Grief Is Not A Dirty Word

WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS: People carrying unresolved grief, traumatic loss, family addiction, shame, suicidal thoughts, or the weight of generational trauma—especially anyone who feels trapped inside a chapter they cannot imagine surviving.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET: An honest look at how isolation magnifies shame, why asking for help can interrupt a suicidal crisis, and how grief recovery is built through imperfect, repeated choices rather than one dramatic turning point.

Army veteran and author Devin Fish joins Nick for an unflinching conversation about unresolved grief, childhood trauma, family addiction, suicidal ideation, and the long road toward healing. Before turning eighteen, Devin moved sixteen times, attended seven schools, and learned to survive instability by withdrawing from the people around him. At nineteen, after his mother Rachel died unexpectedly, he was forced to make the decision to remove her from life support and then returned to military life without truly processing the traumatic loss. Years of loneliness, shame, online exploitation, and repeated blackmail eventually convinced him that his career and future were over—and that suicide might be his only escape. Devin tells Nick how thirty seconds of courage allowed him to admit the truth to a military family life counselor and begin a grief recovery process that unfolded over several difficult years. He also explains how becoming an Army career counselor gave him purpose, how he learned to recognize old destructive patterns, and why healing does not require forgetting the past. Their conversation explores generational trauma, complicated grief, self-forgiveness, faith, and the difference between wanting life to end and desperately needing life to change. Through his book, Answering the Hard Questions, Devin offers listeners a message rooted in lived experience: let this be the end of a chapter, not the end of the book.

·         How do I cope with unresolved grief and regret after my mother dies?

·         Why can loneliness, shame, and blackmail lead to suicidal thoughts?

·         What should I do when I feel like suicide is the only way out?

·         How do you heal from childhood trauma and addiction in the family?

·         Can you forgive your parents without excusing the harm they caused?

·         Isolation can turn fear and shame into convincing lies; telling one safe person the truth can interrupt that spiral.

·         A suicidal crisis may come from desperately needing the current pain or circumstances to end—not from an unchangeable desire to die.

·         Grief recovery is rarely one clean turning point. It is a turning curve built through support, setbacks, boundaries, and repeated choices.

·         Understanding the trauma and addiction carried by previous generations can create compassion without erasing accountability or harm.

·         Sharing an honest survival story can return hope to someone who cannot yet imagine the next chapter of their own life.

Answering the Hard Questions — book: https://a.co/d/028ZBmgD

Devin Fish on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/devin.fish.79/

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: https://988lifeline.org/ 

DEVIN'S LINKS

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/devin.fish.79/
YouTube — Answering the Hard Questions: https://www.youtube.com/@9d7fish
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/devin-fish-179069386
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/devin_5054/

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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS: People grieving who they were before a traumatic brain injury, life-changing accident or major loss, along with the families and caregivers supporting them through trauma recovery.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET: An honest conversation about identity loss, grief, therapy, post-traumatic growth, dark humor and rebuilding a meaningful life when returning to the old version of yourself is no longer possible.

DESCRIPTION:

After a near-fatal motorcycle crash, Nicholas Ruchlewicz woke up to a life he did not recognize and a brain that no longer worked the way he expected. In this episode of Grief Is Not A Dirty Word, he joins Nick to talk about traumatic brain injury, identity loss and the rarely acknowledged grief of mourning your former self. Nicholas shares why losing his ability to focus and solve problems was more frightening than his physical injuries, and how years of therapy helped him face guilt, anger and the pressure to become who he had been before. He explains the question that shifted his perspective: What gifts did your trauma give you? Their conversation also explores dark humor as a survival tool, the value of peer support and why every person’s grief remains valid without comparison. Nicholas describes becoming “beyond 100%” not because every symptom disappeared, but because his recovery allowed him to stand beside other trauma survivors. This is a candid conversation about healing after trauma, reclaiming your story and realizing that a changed identity is not a lost identity.

This episode answers:

·         How do you grieve the person you were before a traumatic brain injury?
·         How can a traumatic brain injury change your identity and personality?
·         Can therapy help with grief and depression after a life-changing accident?
·         How do you rebuild your life when you cannot return to who you were before?
·         Why does humor help people cope with trauma, grief and chronic pain?

