiet, sacred pause for anyone navigating loss, loneliness, or complicated emotions during the holidays. Whether you’re missing someone you love, feeling disconnected from the cheer around you, or simply needing a moment to breathe, this meditation offers space without pressure.

Through gentle breathing, reflection on the true story of Christmas, and permission to feel what you feel, this meditation reminds you that you don’t have to perform joy to belong in this season. Grief is not a failure—and peace can exist alongside pain.

Light a candle, find a comfortable place, and allow yourself to be present.
You are held, even here.

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Christmas is supposed to be joyful—but what happens when the lights feel too bright, the rooms feel too quiet, and the ache of absence is louder than the music? In this episode, What Do the Lonely Do at Christmas?, we sit with the reality many people don’t talk about: the loneliness that often shows up during the holidays. Whether you’re grieving a loved one, navigating separation, feeling disconnected from family, or simply trying to survive a season that doesn’t feel merry, this conversation creates space for you. Through reflection, encouragement, and gentle truth, we explore how to honor your feelings, release the pressure to perform happiness, and find moments of comfort and meaning—even when loneliness lingers. You’re not broken, you’re not ungrateful, and you’re definitely not alone

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