Grief doesn't just change our lives, it changes us.

In this deeply personal episode, I share something I wish someone had told me after losing my son, Harry: that one day I would look in the mirror and realise I wasn't the same person anymore.

For years, I thought healing meant finding my way back to the person I used to be. Instead, I discovered that grief wasn't asking me to go backwards, it was gently inviting me forwards.

Together, we'll explore:

• Why grief changes who we are
• The hidden grief of losing your former self
• How trauma reshapes our brain, nervous system and priorities
• The difference between moving on and carrying our loved one with us
• Finding meaning without believing grief is a gift
• The beautiful Japanese art of Kintsugi and what it teaches us about healing

If you've ever wondered, "Will I ever be me again?" this episode is for you.

Because perhaps the question isn't who you were before your loss...

Perhaps it's who you're becoming because you loved them.

This episode is dedicated to Harry, and to every life deeply loved.

If this conversation resonates with you, I'd be so grateful if you'd follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need to hear they're not broken, they're becoming.

Until next time, be gentle with yourself.

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At some point, many grieving people hear the words—spoken or unspoken—"It's time to move on."

In this heartfelt episode of Grieving Greatly, Jen shares why grief doesn't have an expiry date and why healing isn't about forgetting the person you love. Through her own experience of losing her son Harry, Jen explores the pressure many people feel to "be over it," the hidden losses that come with grief, and how love can continue to exist long after someone has died.

If you've ever felt judged for still grieving, struggled with people returning to their lives while yours feels forever changed, or wondered whether you're grieving "the right way," this episode is for you.

Together we'll explore:
• Why grief has no timeline
• The myth of "moving on"
• Secondary losses after bereavement
• Learning to carry grief rather than erase it
• How friends and family can better support someone who is grieving

Wherever you are on your grief journey, may this conversation remind you that you are not broken, you are not behind, and you are never alone.

❤️ Dedicated to Harry, and to every life deeply loved.

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One of the greatest fears many grieving people carry isn't forgetting that someone existed—it's the fear of forgetting the little things.

The sound of their laugh.
 The way they hugged you.
 Their voice.
 Their smile.
 The little phrases only they used to say.

In this deeply personal episode, I explore why this fear is so common, why grief can make memories feel blurry, and why forgetting small details never means you've loved someone less.

I also share my own reflections about Harry and how, over the years, I've come to realise that the people we love don't only live in our memories—they live in the people we've become.

Together we'll explore:
 • Why grief changes the way memory works
 • Why fading memories are a normal part of being human
 • How guilt often accompanies the fear of forgetting
 • Beautiful ways to honour your loved one's memory
 • Why love never depends on perfect recall

If you've ever worried that you're forgetting someone you love, I hope this episode brings you comfort, permission to let go of guilt, and a gentle reminder that love leaves far more than memories.

Because the people we love don't just leave memories...

They leave fingerprints on our hearts.

And that is something death can never take away.

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Episode 13 | What I've Learned About Love and Loss

After eighteen years of living with the loss of my son Harry, I wanted to pause and reflect on what grief has taught me.

Not because I've "moved on."
 Not because the pain has disappeared.
 But because grief has changed the way I understand love, life, healing, and what it truly means to keep going after the unthinkable.

In this deeply personal episode of Grieving Greatly, I share the lessons I never wanted to learn—but the ones that have shaped who I am today.

In this episode we explore:
 • Why grief isn't something you "get over"
 • How love and grief are forever connected
 • Why joy and sadness can exist together
 • What the film Inside Out taught me about the purpose of sadness
• Continuing bonds and why our relationship with those we love never truly ends
• Finding hope and meaning while still carrying profound loss

Whether you're grieving the loss of a child, partner, parent, sibling, friend, or anyone deeply loved, I hope this conversation reminds you that your grief is not something to fix.

It is evidence that you loved greatly.

💛 If this episode speaks to you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who may need these words today.

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Grief doesn't always look like tears.

Sometimes it looks like staying busy so you don't have to think.
Sometimes it looks like drinking a little more than usual, scrolling for hours, overworking, withdrawing from the people you love, or trying to numb the pain in whatever way you can.

In this episode of Grieving Greatly, we explore one of the most misunderstood parts of grief: how coping can slowly become escaping.

Avoidance isn't a sign that you don't care. More often, it's a sign that the pain feels too overwhelming to face. Our brains are wired to protect us, but when temporary protection becomes our long-term strategy, it can keep us stuck and disconnected from the life we want to rebuild.

In this episode, we discuss:
• Why grief often leads to unhealthy coping strategies.
• The difference between coping and escaping.
• How shame and isolation can deepen grief.
• Why healing doesn't require perfection—it begins with one small step.
• Practical, compassionate ways to reconnect with yourself when you feel overwhelmed.