Key Takeaways:

·         Grief can include mourning your former identity, abilities and imagined future while you are still alive.
·         Healing does not require erasing what trauma took away or forcing yourself to call the experience a blessing.
·         Therapy can help uncover the fear, guilt and frustration beneath anger while challenging you to see your story from a different perspective.
·         Humor can reduce trauma’s power and give survivors a sense of control over experiences they never chose.
·         Recovery is not always a return to an old baseline; purpose, advocacy and connection can create a life that is different and still deeply meaningful.

Connect with Nicholas Ruchlewicz

Linktree / complete resource hub: https://linktr.ee/giftofperspective

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/npr_nerd/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@NPR_Nerd

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/31vgmhbu654nulf6pcfso4khw6i4

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nicholas.ruchlewicz/

Email: [email protected]

SameYou survivor portrait, “A Gift of Perspective”: https://www.sameyou.org/portrait_nicholas_r

Trauma Survivors Network guest feature: https://www.traumasurvivorsnetwork.org/guest-appearance-surviving-the-impact/

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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS

Anyone carrying the lasting effects of childhood emotional neglect, unresolved grief, spiritual trauma, complicated loss, or relationship wounds. This conversation is especially meaningful for people who have spent years believing they needed to earn love, acceptance, or belonging.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET

A deeply honest conversation about grief beyond death, healing childhood trauma, repairing broken relationships, understanding emotional neglect, and discovering that recovery begins by acknowledging what happened instead of pretending it didn't.

Some losses leave a headstone. Others quietly shape an entire lifetime without anyone recognizing them as grief. In this episode of Grief Is Not A Dirty Word, Nick sits down with author, speaker, and trauma survivor Danielle Bernock to explore childhood emotional neglect, spiritual trauma, accumulated grief, family loss, and the lifelong process of healing. Danielle shares how losing multiple family members, experiencing rejection inside her church, and growing up believing she had to earn love affected every relationship she would later have. Together, Nick and Danielle discuss why grief is often much bigger than death, why trauma compounds over time, and why repairing our relationship with ourselves often becomes the foundation for healing every other relationship in our lives. This conversation is filled with honesty, compassion, laughter, and hope for anyone learning that their story is not over.

•  What is childhood emotional neglect, and how does it affect adults later in life? 
•  How can unresolved childhood trauma influence grief and relationships? 
•  What is spiritual trauma, and how can someone begin healing from it? 
•  Why do multiple losses seem to become harder instead of easier over time? 
•  How do you begin repairing your relationship with yourself after years of emotional pain? 

•  Emotional neglect can leave lifelong wounds even when parents genuinely loved their children. 
•  Grief extends far beyond death and often includes the loss of safety, belonging, identity, trust, and connection. 
•  Trauma frequently accumulates over time, making later losses feel even heavier than earlier ones. 
•  Healing does not require blaming others forever, but it does require honestly acknowledging what happened. 
•  Repairing the relationship you have with yourself often becomes the first step toward repairing relationships with others.

DANIELLE'S LINKS:

WEBSITE:  https://www.daniellebernock.com
CONTACT:  https://www.daniellebernock.com/contact/
COACHING:  https://www.daniellebernock.com/coaching/
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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS

Anyone navigating grief after the death of a child or loved one, survivors of domestic violence, families searching for missing loved ones, advocates, first responders, and anyone looking for hope after unimaginable trauma and loss.

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A deeply personal conversation about grief, healing, child loss, resilience, advocacy, and how one family's unimaginable tragedy became a mission that is helping save lives and supporting families across the country.

Most people know how Gabby Petito's story ended. Far fewer know how her family's story continued.

In this special bonus episode of Grief Is Not A Dirty Word, Nick Gaylord republishes one of the most powerful conversations from the podcast's original Our Dead Dads series as the Gabby Petito Foundation prepares for its 2026 Charity Golf Event. Nick sits down with Gabby's mother, Nichole Schmidt, and bonus father, Jim Schmidt, for an intimate conversation about parenting, unimaginable child loss, grief, trauma, resilience, and the decision to transform heartbreak into purpose. Together with Joe Petito and Tara Petito, they have spent the past five years building the Gabby Petito Foundation into a nationally recognized voice for domestic violence awareness, missing persons advocacy, prevention, education, and support for families facing their darkest moments. Rather than allowing grief to define them, they have chosen to let Gabby's legacy inspire meaningful change. This conversation is not about the headlines—it is about healing, hope, and the extraordinary impact that can grow from love that never ends.

