"Who am I" isn't a question you answer once. It's one you come back to.

In this episode of Guys & Chai, Ankur Varma sits down with Rahim Thawer — psychotherapist, educator, writer, and author of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys — for a conversation about what it costs to find yourself when the community that raised you has already answered that question for you.

Rahim talks about growing up Ismaili Muslim in Toronto, the years he spent moving — Singapore, Melbourne, Winnipeg, South Africa, now Alabama — and how distance became the way he made room to ask the harder questions. About coming out at 22, building psychic boundaries inside an insular extended family, getting sober at 38, and turning 40 with the kind of grief that comes from mourning who you didn't get to be.

This is a conversation about identity, belonging, and the quiet work of choosing a life that's actually yours — even when it means being punished for it.

The real conversation starts where the script ends. Pull up a cup.

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Kunal Makwana lost his father at seven. He built his life around what that loss taught him.

In our latest episode of Guys N' Chai, host Ankur Varma sits down with Kunal, founder of KMAK Fitness, and one of the most successful South Asian fitness coaches in the world to talk about everything that came before the business. Growing up across Kenya, Tanzania, and London. Losing his father to lung cancer in six months. Defying his family's expectations to pursue sports when "doctor or lawyer" was the only acceptable answer. And building a company that's now transformed over 3,000 South Asian lives.

Kunal opens up about identity in the diaspora, the immigrant mother who didn't understand his choices until much later, and the question that quietly drives him: what does it mean to live a life that's actually yours?

Plus, his framework on consistency and why fitness doesn't have to be the number one priority in your life to actually work, that anyone trying to build a sustainable practice will want to save.

The real conversation starts where the script ends. Pull up a cup.

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In our first episode ever of Guys N' Chai, Ankur Varma is joined by Rahul Sharma, founder of Funkadesi, psychologist, and educator joins to discuss everything from evaporated milk in his family chai recipe to Kenya and now to his secret CHAI recipe.

Guys N' Chai Podcast is produced by Brown Man Therapy.

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About Guys N' Chai

Brown men are taught to hold it together. Guys & Chai is what happens when we stop.

Hosted by Ankur Varma — licensed psychotherapist and co-founder of Brown Man Therapy — this is a podcast about success and everything that comes with it. The pressure. The self-doubt. The silence between what we say and what we actually carry.

Born out of real conversations at Guys & Chai events, each episode sits down with a South Asian man to talk honestly about his story, what he's learned, and what he wishes more of us talked about. No talking points. No performing. Just two guys, chai, and the conversation that starts where the script ends.

New episodes drop monthly.

Learn more about Guys N' Chai Podcast and Brown Man Therapy, a non-profit organization bringing awareness and solutions to South Asian men's mental health, by visiting us at the spaces below:

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