Grow Further

Do you make one of the top 4 apology mistakes when saying , "I'm sorry"? Join us for part one of this interview with NYT best selling author and relationship expert, Dr. Harriet Lerner, where she gives us a crash course on how to sincerely apologize including the top 4 mistakes we commonly make. 

Our hosts discuss the following with Dr. Harriet Lerner:

• Why apologizing matters 
• Ingredients of a good apology
• 4 biggest mistakes when apologizing

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Want to learn more from and/or about Harriet? 
https://www.harrietlerner.com/

Have you ever had a moment that left you thinking W-T…and, you know the rest? A moment which may have otherwise sent you into a tailspin? You were in reactive mode and you knew it. Last time, the hosts talked about the benefits of responding to situations like this. Join the duo in this episode where they give you a strategy for mitigating your reactive reflexes and coming back to center. This time, our housts share some of their W-T…R moments with you and leave you feeling prepared to take on your own in a responsive and productive way.

In this episode, we discuss...

• Triggers which cause W-T…R moments
• Using W-T-R to go from reactive to responsive mode in a moment when you are triggered
• Highlights from sharing this skill at a recent CVS Health conference

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Reacting to a situation is what we are programed to do as humans. It might come as a surprise that acting according to the way we are wired is not necessarily going to get us the outcomes we’re hoping for in most situations. Join the hosts as they explore an alternative to reacting and provide tips for how to respond to situations in an effort to build connection and trust.

In this episode, we discuss...

• The reasons we react
• The difference between reacting and responding
• Tips we can leverage to respond in a way that builds connection and trust with those we love, lead, or serve

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While we can’t control how often others should on us, we can be aware of how frequently we should on others. “You should do this” or “you shouldn’t do that” finds its way into day-to-day conversations all too easily. Join the hosts as they explore the impact should-ing could have on relationships with those we love, lead, and serve. Let’s Grow Further together by empowering others to be in control of their own decisions and lives.

In this episode, we discuss...

• What it means to should on others.
• How should’ing on others could impact them and the relationship negatively.
• Ways we can work towards should’ing on others less.

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Have you ever been misunderstood? Have you had a conversation and what you intended for the other person to hear is nowhere near what they actually heard? Words certainly matter, but so do our tone, body language, and actions. The things we say without actually saying them are called unspoken messages; and we send them all the time whether we want to or not. Listen to this episode, where we collaborate with Paul Carroll, to gain greater awareness of unspoken messages and how they impact the quality of our relationships.  

In this episode, the hosts and Paul discuss... 

• What unspoken messages are 
• Examples of unspoken messages and their impact in the workplace and home 
• How to avoid sending unspoken messages and increase the chances of your intent matching your impact 

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How often have you thought or said “I should” when it comes to making decisions? This is how "I should" live...this is who "I should" love...this is how “I should” look. While it seems fairly harmless, should’ing all over ourselves can be downright detrimental. Should’ing can bring us further from who we truly are and what we truly want. Join us as we cut ties with the “should” and start exploring the “wants”. 

In this episode, we discuss...

• The word “should” and the impact it has when we “should” on ourselves 
• Why we “should” on ourselves 
• Tips for cutting ties with the “should” 

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Let’s face it...we all like to feel appreciated! How often, though, have we found ourselves feeling underappreciated by someone we care about? How many times have we realized we’ve taken someone else for granted? It happens and, the good news is, it can be avoided! Join us as we explore appreciation and how to effectively show it in this episode. 

In this episode, we discuss... 

• The normalcy of taking those closest to us for granted 
• The 5 Languages of Appreciation- what they are, how they can be demonstrated, and the connection to Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages 
• 3 Steps to build strong connections with others 

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Setting goals is hard; achieving them is even harder. How can we bring these into our reach? How can we create simplicity around a process that hasn’t always gotten us across the finish line? The answer could be simple...set identity-based goals. In this episode, we try to demystify the goal-setting process and provide some simple tips on how you can cast a vote for yourself and your goals. As you listen to this episode, think about the last goal you set for yourself and whether identity-based goals would have made a difference for you! 

In this episode, we discuss... 

• The difference between outcomes-based and identity-based goals
• Benefits of setting identity-based goals 
• Tips for how to get started 

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When our check engine lights come on, it's an indication something needs attention. Unfortunately, it is much more obvious when something isn't quite right with our cars than when something isn't quite right within ourselves… or is it? Well-being and self-care have been the main topics of our discussions lately. Many of our listeners have asked a great question: how do you know when you should be putting more of an emphasis on well-being and self-care? In this episode, we discuss the answer which is surrounded by the importance of paying attention to your internal check engine light. 

In this episode, we discuss…

• The importance of checking in with yourself
• How to identify that your well-being may need more attention
• Acting when you identify that warning sign

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In this episode, the hosts, along with Dr. Darria Long, discuss...

• The definition of burnout
• The potential impact of burnout
• Tips to bounce back from or prevent burnout, including how to triage your life and designing for chaos

To learn more about Dr. Darria and her work, listen to her TED talk (https://youtu.be/nLjchFPvcQo) or visit drdarria.com/truevelab

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