•  How do parents survive the unimaginable grief of losing a child? 
•  How has the Gabby Petito Foundation helped families affected by domestic violence and missing persons cases? 
•  What was Gabby Petito like beyond the headlines? 
•  How can grief be transformed into purpose and advocacy? 
•  What can each of us do to help prevent domestic violence and support families experiencing traumatic loss? 

•  Grief doesn't disappear, but purpose can help carry us forward. 
•  Every act of advocacy has the potential to save lives and change families forever. 
•  Healing doesn't mean leaving a loved one behind—it means carrying their legacy forward. 
•  Domestic violence awareness begins with education, conversation, and recognizing warning signs before it's too late. 
•  Communities of compassion, volunteers, and supporters make life-changing work possible for families experiencing grief and trauma.

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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS:
Anyone navigating ambiguous loss, identity grief, caregiving, traumatic brain injury recovery, anticipatory grief, major life transitions, or the challenge of rebuilding life after unexpected trauma.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET:
A deeper understanding of ambiguous grief, anticipatory grief, caregiving, resilience, identity loss, post-traumatic growth, and practical insight into finding purpose when life no longer looks the way you expected.

Andrew Davie thought he knew exactly where his life was headed until a ruptured brain aneurysm changed everything in an instant. In this powerful conversation, Andrew joins Nick to explore the grief that comes from losing a future, an identity, and a version of yourself that never fully came to exist. Together they discuss traumatic brain injury recovery, ambiguous loss, anticipatory grief, and the emotional challenges of rebuilding life after trauma. Andrew also shares his experience becoming a full-time caregiver after his mother's ALS diagnosis and the lessons he learned while helping her create joy during the final years of her life. Throughout the conversation, Andrew offers profound insights about resilience, uncertainty, purpose, and healing. This episode is a reminder that grief is not limited to death and that growth can emerge even from life's most unexpected losses.

•  What is ambiguous grief and how does it affect identity after trauma? 
•  How do you grieve the life you thought you were going to have? 
•  What is anticipatory grief and how do caregivers experience it? 
•  How can someone find purpose after a traumatic brain injury or major life change? 
•  What helps people rebuild their lives after loss, trauma, and uncertainty? 

•  Grief can stem from the loss of identity, future plans, and life expectations. 
•  Ambiguous loss often creates unique challenges because there is no clear ending or resolution. 
•  Caregiving can be both emotionally difficult and deeply meaningful. 
•  Healing rarely follows a straight line and often requires patience and self-compassion. 
•  Purpose and fulfillment can emerge in unexpected ways when people remain open to new possibilities.

CHECK OUT ANDREW'S PAGES:

FACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/adavieauthor
INSTAGRAM:  https://www.instagram.com/adavieauthor
TWITTER/X:  https://x.com/adavieauthor 

WEBSITE:  https://www.andrew-davie.com

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Anyone grieving the loss of a child, supporting someone through addiction, living with complicated grief, carrying guilt after loss, or struggling with the silence and stigma surrounding substance use disorder. This episode is also for parents, caregivers, healthcare professionals, and anyone searching for hope after unimaginable loss. 

A deeply honest conversation about losing a child to addiction, breaking through shame, learning to carry grief instead of outrunning it, and discovering that healing doesn't mean forgetting. Katie shares practical ways she's survived the darkest days through community, creativity, movement, vulnerability and continuing her relationship with her son, Nicholas. 

Before there was addiction, there was Nicholas.

That simple truth becomes the foundation of one of the most honest conversations ever shared on Grief Is Not A Dirty Word.

Katie Rizzo joins Nick Gaylord to tell the story of her son Nicholas—not as an addict, but as a shy, funny, athletic young man who loved soccer, superheroes, his brothers, and his family. Together they explore the devastating reality of addiction, the stigma families face after an overdose, and why addiction should be treated as a medical condition instead of a moral failing.

Katie speaks openly about the six-year battle to save her son, the day everything changed forever, the crushing weight of parental guilt, and how she's slowly learned to give herself the same grace she so freely gives other grieving parents.

The conversation also explores Katie's powerful "Trimesters of Grief" framework, why movement and creativity became essential to her healing, the importance of continuing to say a loved one's name, and how grief doesn't have to disappear in order for hope to exist.