If you've ever wondered why you're struggling to move forward after loss, or if someone you love seems to be "avoiding" their grief, this conversation is for you.

Remember, healing isn't about never struggling. It's about knowing you don't have to struggle alone.

If this episode resonates with you, please follow, rate, and share Grieving Greatly to help others know they're not alone in their grief.

You are enough. You will never be too much.
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Some of the hardest days in grief… are the ones you see coming.
Birthdays. Anniversaries. Holidays. The funeral date. The last conversation. The dates that once meant celebration—and now carry something completely different.

In this episode of Grieving Greatly, we talk about anticipatory grief, how grief keeps time, how your body may react before your mind is ready, and why the “build-up” weeks can be as painful (or more) than the day itself.

We also explore how different people grieve the same loss differently, and how there is no right way to mark these dates—only what feels manageable and true for you.

You are not broken.
Your nervous system is remembering.
And you can survive the day, one moment at a time.

If this episode brings up anything difficult, please reach out for support:

• Grief Australia: 1800 642 066
• Lifeline (Australia): 13 11 14
• Or contact the host directly: 0431 212 575

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One of the hardest parts of grief is learning how to keep living when someone you love is no longer physically here.

For many grieving people, moving forward can feel like a betrayal. We worry that healing means forgetting. We fear that laughter, joy, new experiences, or future plans somehow mean we are leaving our loved one behind.

But what if moving forward isn't about letting go at all?

In this episode, I share my own journey of learning to live after the loss of my son Harry and the powerful realisation that healing doesn't require us to leave our loved ones behind. Instead, we can carry them with us in the way we love, the choices we make, the memories we honour, and the people we become.

In this episode we explore:
 • Why moving forward can feel frightening after loss
 • The guilt many people experience when life begins to feel lighter
 • Continuing bonds and staying connected to those we love
 • How grief changes our relationship with the person who died rather than ending it
 • Ways to carry their memory forward while still embracing life

If you've ever worried that healing means forgetting, this episode is for you.

Because love doesn't end when someone dies. It simply changes form.

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In this deeply personal episode of Grieving Greatly Podcast, Jen talks about one of the most painful and confusing parts of grief — how to keep the memory of someone you love alive without becoming completely consumed by the pain of missing them.

Through her own experience after losing Harry, Jen explores the fear of forgetting, the heartbreak of remembering, and the complicated push and pull many grieving people experience between wanting to hold on tightly to memories while also desperately needing relief from the pain.

This episode gently explores:
 • the fear of losing memories after loss
 • why photos, videos, and reminders can feel both comforting and unbearable
 • the guilt many people feel when grief begins to soften
 • how grief and love can exist together
 • learning to move in and out of grief safely
 • ways to stay connected to loved ones without remaining trapped in suffering

With warmth, honesty, and therapeutic insight, this conversation offers reassurance to anyone struggling to carry love forward after loss.

Because healing does not mean forgetting.

🕊️ This episode is for anyone grieving someone deeply loved.

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When you lose someone you love…
 you don’t just lose them.

You can lose parts of yourself too.

In this deeply personal episode of Grieving Greatly, I share the reality of identity after loss — the quiet, often unspoken grief of losing the version of yourself that existed alongside the person you loved.

From the loss of everyday roles…
 to the painful reminders in ordinary moments…
 to the question so many carry— “Who am I now?”

This episode gently explores:

•  The loss of identity and role after grief 
•  The everyday triggers that catch you off guard 
•  The feeling of not recognising yourself anymore 
•  And the slow, tender process of finding yourself again 

This is a space for anyone who feels changed by loss… and unsure of who they are becoming.

You are still you.
 You are still their person.
 And you are not alone.

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In this deeply personal episode of Grieving Greatly, Jenelle sits down with Nathan Darvill — Director of Expressive Mind Therapy, friend, colleague, and someone who has quietly carried many layers of grief throughout his life.

Together, they explore a kind of grief that often goes unseen:

The grief of surviving.

Not just grief through death, but grief through trauma, identity loss, mental health struggles, relationship breakdowns, chronic stress, physical health challenges, and the parts of ourselves we lose along the way.

Nathan shares openly about:

•  Military life and identity loss 
•  Mental health and invisible grief 
•  Relationships, divorce, and isolation 
•  Weight loss and body image 
•  Chronic stress and survival 
•  AFL as both connection and lifeline 
•  Learning how to keep going when life changes you forever 

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt like they lost parts of themselves while trying to survive life.

Because grief isn’t always about losing someone.

Sometimes it’s about losing who you used to be.

If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who may need it.

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