In this Minisode, the guys share the tips that've helped them break free from their phone addictions and reclaim their sanity.

**Mentioned:**

- [Change Your Screen to Grayscale to Combat Phone Addiction](https://lifehacker.com/change-your-screen-to-grayscale-to-combat-phone-addicti-1795821843)

- [Moment (iOS app)](https://inthemoment.io/)

- [Ezra Klein interview w/ Tristan Harris](https://www.vox.com/technology/2018/2/19/17020310/tristan-harris-facebook-twitter-humane-tech-time)

- Center for Humane Technology ([timewellspent.io](https://timewellspent.io))

- Jaemin's blog post on [Breaking the Phone Addiction](http://www.jaeminyi.com/breaking-phone-addiction/)

In this Minisode, the guys discuss the Netflix documentary, "[The Mask You Live In](http://http://therepresentationproject.org/film/the-mask-you-live-in/)".

They explore masculinity in our culture and themes such as: why our boys and men are going through such a crisis, how men are longing to connect with one another (and Gabe & Jaemin's own story with this), how we can better raise our sons, and how to help shift this problem.

**Mentioned:**

- ["The Mask You Live In" trailer](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo)

- [5 Ways to Help Reduce the Male Suicide Rate](http://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/2017/12/5-ways-to-help-reduce-the-male-suicide-rate/)

- [Tweet on Male Violence](http://twitter.com/absurdistwords/status/938630830531936257)

Share your thoughts, feedback, or suggestions for the next Minisode at [email protected]

Jaemin and Gabe dive deep on a topic that's completely changed both their lives: therapy!

They discuss how seeing a therapist is like "5 years of growth in weeks"; how it may be the antidote to toxic masculinity; they share their own therapy journeys; and tips on how to find an awesome therapist.

Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at [email protected]

### Show Notes

(2:14) Remembering [Shirley Ford](http://laschoolreport.com/shirley-ford-passionate-los-angeles-education-advocate-and-co-founder-of-parent-revolution-dies/)

(5:34) **Deep Dive: Why Every Guy Should Consider Therapy**

(7:43) How we define "therapy".

(8:54) **Jaemin's therapy story** (and why he sees it as "self-growth on steroids").

(17:04) **Gabe's therapy story.**

(19:52) Why Gabe thinks therapy is one of the Top 5 best decisions he's ever made.

(24:13) **Big takeaways about therapy.**

(24:23) Therapy is the antidote to toxic masculinity.

(27:30) Therapy has such an impact on the highs and lows and life.

(29:13) It's like 5 years of growth every few weeks.

(31:32) **How to find a therapist**

(31:54) Different types of therapy: CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), somatic, sex and relationship, Internal Family Systems, etc.

(32:59) Some tips on finding the right therapist:

- Give yourself a time limit of a few hours of searching on Yelp

- Do a few free phone consultations

- Pick your favorite one and just schedule an appointment

- Don't let perfect be the enemy of good...just go for it! You may have to try a few different ones and that's totally okay.

(37:15) Why going weekly is really important.

(38:24) Therapy can be expensive. How to bring costs down. And why the high cost is worth it.

- Jaemin's blog post: [How to Find an Awesome Therapist](www.jaeminyi.com/find-an-awesome-therapist/)

- New York Times article: [How to Find the Right Therapist](https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/17/smarter-living/how-to-find-the-right-therapist.html)

(42:35) **Quick Picks**

Gabe: Tea instead of coffee.

(45:13) Jaemin: [Brain.fm](https://www1.brain.fm/) - AI generated music that helps with focus, relaxation, and sleep.

### **Find Us Online**

[Gabe’s twitter](https://twitter.com/gaberose)

> – Gabe’s latest post: [We Have to Do This Right](http://www.gaberose.com/blog/how-the-democratic-party-may-be-hurting-the-metoo-movement)

[Jaemin’s twitter](https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi)

> – Jaemin’s latest post: [Men, It's Time to Make Amends](http://www.jaeminyi.com/men-time-make-amends/)

Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by [Broke For Free](http://brokeforfree.com/).

In this special Valentines Day Minisode, Jaemin mounts a passionate defense of the app everyone loves to hate: Tinder.

The guys talk about how Jaemin went from hating the Tinder experience to appreciating it, how it's enriched his life, and the one tip that'll make the biggest difference in your quality of matches.

Share your thoughts, feedback, or your own experiences with Tinder at [email protected]

In this Minisode, the guys talk about Jaemin's first 10-day spiritual retreat (in the mountains of Spain)!

They discuss what he got out of it, how it affected his life moving forward, and tips on pitfalls to watch out for (like chasing the post-retreat highs), and how to integrate the experience into the rest of your daily life.

Send us thoughts, feedback, and suggestions for the next Minisode at [email protected]

Jaemin and Gabe take a look back at the feelings that defined their 2017 - and the ones they're looking forward to exploring in 2018.

They also reflect on the 1st birthday of the podcast and share their top Quick Picks of the year!

Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at [email protected]

### Show Notes

(3:15) **The Feelings of 2017**

Gabe's #1 Feeling of 2017: Honesty

(10:44) Jaemin's #1 Feeling of 2017: Inspiration (Self-Expression)

(16:53) Gabe's #2 Feeling: Curiosity

(23:00) Jaemin's #2 Feeling: Love (with others, with self)

(29:43) **The** **Feelings of 2018**

(35:34) Reflections on one year of podcasting.

(40:04) **Quick Picks**

Gabe: Hack your phone so you use it less ([Moment](https://inthemoment.io/), [Freedom](https://freedom.to/); [turn display to grayscale](https://lifehacker.com/change-your-screen-to-grayscale-to-combat-phone-addicti-1795821843); keep it out of the bedroom)

(42:59) Jaemin: Do 30 minutes of writing every day.

### **Find Us Online**

[Gabe’s twitter](https://twitter.com/gaberose)

> – Gabe’s latest post: [We Have to Do This Right](http://www.gaberose.com/blog/how-the-democratic-party-may-be-hurting-the-metoo-movement)

[Jaemin’s twitter](https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi)

> – Jaemin’s latest post: [How to Create Habits (Without Being an Asshole to Yourself)](http://www.jaeminyi.com/create-habits-without-being-an-asshole/ "Link: http://www.jaeminyi.com/create-habits-without-being-an-asshole/")

Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by [Broke For Free](http://brokeforfree.com/)

Jaemin and Gabe answer the question: "What advice do you wish you could've given yourself 10 years ago?"

They also share a bunch of answers from their online community (including Gabe's mom), as well as discussing what alpha males can learn from alpha wolves, and why you should pancake surprise your friends.

Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at [email protected]

### Show Notes

(2:50) Jaemin's video for Planned Parenthood [got nominated](http://shortyawards.com/2nd-socialgood/the-abortion-pill-in-clinic-abortion) for a Shorty Social Good Award!

(4:03) Jaemin and Gabe's [video for Flippable](http://www.imaginarylava.org/project/flippable/).

(9:00) **Deep Dive: What advice do you wish you could've given yourself 10 years ago?**

(9:20) Our online community shares their advice.

(11:48) Gabe's mom shares her advice.

(13:29) Shane's letter to his teenage self.

(16:51) Gabe's #1 Advice: To really look for and build community.

(18:57) Jaemin’s #1 Advice: To not try and do it all on your own.

(23:33) Gabe's #2 Advice: Be careful what percentage of your sense of self you tie up in your job/career.

(28:37) Jaemin’s #2 Advice: Creativity should be for you - not for others.

(35:46) Eric shares his advice.

(41:42) **GWF Read of the Month:** [Tapping Your Inner Wolf ](https://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/06/opinion/tapping-your-inner-wolf.html)(NYTimes)

(48:02) **Quick Picks**

Gabe: [Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City](https://www.amazon.com/Evicted-Poverty-Profit-American-City/dp/0553447432) by Matthew Desmond

(52:00) Jaemin’s: Pancake Surprise your friends.

### **Find Us Online**

[Gabe’s twitter](https://twitter.com/gaberose)

> – Gabe’s latest post: [Asking Different Questions](http://www.gaberose.com/blog/asking-different-questions)

[Jaemin’s twitter](https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi "Link: https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi")

> – Jaemin’s latest post: [How to Survive Working from Home](http://www.jaeminyi.com/survive-working-from-home/)

Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by [Broke For Free](http://brokeforfree.com/ "Link: http://brokeforfree.com/")

Jaemin and Gabe welcome guest Kareem Hammad to dive deep into a topic near and dear to their hearts: Burning Man.

They discuss what it is, why it's so transformational, how it helps men become more vulnerable, their controversial beliefs about it, and much more!

Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at [email protected]

### Show Notes

(4:38) **Clip Montage #1: What was your last Burning Man like?**

(5:35) What is Burning Man?

(10:39) **Clip Montage #2: What's a favorite memory from your last Burn?**

(13:11) Kareem: dancing to the Raj Mahal.

(14:18) Gabe: Burner wedding and Temple burn.

(16:02) The beauty and spirituality of the Temple.

(17:27) Jaemin: encountering a stranger in a dust storm.

(20:01) **Clip Montage #3: How has Burning Man changed you?**

(21:33) Jaemin: how BM transformed Gabe & Jaemin's friendship and led to the creation of this podcast.

(23:34) Gabe: discovering what authenticity and inner-honesty really mean.

(26:10) Kareem: questioning and reassessing everything in his life afterwards.

(27:33) How BM helps men become more vulnerable and emotionally open.

(31:17) Shifting from individual transformation to community building. The importance of community in the Burn.

(36:14) **Question: What's one belief you hold about Burning Man that may be a little controversial?**

(36:27) Gabe: BM can be full of lows...and those are a tremendously valuable part of the event.

(40:52) Jaemin: There's a silver lining to the rising trend of turnkey camps and celebrities (like Paris Hilton) visiting.

(44:42) Gabe defends Paris Hilton.

(47:45) Kareem: Burning Man isn't the only place you can find this.

(49:03) What does the rise of festival culture say about us?

(52:41) Cultivating and living in community is one way to keep the magic of BM alive 24/7.

