#GrowNOW The Podcast

Today we will attemp to put emphasis on some evergreen questions:

* Do you believe truly that there is "the one" or anyone can become the one?

* Is the ideal partner a need or anyone can become an ideal partner?

* Does any relationship have the potential to become a divine, meant-to-be union or only selective few have the chance to experience that?

The answers are very important because based on the belief we start off with, will define an entire relationship and potentially miss on some important points along the way.

When you struggle with the idea of just wanting to be right, where is your focus? Is your focus on being happy or on being simply "right" in that situation?

Most of the time, in relationships, we keep going back to the same thinking patterns, that if only our partner would change X, Y, Z things would work out. Or we keep revisiting a conversation, analyzing what, how, when they said something and in doing so, we have endless conversations with ourselves , where we prove our point of being right.

But does that even bring us happiness, contentment or clarity in a relationship?

Following on last week's episode, today we shine a star on our own patterns and how to easily recognize them.

We create the patterns in our life based on our day to day life experience, and in turn, the patters that we observe and develop influence our life experience and the way we perceive life and relationships. And the truth is that we create for ourselves some default reactions and responses based on our patterns, especially in negative situations, without assessing how well is going and we end up not challenging them anymore.

Friendships, by all accounts, are those relationships that tend to be the stable points in one’s life. We don’t choose family, but we are the ones that choose our friendships; lovers and life partners may come and go, but with friendships we tend to be consistent. But it all starts with our own definition and expectations of what a true friend is. Do they have to be loyal, trustworthy, honest and open, are these the qualities most people look for in long term friend? Or are these the signs of a conditional friendship?

We have the tendency to sometimes exaggerate the drama when it comes to things that bother us because at the ned of the day, they are OUR problems, and we have the illusion that everyone else’s are somehow less important, since they don’t affect us directly. After all, our brain is trained to give us safety, not happiness

To better understand and assimilate, here we have 5 practical steps to start making things lighter.

Today we adress the theme of lightness, feeling light in communications, in how we relate to eachother and our main relationships.

On the topic of cheating, we add today another layer, that of conscious decisions, by taking a look at the before, during and after the situation and how rational are we when we are confronted with the decision making process.

Nobody conciously chooses pain, let's be honest. Yet, the greatest challenge , after getting cheated on, is to choose love again. Anyone who is in touch with their more sensitive side and want to find meaning in every experience, undestands that the toughest moments are the ones that shape you. And is exactly in these moments that we should remember to chose love and not get carried away by fear.

Today’s episode is not a guide on how not to get cheated on ( and if someone tries to sell you that, you are being scammed ), but rather today we approach cheating with the notion that, unfortunately, it is part of life, part of our relationships. There is no guarantee that anyone can give us that we will not be cheated on and that, in turn, we will not cheat.

Actually, the notion of cheating is not the same for everyone, and the limit to which a person can consider that the partner has done something wrong is indeed subjective.

Today we will try to eat with the aftermath of cheating and how to try to make it as a couple after the fact.

Hope everyone agrees with us, to start the year fresh, willing to assume the responsibility of our life and of our actions.

We finished the previous episode with the question: “What can we adapt into a relationship vs what are we willing to compromise in/for a relationship?”. And as we were mentioning, there is freedom in knowing the difference between adapting and compromising but we all know that the line between the 2 can get blurry and often, we take engagements or make promises that after a while seem to “inconvenience” us, even though at the time we agreed whole heartedly.

Find out more on the topic on today's episode