No matter if it’s a friend wanting to distance themselves, or a job relation, a loved one wanting to move on without us… when someone else is putting an end to a relation, if we are not first of all blindsided, we can experience anger, feeling “not good enough” and “it’s not fair” or even a numbness or shutting down . These are the most complete and painful endings, most of the time.

We know these are triggering topics for most of the people, because usually after this kind of separation, there is trauma and negative associations left behind. That’s why, the reason we approach these complex themes, and especially about past relationships, is to be able to rework those painful endings with today’s tools.

Today we get to seek answers to a question that hunts most adults: how to end a relationship. But for that, we have to ask ourselves first: are we in a relationship that is worthy of our time and energy? It is fair and necessary to ask these questions when we are in a situation that has proved again and again to be uncomfortable or energy draining for us. And is good to have in mind that we are considering personal and professional relations here.

When we want to end a relationship in the most conscious way, there is a difference between deciding to end a relationship and actually going through with it. Here we are , to the rescue, with the 5 tips of the day that will guide you through, smoothly we would hope, to allow yourself to speak your truth.

We keep mentioning in the last episodes about making decisions in any relationship, the choices we have, what do we want to keep/improve and so on. But how do we go about really implementing all this? Because making the decision is only step 1, after this comes the “ living with it ” phase.

The most common phrase that we all use when i’s time to do what we decided, it’s “I wish I knew how to do that” . Is it maybe that we don’t acknowledge the benefits or the improvements at this moment, so we take comfort in excuses? We are here today with 5 useful tips that can set you on your path towards truly doing the work and making your decisions real, not just empty words.

The last few episodes have been about decisions: why, when and what. Today we talk about the how? When the dynamic and the reality of a significant relationship has shifted, before we take steps towards breaking something that could be very difficult to restore, we will address in this episode the emotions decision tool and how to apply it . The 5 options that we have in any given moment in a relationship, can help us, hopefully, get some clarity about what will our next step be.

No matter how much love, respect, attraction and complicity exists in a couple, there is an almost definite possibility that they have faced difficulties at some point in their couple. The remarkable thing about people like that is that they didn’t give up too soon, they didn’t take the easy way out.

Last week’s episode we talked about the 5 options that we have in a relationship at any given moment. So when the time are getting hard ( lying, cheating, lack of attention, disrespect, etc ), how do we know which choice out of the 5 is the right one?

With the help of our 3 trusted friends: logic, emotion and intuition, we are equipped to safely and calmly reach the sweet spot of internal alignement and so, reaching a decision that will truly benefit us.

Even the most perfect of relationships have some difficult moments that marked it along the way. And in this episode we refer to the true, deep, and often unconditional feelings that a love relationship can have. No matter how sincere and authentic the bond between 2 people can seem at a certain point, rest assured that challenges were present along the way.

People often think, when something negatively significant happens in a couple, that they have no choice. When in reality, in any given situation, there are always 5 available choices:

1. Accept the situation

2. Leave the relation

3. Change the relationship

4. Change the way we see the situation

5. We can do nothing

Did you ever feel like you have no choice in a relationship?

Imagining that the key to having great relations and connections is our own energy, where can this lead us to?

We all want of that good life, happiness, sense of purpose and fulfilment and sometimes we don’t know how to get it, but most important how to keep it for long. That’s why this episode focuses on the 3 keys of feeling energised which eventually will help us establish better and more powerful connections.

One important tip to analyse if a relationship is going well: assess correctly the “ best case scenario “

2 questions to start this assessment: where are we at and what is the real issue here? We all know that if we look to other people, rather than ourselves, we can immediately tell what the issue is. That is why coaching and consulting is really helpful for many people.

More than sure there is one relationship right now in your life that works just the way it’s supposed to be. Have you ever wondered why?

What is truly the advantage of improving any relationship? Since we decided to have a relationship in the first place, being it love, friends, work or family; why shouldn’t we try to give it our best after all?

The list of advantages is quite long. By having better relationships we could experience more peace, more confidence, more security, better results, joy, performance, etc.

And yet not all our relationships are satisfying. That’s why in this episode we go over those reasons that hold us back from going all in: vulnerability, overthinking, fear of being treated unjustly, fear of being judged, not wanting to get too emotional and a few more.

Are we giving up too soon on some relationships? Are we really doing the work to build healthy relationships?

If you really take the time to analyse our patterns and behaviour in life, we will notice that most of the time we are more afraid of things we don’t know and things we never explore. That’s why is a good idea to train ourselves to make friends with the idea of the unknown, of all the changes are happening constantly around us.

Learning to be the one that takes the first step towards improving a relationship can be one of those things that we have a difficult time with. That’s why we are here today, to learn the advantages of improving ANY relationship, no matter how big or small.