In this episode Cath is joined by Harriet Shearsmith. Harriet is a coach, podcaster, Mum of 3 and the content creator behind @tobyandroo. In this episode she shares her experiences around growing up in a household where she always tended to the needs of her Mother, how she came to see the dynamics of her family, what action she has taken to protect herself as an adult and how she is shifting dynamics in her own family.

Harriet can be found on Instagram: @tobyandroo and @unfollowingmum. She hosts a podcast for cycle breakers called Unfollowing Mum all about toxic families, estrangement and healing generational trauma.

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In this episode Cath starts to look in more detail at what emotional neglect actually is and why it matters. She explains how widespread emotional neglect is and gives some historical context to explain why. She links this to parenting, to the challenge of tending to our kids emotions and to our ability to meet our own needs. Cath discusses the concept of narcissistic families, what this actually means and the generational aspects of this. Both of these are huge subjects, listen to this first instalment today.

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In this episode Cath was interviewed by Nikki McCahon for her Seasons of Matresence Podcast. We had a gentle, compassionate and open hearted conversation about the ways in which experiences of childhood trauma can shape and impact how we experience mothering and raising children.

We cover a lot of ground in this episode, the ways in which childhood trauma can impact and shape our experience of mothering and raising children. We talk about the nervous system and our window of tolerance and how trauma can travel through families and generations why playing with your children can feel overwhelming or dysregulating. The power of rupture and repair for our children and ourselves and how we can bring in more compassion in our mothering and our journey of healing from childhood trauma.

There is so much wisdom in this episode, and I know that it’s going to be really supportive for you.

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This episode is an interview with Cath and Crystal Karges which was originally released on Crystal’s podcast ‘Lift the Shame’. Cath and Crystal talk about healing generational trauma, shifting patterns, diet culture, food choices, control and more.

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The way we come into relationships with our needs when we are babies and young children, has a huge influence on the way we learn to tend to our needs as adults.

We learn about what is 'allowed' in terms of our needs in our family of origin. Many of us have a very complex relationship with our own needs, because of the parenting we received (and the parenting our parents received). In this episode Cath digs more into needs (Listen to Episodes 1-4 of Grow Yourself Up for more on needs), looking at why our needs may feel 'illegitimate' and how we can bring these needs back to ourselves.

She shares some imagery that could be helpful with this and also some ideas about how to proceed when you don't know where to start with your needs.

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In this episode Cath discusses the concept of self mothering, explaining why this is such a crucial part of all our healing journey.

She explains what it is, highlights how we may derail ourselves and shares her 3-step approach to self-mothering. This episode is full of humanity, vulnerability, useful tips and storytelling. Cath provides an example of how she does this in her own life so that you can transfer the ideas into practice in your own life. This will help you create the life you wish and be the person you want to be.

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The term ‘rupture and repair’ is widely used across social media to explain the process of repairing with your child after a break in connection (for example parent shouted or was unkind, snappy to a child). The original research around this was done on mother and infant dyads and the research was later also done with fathers and toddlers. This process has extremely important implications for us as adults, listen to this episode for more. 

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In this episode Cath discusses some nervous system science (Polyvagal Theory and Stephen Porges and Deb Dana's work) and invites us into considering how our parent nervous systems interact with our children's nervous systems. Understanding what we, as parents, are contributing to the family nervous system is vital if we want to create change.

She shares an anecdote related to this focusing on transitions (there are a lot of transitions in holidays each day) and stress responses.

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Cath was joined by coach, trainer and hypno-CBT therapist Sophie Burch this week. We talked about Sophie's journey to motherhood, her passion and mission in the prenatal, perinatal and postpartum stages of parenthood and how her own experiences contributed to this. We touched on how birth trauma and a stay in NICU impacted her and her children. Sophie shared how she deals with the impacts of PTSD, maintaining her sanity while parenting 4 boys and how she cares for herself.

Sophie Burch aka The Mamma Coach is on a mission to put mental and emotional wellbeing more on the map in pregnancy, birth and parenting. She has 17 years experience as a mother to 4 boys (including twins), as a perinatal therapist and coach, and a birth trauma and PND survivor. Her experience has shaped who she is and awakened her to a life of compassion and deep empathy for everyone from pre-conception through parenting to menopause. Her approach is simple: to allow people to feel held and heard, safe and worthy of love and self acceptance.. Sophie believes that our strength comes from self compassion, kindness and knowledge, which is her ethos. 

Sophie’s book, Beyond Birth: A Mindful Guide for Early Parenting, was published in 2020. It is an integration of all she knows will help people have a more balanced, positive experience as they transition from pregnancy to parenting. The book is available on Amazon in multiple formats, and can be delivered via parent-baby support sessions and a practitioner training course.

She is a Trainer and Team Member at PMH Training CIC with leading Perinatal expert and Author Dr Jane Hanley and offers online and in person coaching, 1:1 and groups and is very happy to talk about her work and experience at events and podcasts.

Sophie Burch (HCBT, CNHC, GQHP)

Hypno-CBT® Mindfulness & Aromatherapy

Specialist from Pre-conception through Birth, Parenting & Beyond Mental Health & Wellbeing

You can connect with Sophie here:

FaceBook: The Mamma Coach, Beyond Birth Collective 

Instagram: @themammacoach and @beyond_birth_guide

Tel: 07949 764105

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In this episode Cath discusses what shift we need to make as parents around the holidays.

Cath discusses some of the emotional adjustments we need to make as parents when considering leisure time with kids, and using nervous system science. She suggests ways that you can support yourself and your kids over the holiday period. This episode will hold and support you as you consider and plan the next couple of months.

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