(56:52) **Quick Picks**

Kareem: [The Age of Cryptocurrency](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00L73JQ18/) by Paul Vigna and Michael J. Casey.

(59:57) Gabe: Brewery in Richmond, CA called [Armistice Brewing Company](http://www.armisticebrewing.com/) (started by former GWF guest and Renaissance woman, [Alex Zobel](http://www.guyswithfeelings.co/e/354cdc51f39cba/))

(1:01) Jaemin: How a few minutes of daily stretching tricked me into loving yoga.

**Find Us Online**

[Kareem's Soundcloud](https://soundcloud.com/teamkareem)

[Gabe’s Twitter](https://twitter.com/gaberose)

[Jaemin’s twitter](https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi)

> – Jaemin’s latest post: [What Surprised Me About Living in a 38-Person Mansion](http://www.jaeminyi.com/living-in-a-38-person-mansion/)

Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by [Broke For Free](http://brokeforfree.com/)

Jaemin and Gabe discuss embracing the lows of life, as well as manscaping, banishing phones from bedrooms, an easier way to call your representatives, updates on Jaemin's online dating life, and more!

Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at [email protected]

### Show Notes

(4:20) **Deep Dive: Embracing the Lows**

(6:20) Interview with [Allie Lapidus](http://www.allielapidus.com/) on having to take a retail makeup job that she was resisting for years – and how it ended up being exactly what she needed.

(9:40) What makes lows such powerful growth catalysts?

(11:50) Jaemin’s low story: struggling with severe hypothyroidism for 6 months and becoming a monk on a mountaintop.

(15:25) How lows force you to carve out your own unique path – and help you become a teacher for others.

(17:32) Is there way to smooth out the crashes between highs and lows?

(22:53) Strategies on dealing with lows when they come up.

(26:53) How helpful a therapist can be (and how annoying it can be to find the right one).

(31:26) **Quick Picks**

Gabe’s #1: Buy an old school alarm clock (and keep your phone out of the bedroom).

(35:07) Jaemin’s #1: Easily call your representatives with the [5 Calls](https://5calls.org/) app.

(39:18) Gabe’s #2: Two pop culture recommendations: a podcast called [Longform](https://longform.org/podcast) and a graphic novel called [Saga](https://www.amazon.com/Saga-Book-One-Brian-Vaughan/dp/1632150786/).

> – [Watchmen](https://www.amazon.com/Watchmen-Alan-Moore/dp/1401219268/)

> – [Maus](https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Maus-Art-Spiegelman/dp/0679406417/)

(43:05) Jaemin’s #2: Getting a bodyhair trimmer ([Philips Norelco Bodygroom](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0037HP9OA/)).

(44:36) Gabe’s #3: [Recomendo](http://recomendo.com/) weekly newsletter.

(46:33) Jaemin’s #3: [Master of None](https://www.netflix.com/title/80049714) S2 (Netflix).

> – Master of None “Thanksgiving” [episode recap](http://www.avclub.com/tvclub/master-nones-thanksgiving-presents-one-best-coming-255989 "Link: http://www.avclub.com/tvclub/master-nones-thanksgiving-presents-one-best-coming-255989")

> – Kumail Nanjiani’s [The Big Sick](http://www.thebigsickmovie.com/)

> – [Hasan Minhaj: Homecoming King](https://www.netflix.com/title/80134781 "Link: https://www.netflix.com/title/80134781")

**Find Us Online**

[Gabe’s twitter](https://twitter.com/gaberose)

> – Gabe’s latest post: [“Simple Lifehack: Banishing the Phone From the Bedroom””](http://www.gaberose.com/blog/simple-lifehack-banishing-the-phone-from-the-bedroom)

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[Jaemin’s twitter](https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi)

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> – Jaemin’s latest post: [“The Relationship Theory that Melted My Cold Heart”](http://www.jaeminyi.com/relationship-theory-that-melted-my-cold-heart/)

Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by [Broke For Free](http://brokeforfree.com/)

Jaemin and Gabe discuss making writing an effortless habit, the birthday blues, online dating woes, new favorite podcasts, microfiber towels, and more!

Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at [email protected].

Show Notes

(4:00) What Are You Bringing to the Table?

• Gabe: The Birthday Blues…why is this such a prevalent thing?

• (14:15) Jaemin: How I finally made writing an effortless, enjoyable habit (after struggling for over a decade).

(28:25) Quick Picks

• Gabe’s #1: Making your own almond milk.

• (31:31) Jaemin’s #1: New favorite podcast: The Daily by the New York Times.

• (34:51) Gabe’s #2: Chrome extension for finding email addresses: Hunter

• (37:18) Jaemin’s #2: Ulysses writing app (for Mac and iOS)

• (41:40) Gabe’s #3: Parting the Waters : America in the King Years 1954-63 by Taylor Branch

• (44:55) Jaemin’s #3: Antibacterial microfiber towels infused with silver. (Norwex, E-Cloth)

Find Us Online

• Gabe’s twitter

– Gabe’s latest blog post: “My Top 6 Books of 2016””

• Jaemin’s twitter

– Jaemin’s latest blog post: “My Favorite Podcasts of 2017”

• Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free