This is a conversation about love, addiction, shame, resilience, and learning that the people we lose never stop being part of our lives.

•  How do you survive losing a child to addiction? 
•  Why is addiction a disease instead of a moral failure? 
•  How do parents cope with guilt after losing a child? 
•  Why do grieving families need us to continue saying their loved one's name? 
•  Can grief and joy exist at the same time?

•  How do you survive losing a child to addiction? 
•  Why is addiction a disease instead of a moral failure? 
•  How do parents cope with guilt after losing a child? 
•  Why do grieving families need us to continue saying their loved one's name? 
•  Can grief and joy exist at the same time?

KATIE'S LINKS

WEBSITE:  https://www.katierizzo.com

CONTACT: https://www.katierizzo.com/contact

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/katierizzo007/

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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS: Anyone navigating grief, trauma, divorce, childhood loss, PTSD, depression, emotional healing, or non-death grief experiences that still carry lasting pain.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET: A powerful conversation about grief beyond death, childhood trauma, emotional validation, mental health, resilience, healing after divorce, and how loss can shape the course of an entire life.

DESCRIPTION:

Dr. Gregory T. Obert spends his career helping people work through trauma, PTSD, depression, grief, and emotional pain, but long before becoming a psychologist, he was a teenager struggling through the collapse of his parents’ marriage and the loss of the life he thought he knew. In this deeply personal conversation with Nick, Dr. Greg shares how childhood grief, depression, and emotional isolation shaped his future. He discusses the often-overlooked grief that accompanies divorce, family dysfunction, autism within families, and the loss of expected relationships. Together, Nick and Dr. Greg explore why society struggles to recognize non-death grief and how trauma extends far beyond the experiences most people associate with PTSD. They examine the importance of emotional validation, the damage caused when children’s feelings are dismissed, and the role supportive adults can play in healing. Dr. Greg also reflects on the therapist who changed his life, the mentor who helped shape his future, and the experiences that ultimately led him into psychology. This episode is an honest, insightful exploration of grief, trauma, resilience, mental health, and the healing power of being truly seen and heard.

This episode answers:

•  Can divorce cause grief and trauma even when nobody dies? 
•  How does childhood grief affect mental health later in life? 
•  What is the difference between trauma and PTSD? 
•  Why do people dismiss non-death grief experiences? 
•  How can therapy help someone process grief, loss, and emotional pain? 

Key Takeaways:

•  Grief is not limited to death and can emerge from divorce, family changes, lost relationships, and disrupted expectations. 
•  Children often recognize emotional problems long before adults realize they do. 
•  Emotional validation can be life-changing for someone struggling with grief or trauma. 
•  Trauma exists on a spectrum and does not always meet the criteria for PTSD. 
•  Healing often begins when people stop minimizing their pain and allow themselves to address it honestly.

DR. GREG'S LINKS:

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drgtobert/
X: https://x.com/DrGTObert

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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS:
Anyone navigating parental loss, caregiver grief, anticipatory grief, dementia, cancer, young adult grief, motherhood after loss, guilt after death, or major life transitions while grieving.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET:
Practical insight into surviving the loss of both parents before 30, navigating grief while raising a young child, coping with caregiver responsibilities, managing grief triggers, and learning why community and support matter during bereavement.

DESCRIPTION:

Nick Gaylord welcomes returning guest Annie LaBeth for a deeply honest conversation about what happened after her first appearance on the podcast. After previously sharing the story of losing her father, Annie returns to discuss the devastating loss of her mother following a rapid decline involving throat cancer, strokes and dementia. Together, they explore caregiver grief, anticipatory grief, medical advocacy, guilt, trauma, and the emotional collision of becoming a mother while losing her own mom. Annie shares the realities of handling end-of-life decisions, selling her childhood home, navigating healthcare systems and raising a daughter without parental support. The conversation also examines grief triggers, resentment, healing, therapy and the complicated emotions that follow major loss. Through humor, vulnerability and hard-earned wisdom, Annie offers hope to anyone facing parental loss, family caregiving responsibilities or grief during major life transitions. This episode is a powerful reminder that grief changes us, but we do not have to carry it alone.

