Having perspective is key to overcoming a sense of lack of control. Nick Martin delves into his experience with the collateral damage of suicide. He talks about combating negative though, loneliness, and reaching out and connecting with your circle of influence. Martin explores his past trauma with losing a parent to suicide as a child and defying the odds.  

 KEYPOINTS

• Dealing with trauma and grief now versus then.
• Direct and indirect trauma 
• The collateral damage of suicide 

SEGMENT TIMESTAMPS

• 03:00 – Collateral Damage: Understanding trauma and grief during childhood.
• 10:15 – Time and understanding the differences of control.
• 18:30 – Coping mechanisms and the benefits of counseling
• 26:30 – Setting an example and running the race 

The only non-renewable resource you have is time. – Nick Martin

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A struggle of the mindset is breaking through the barriers of stigma. Brad Waudby delves into his experiences as a law enforcement officer. He talks about his struggles with alcoholism and recovery and gaining the tools to cope with stress, trauma, and grief. Brad talks about some of the turning points in his life, overcoming the lows, and discovering his systems of support. Brad Waudby is a Law Enforcement Officer. 

Join Brad Waudby as he talks about his road to sobriety.  

KEYPOINTS

• Vicarious trauma 
• Internalized Trauma
• Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and Radical Acceptance 
• Structures of support.

SEGMENT TIMESTAMPS

• 05:00 – Learned and applied coping skills.
• 08:40 – Internalized Trauma and the tipping point. 
• 21:00 – The mindset of then vs. now.
• 26:30 – Admitting you have a problem 

QUOTE:

Recovery and sobriety is not an event, it is a process. – Brad Waudby

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Working through the noise makes the process of the transitions easier. Chad Jenkins delves into his transition from out of the military. He talks about not wanting to leave the Army but making that sacrifice for his loved ones. Chad talks about pride, self-reliance, and leadership in the army and after active duty. Knowing the difference between receiving help and just checking the boxes. Join Chad Jenkins as he dives into acceptance and his experience with cognitive behavioral therapy and working through.  PTSD.  

KEYPOINTS

• Combat-related incidents and PTSD
• The influence of self-reliance and leadership
• Talking about PTSD during active duty 

SEGMENT TIMESTAMPS

• 05:00 – How culture teaches you to heal when dealing with complicated grief and PTSD.
• 09:00 – Emotional regulation after active duty.
• 15:00 – Transition from the military. Getting help and pushing through.
• 22:00 – Cognitive processes treatment. What to expect. 
• 30:00 – Coming to terms with grief. 

Mental health doesn’t stop once you complete the therapy. – Chad Jenkins

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Asking questions, taking responsibility, and being open to learning from life lessons provide you the skills to push through. Tiesha McNeil gives insight into learning from past lessons and asking for help. Seeking professional help will assist you in gaining an objective standpoint and guide you in the direction you need to go. Tiesha McNeil is a Business Development Consultant and Government Contractor. 

Joint Tiesha McNeil as she delves into analyzing her past and the lessons she learned on the way and finding professional help for guidance.    

SEGMENT TIMESTAMPS

• 05:00 – Culture and taboo around talking about previous trauma and grief
• 07:00 – Dealing with grief. What you were taught and what you learn. 
• 14:00 – Obtaining an objective standpoint. Seeking professional help 
• 17:00 – Generational advice. 
• 20:00 – Compassion Fatigue 

No one can tell you how to learn your own lessons – Tiesha McNeil

Sometimes there’s nothing you can do to change an outcome of a situation, you just have to accept what it is, and then work through it. – Tiesha McNeil

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Stepping back, taking things from different approaches will help you define your why. Jerome Myers delves into learning to deal with grief and loss throughout the years. He talks about experiencing love, challenging societal roles, and finding a rhythm when dealing with grief and loss. Jerome discusses accepting the circumstance and being open to asking for help and support. 

