Growth Marriage

I hope you enjoy today's amazing conversation with Don and Jan Gibson. Their love story is the stuff of legends.

I hope you enjoy today’s amazing conversation with Don and Jan Gibson. Their love story is the stuff of legends.

On this week's episode, Melissa and I sit down with Dr. Ali Binazir, author of The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible and several other books. He's a super insightful guy, and we cover a lot of different topics in this interview including: The 5 Principles of the Tao of Dating The Principle of Abundance Don't think scarcity Be. Do. Have. Be the kind of person. Do the kind of things. Have what you want. Enlightened Self-Interest Good decision making = The decision that serves the most amount of people for the longest amount of time. How do you fill your life with the things and people that will have positive long-term effects on you. Yin Yang You must have polarity in your relationships. Masculine and feminine. Giving and receiving. Different roles are essential to a dynamic relationship. Get Out of Your Own Way Often times the only thing standing in the way of what you want is you. The power women have to bring light into a relationship, act as a goddess, and inspire men. By mentally wishing happiness upon others, you can completely change your neurology. "May you be happy." The gift of appreciation and gratitude will make others feel valued and give you power in your relationships. The men determine the direction of the relationship. The women determine the depth. How meditation will transform your life and your relationships. "Bring your mind back from distraction." The destructive notion of Soulmates. A great way to tell whether or not you're a good fit for the person you're with is to notice what kind of person you become when you're around the other person. The Magic Question - What's important to you about that? "Remember that in life, everything that you want is outside of your comfort zone. Because if something is inside your comfort zone, it's either something you already have or something so trivial as to be undesirable: you don't want something you already have. So in order to get what you want but don't yet have, you have no choice but to venture outside of your comfort zone." -Dr. Ali Binazir

On this week’s episode, Melissa and I sit down with Dr. Ali Binazir, author of The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible and several other books. He's a super insightful guy, and we cover a lot of different topics in this interview including:

The 5 Principles of the Tao of Dating

The Principle of Abundance

Don't think scarcity

Be. Do. Have.

Be the kind of person. Do the kind of things. Have what you want.

Enlightened Self-Interest

Good decision making = The decision that serves the most amount of people for the longest amount of time. How do you fill your life with the things and people that will have positive long-term effects on you.

Yin Yang

You must have polarity in your relationships. Masculine and feminine. Giving and receiving. Different roles are essential to a dynamic relationship.

Get Out of Your Own Way

Often times the only thing standing in the way of what you want is you.

The power women have to bring light into a relationship, act as a goddess, and inspire men.

By mentally wishing happiness upon others, you can completely change your neurology. "May you be happy."

The gift of appreciation and gratitude will make others feel valued and give you power in your relationships.

The men determine the direction of the relationship. The women determine the depth.

How meditation will transform your life and your relationships. 

"Bring your mind back from distraction."

The destructive notion of Soulmates.

A great way to tell whether or not you're a good fit for the person you're with is to notice what kind of person you become when you're around the other person.

The Magic Question - What's important to you about that?

"Remember that in life, everything that you want is outside of your comfort zone. Because if something is inside your comfort zone, it's either something you already have or something so trivial as to be undesirable: you don't want something you already have. So in order to get what you want but don't yet have, you have no choice but to venture outside of your comfort zone."

 

-Dr. Ali Binazir

On this week's episode, we finish our conversation with Steve and Natalie from the 'burbs of Chicago. - What do you do to keep the love alive after having kids? - What advice would you give to people who want to have a relationship like yours? -"Go in with the mindset that you are not #1 anymore." -Natalie - Taking a leap of faith. "The bigger the promise, the bigger the leap." -Melissa Joy Kong - Loving people needs to become a habit, or a default. If love always has to be a conscious act, it's unsustainable. - Can divorce be an option? If so, what are the grounds for divorce? - "I don't believe in marriage for the sake of marriage. I believe in loving." -Steve What separates an average marriage from an amazing marriage?

On this week's episode, we finish our conversation with Steve and Natalie from the 'burbs of Chicago.

 

- What do you do to keep the love alive after having kids?

- What advice would you give to people who want to have a relationship like yours?

-"Go in with the mindset that you are not #1 anymore."

                -Natalie

- Taking a leap of faith. "The bigger the promise, the bigger the leap." 

                -Melissa Joy Kong

- Loving people needs to become a habit, or a default. If love always has to be a conscious act, it's unsustainable.

- Can divorce be an option? If so, what are the grounds for divorce?

- "I don't believe in marriage for the sake of marriage. I believe in loving."

             -Steve

 

What separates an average marriage from an amazing marriage?

On today's episode, Melissa and I sit down with Natalie and Steve of the suburbs of Chicago. We talk about their courtship, how it ended in breakup, then they got back together, then almost broke up again. We learn about why their belief in God is essential to the type of marriage they enjoy. And we talk a lot about trust and taking risks, and a lot of other awesome stuff like: - Blind dates - Favorite things - Dating so long you get to the point where you either get married or break up. - Sometimes the relationships that don't work prepare you for, and lead you to the one that does. - Learning to trust after you've had your heart broken. - Using the Bible's definition of love as the foundation for marriage.

On today's episode, Melissa and I sit down with Natalie and Steve of the suburbs of Chicago. We talk about their courtship, how it ended in breakup, then they got back together, then almost broke up again. We learn about why their belief in God is essential to the type of marriage they enjoy. And we talk a lot about trust and taking risks, and a lot of other awesome stuff like:

- Blind dates

- Favorite things

- Dating so long you get to the point where you either get married or break up.

- Sometimes the relationships that don't work prepare you for, and lead you to the one that does.

- Learning to trust after you've had your heart broken.

 

- Using the Bible's definition of love as the foundation for marriage.

In part 2 we wrap up last week's conversation with Jim and Cindy Wigdahl. Jim and Cindy have been friends for over 30 years, but have only been married for 4 or 5 years. Their story is amazing and sad and full of hope all at the same time. It will open your heart. I hope you love it.

In part 2 we wrap up last week's conversation with Jim and Cindy Wigdahl. Jim and Cindy have been friends for over 30 years, but have only been married for 4 or 5 years. Their story is amazing and sad and full of hope all at the same time. It will open your heart. I hope you love it.