This episode answers:

•  What is it like to lose both parents before age 30? 
•  How do you cope with becoming a parent after losing your own parents? 
•  How do you handle guilt after making end-of-life decisions for a parent? 
•  What are the biggest grief triggers after losing a mother or father? 
•  How can caregivers advocate for loved ones with dementia and cancer? 

Key Takeaways:

•  Grief often evolves when multiple losses occur during major life transitions. 
•  Caregiver guilt is common, even when you did everything possible. 
•  Building a strong support system is essential during grief and caregiving. 
•  Parenthood can create a deeper understanding of your own parents and their sacrifices. 
•  Healing does not mean moving on. It means learning how to carry loss differently.

As discussed in the interview, listen to "First Time On Earth" by Alex Warren on Apple Music, Spotify or wherever you get your music.

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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS:

Anyone struggling with suicide grief, PTSD, sexual trauma, survivor shame, unresolved loss, complex grief, childhood trauma, ambiguous grief, or the long-term effects of living in survival mode.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET:

A powerful conversation about trauma recovery, grief healing, nervous system regulation, suicide loss, resilience, boundaries, and how healing remains possible even after decades of pain and silence.

Erika Shershun joins Nick Gaylord for a deeply personal conversation about grief, trauma, suicide loss, healing, and resilience. Erika shares the story of losing her father to suicide at age fifteen, the devastating impact of growing up without emotional support, and how unresolved grief shaped much of her life. She also discusses surviving multiple sexual assaults, discovering how trauma remained stored in her body for decades, and the moment she realized survival mode had been controlling her life. Together, Nick and Erika explore PTSD, ambiguous grief, nervous system dysregulation, boundaries, trauma-informed care, and the realities of healing after profound loss. Erika reflects on the later suicide of her brother, the lessons she learned through her own recovery, and the work she now does helping survivors reclaim their lives. This episode offers hope, practical insight, and an honest look at what healing truly requires. If you've ever felt trapped by grief, trauma, shame, or silence, this conversation will remind you that healing is possible and that you are not alone

•  How does suicide loss affect a child for the rest of their life? 
•  Can trauma stay trapped in the body for decades? 
•  What happens when grief and trauma go unprocessed? 
•  Why do survivors often remain stuck in survival mode? 
•  Is it ever too late to heal from trauma and grief? 

•  Trauma can remain stored in the body long after the original event has passed. 
•  Healing does not erase painful memories, but it can remove their power to control daily life. 
•  Unexpressed grief often resurfaces physically, emotionally, and psychologically. 
•  Recovery is rarely linear, but meaningful progress is always possible. 
•  Boundaries, self-awareness, and trauma-informed support are critical parts of healing. 

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WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS:
Anyone navigating traumatic grief, overdose loss, child loss, spouse loss, pet loss, complicated grief, anger in grief or surviving after devastating family tragedy.

WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET:
A brutally honest conversation about grief, rage, survival, grief brain, addiction loss, codependency, trauma, emotional numbness and what it actually looks like to keep living after losing the people you love most.

DESCRIPTION:

In this deeply raw and unfiltered episode, Nick Gaylord sits down with grief educator and author Kym Hinchey to talk about the unimaginable losses that changed her life forever. Kym shares the story of losing her son Adrian to an accidental overdose after years of addiction struggles and losing her husband John just three months later to what she believes was a broken heart. Together, Nick and Kym dismantle the myths society teaches about grief, including the dangerous idea that grief follows neat stages or has an expiration date. They explore grief rage, grief brain, trauma, survivor’s guilt, pet loss and the emotional isolation grieving people often experience. Kym also opens up about the promise she made to her surviving son to stay alive and how that promise ultimately became the foundation for rebuilding her life. This conversation is honest, painful, compassionate and filled with the kind of truth grieving people rarely hear out loud. 

This episode answers:

•  What does grief after overdose loss really feel like? 
•  How do you survive losing both a child and spouse? 
•  Why does grief create anger, numbness and brain fog? 
•  What is grief brain and why does grief affect the body physically? 
•  Why do grieving people feel pressure to hide their pain? 

Key Takeaways:

•  Anger is a normal and necessary part of grief. 
•  Grief changes who you are permanently. 
•  There is no timeline or checklist for healing. 
•  Grief affects the body, brain and immune system. 
•  Honest conversations about grief help people survive it.

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