Join Jerome Myers as he delves into dealing with grief, loss, and knowing when to let go

KEYPOINTS

• First experience with trauma and grief.
• Managing grief and loss without the tools.
• Experiencing depression.
• The labels we wear

 SEGMENT TIMESTAMPS

• 01:00 – Dropping out of Corporate America. Facing reality
• 06:00 – Vicariously dealing with grief and trauma. 
• 09:45 – Experiencing loss. Going through the stages of grief and learning along the way.
• 16:00 – Retreating within. Nobody is going to save you. Pacifying loss.
• 22:00 – Letting go of control  
• 27:00 – Being just as kind to yourself as you are with others. 
• 30:00 – Words of advice

“What matters is what you do in the space that you’re in, and how you react to what’s being put in front of you.” – Jerome Myers

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Channeling grief through art is an effective way to build healthy coping strategies. Samantha Bryant’s passion for creative expression is the driving force behind advocating ways to constructively find ways to heal. Samantha delves into how she discovered art and drawing and how it helps her constructively channel her thoughts and feelings. She advocated for a military veteran who is looking for ways to heal because it is never too late to find an outlet. Samantha Bryant is a 4th Generation Army Veteran. 

KEYPOINTS 

• Discovering art through systems of support. Feeding your creativity.
• Finding the source of your grief. Channeling grief into something. constructive
• Professional help vs. Peer-to-Peer. Getting proper help.

SEGMENTS TIMESTAMPS 

• 01:30 – Time in the military. Being a 14 Tango.
• 05:00 – Drawing as an outlet, coping through art. Drawing inspiration from the greats. 
• 18:00 – How culture effects grief. Falling through the cracks and dealing with depression.
• 25:00 – Culturally Sensitive Therapy. Finding someone you can relate 
• 27:30 – Samantha Bryant’s words of wisdom.

QUOTES

“Take a deep breath and try to process exactly what it is you are feeling, and where the source of it is, and attack the source.” – Samantha Bryant

“There’s always someone out there that’s willing to listen at the level you want them to listen.” – Samantha Bryant

 “Darkness pain lasts a short amount of time but feels like it’s forever, happiness lasts a long time but feels like a blink of an eye.” – Samantha Bryant

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Advocating for yourself can get you where you need to go. Christian Montagliani’s passion for advocacy fuels his dedication to assisting Veterans through military transitioning. His firsthand experience with chronic pain is a major component of his life after sports. There are differences in experiences with being a collegiate athlete and a military veteran, but the wear and tear are always present. Join Christian as he shares his experience with chronic pain, grief and loss, and advocacy as a former collegiate athlete and Army Veteran. Christian Montagliani is the Founder of Hire2Lead, an Army Veteran, and former college athlete.

 KEYPOINTS 

• Complex grief and PTSD
• Seeking professional help and working through isolation and depression
• Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy (CTE)

TIMESTAMPS 

• 03:00 – Differences of experiences as a veteran. Trauma doesn’t have a face.
•  06:00 – Advocating for yourself and others. Ask for help and identify systems of support  
• 09:00 – Ware and tare of being an athlete, and chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE). 
• 13:00 – Coming to terms with grief and loss.  

“Keep pushing to make yourself better… there is help out there, and you’re going to have to be active in pursuing that help, but nobody can be a greater advocate for you than you can be yourself.” – Christian Montagliani

Christain Montagliani

• Hire2Lead: http://www.hire2lead.com

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Noticing the signs of grief and PTSD can go unnoticed but negatively affect how a person navigates their environment. Ralisha Mercer delves into the importance of understanding how to deal with a diagnosis, such as PTSD. Noticing the signs, seeking assistance, and building a system of support are the first steps to managing PTSD. Ralisha discusses ways to observe and assist someone who is suffering from PTSD, how to spot the symptoms and behaviors, and be a means of support to help them through their experience. Ralisha Mercer is a Masters of Counseling Graduate student and is in charge of Fundraising at North Carolina A&T University. 

Join Ralisha as she delves into different types of treatment for persons dealing with grief and PTSD and the importance of health and nutrition.

 KEYPOINTS

• PTSD: Explaining and reliving the event vs. explaining how you feel. 
• Letting go of fear instead of feeding it.
• Cognitive Behavior Therapy and PTSD
• Stigma around taking medication

TIMESTAMPS 

• 03:00 – Should we talk about PTSD and Complex Grief? How to have that conversation.
• 06:30 – Counseling treatment for trauma. Finding what’s right for you.
• 09:00 – The first line of defense. Recognizing the symptoms and systems of support
• 10:00 – How to observe and assist someone with PTSD
• 18:00 – Establishing new habits and learned behaviors. Being accountable for how you manage your PTSD.
• 22:00 – Establishing a healthy lifestyle (mental, physical, and nutrition)
• 32:20 – Common stage of grief people get stuck in. 
• 37:05 – Ralisha Mercer’s words of encouragement

"We have the power to hurt other people, so it’s not just about us, it is also about the other people who are confused and looking for answers." – Ralisha Mercer

Ralisha Mercer:

NCAT: https://www.ncat.edu/give/advancement/contact-us.php

The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/B00OBT7KAO/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=the+body+keeps+score&qid=1587668643&sr=8-2

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Redefining who you are can open new doorways and present new avenues for self-development and improvement. Rasheed Terry is doing just that! He is rededicating his life to health, fitness, and spirituality. After being broken down to bare bones, he has overcome PTSD and thoughts of suicide by identifying his systems of support and reconnecting with his spirituality through religion. Rasheed is the CEO of Point Target Fitness, a Master Fitness Trainer, and an 11-year Army Combat Veteran.

Join Rasheed as he talks about his experience with overcoming PTSD, grief, and talking about suicide and spirituality. 

KEYPOINTS 

• The Why’s that influence transitions
• Navigating parental and environmental influences
•  The positive impact of spirituality 
• Dealing with PTSD and complicated grief. Subject of speculation

SEGMENTS

• 02:00 – Driving passion for fitness and nutrition.
• 07:15 – The impact of alcoholism. Looking for an outlet and self-correcting
• 11:00 – Getting out of the military and figuring out. Masking the underlining issues. 
• 16:00 – Rasheed Terry’s words of wisdom. Be patient with yourself
• 23:30 – Talking about IT. Systems of support and suicide 
• 27:00 – Love thy neighbor. Love is patient, love is kind

“It’s hard to believe in things you can’t see or touch, but once you can humble yourself to believe in something that is greater than anything you can imagine, it can change your life.” – Rasheed Terry. 

Rasheed Terry

• Website: http://www.pointtargetfitness.com
• Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/PointTargetFitness/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pointtargetfitness/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/point_target

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Defining success is subjective but is often impacted by outside influences. 

Caleb Campbell talks about his experience with defining success as a former NFL player. He talks about the NFL and dealing with the effects of suffering from unresolved grief. Caleb addresses the direct correlation between deconstructing religion and finding happiness in his life. 

 Join Caleb Campbell as he delves into leaving the NFL, dealing with denial, shame, and finding spirituality.

KEYPOINTS 

• Being good enough and finding success.  
• The cost of not enjoying life in the moment 
• The benefits of therapy and working through grief and shame 
•  Reconciling with the self and others

SEGMENTS TIMESTAMPS 

• 01:30 – Getting into the NFL. Learning about why scoring touchdowns where important. 
• 07:25 – Living in denial. Experiencing imposter syndrome.
• 12:00 – Enjoying life and happiness is therapeutic. Dealing with shame 
• 18:00 – Existential questions in search of growth. Surrendering external values and tapping into internal values. 
• 31:30 – The vulnerability of seeing the truth. Seeking help to find your truth

And that was just a moment where I think I reached this level in life where enough is enough, I can’t fake it anymore… denial isn’t doing me good and I need help. – Caleb Campbell

When your life is driven by shame, shame reduces you into believing you are not enough. – Caleb Campbell

The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/B00OBT7KAO/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=the+body+keeps+score&qid=1587668643&sr=8-2

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