Guyset

Welcome back to another Dear Guyset episode, where I answer the questions guys are actually asking about dating, relationships, work, confidence, fitness, and everything in between. I'm no expert, but I am going through all of this alongside you, sharing what I've learned so far and what I continue to learn along the way.

Is it weird to want a relationship but not know if you're ready for one? How do you get your boss to notice your work? How do you start lifting when you have no idea what you're doing? In this episode, I answer your questions about commitment, confidence, work, fitness, side hustles, and the uncertainty that comes with being in your 20s.

One of my favorite things about these episodes is realizing how many of us are asking the same questions. A lot of the time we think we're the only ones who feel lost, unsure, or confused about what to do next, when in reality almost everyone is wondering the same things. If one guy has a question, chances are a lot of other guys are wondering the exact same thing. That's why I love opening the vault on these conversations and talking about the things we don't always say out loud.

Timestamps:

03:18 Is it weird that I want a relationship but don't know if I'm ready to be in one?

08:45 My boss doesn't really notice my work. How do I change that?

13:04 I've been talking to this girl for three weeks. How do I ask where it's going?

17:24 How did you start lifting?

26:08 Is it normal to still have no idea what I'm doing?

29:35 I want to start a side project, but I'm exhausted after work. How do people do both?

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Intern season is here. In this episode, I share the advice I wish someone gave me before my first internship, including how to meet people, make yourself known, ask better questions, stand out at work, and create opportunities for yourself. Whether you're starting your first internship or your first full-time job, these are the lessons that helped me build confidence, earn trust, and get the most out of every opportunity. If you're trying to figure out how to stand out professionally without pretending to have everything figured out, this episode is for you.

For more Guyset:

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See you guys next Tuesday!

What can guys learn about confidence, vulnerability, relationships, and communication from one of the biggest shows in the world right now?

In this episode, I break down the biggest lessons I took away from Off Campus and why I think it might secretly be one of the best guides to dating, relationships, and becoming a better man.

Before you skip this because you haven't seen the show, you don't need to have watched a single episode to get something from this conversation. The lessons we're talking about go far beyond Off Campus and apply to dating, friendships, confidence, communication, and life in general.

From putting yourself out there and showing genuine confidence to building trust, communicating better, and learning how vulnerability can become a strength, there's a lot more beneath the surface of this story than most people realize.

Whether you've watched Off Campus five times or have no idea what it is, this episode is about the bigger lessons hiding inside the things we watch and what they can teach us about becoming better men, friends, and people.

For more Guyset:

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See you guys next Tuesday!

Turning 26 made me realize how much can change in a single year.

In this episode, I talk about the 10 biggest lessons I learned at 25 about confidence, comparison, relationships, career growth, self-doubt, gratitude, and believing in yourself when you're still figuring life out in your 20s.

I talk about developing a growth mindset, putting yourself out there, building confidence through action, handling uncertainty, getting out of your head, and learning how to actually enjoy your life while you're building it.

If you've ever felt behind, overwhelmed, anxious about the future, or unsure where your life is going, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

00:18 Turning 26 and reflecting on the past year

06:00 The "4 out of 7 days" mindset

10:00 Why a growth mindset changes everything

12:00 You choose how you handle life

15:50 Increase your surface area

18:15 Nobody is going to do it for you

20:30 Building a network and asking for help

24:50 Living more and getting out of your head

26:30 Making your head a better place to be

27:15 Practicing gratitude every day

29:30 Why you should believe in yourself

31:00 Final thoughts

For more Guyset:

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See you guys next Tuesday!

In this month's Dear Guyset episode, I answer the questions guys are actually asking about dating, confidence, work, and figuring out your 20s. I talk about age gaps in relationships, whether pick up lines ever actually work, how to prepare for a job interview quickly, why dating apps can feel so frustrating, and how to negotiate your salary without completely panicking.

If you've ever felt like everyone else secretly knows what they're doing except you, this episode is for you.

Topics:

02:31 What are your thoughts on age gaps in relationships?

11:40 Why do I keep meeting people I hate on dating apps?

16:35 Are there good pickup lines?

20:05 How do you prepare for an interview quickly?

28:05 How much should you be texting when you first start seeing someone?

30:45 How do I negotiate my salary?

38:00 How often should you wash your work shirts?

For more Guyset:

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This week, I wanted to talk about something I think so many people struggle with after graduation, during their first jobs, or honestly at any point in their 20s: how to actually figure out what you want to do with your life.

I talk about why I think we spend so much time obsessing over what could be or what could've been instead of paying attention to the things already right in front of us that are trying to point us somewhere. The projects that excite you. The conversations you actually look forward to. The things that come naturally to you that you keep dismissing.

I also talk about the idea of finding your "through line" and how the experiences, jobs, interests, and moments in your life eventually start connecting in ways you can't fully understand yet.

In this episode, I talk about:

• How to figure out what you actually want to do
• Why you can't connect the dots looking forward
• What your first job is really teaching you
• How to stop comparing your path to everyone else's
• Why curiosity matters more than certainty
• How to use what's already in front of you to start building a life that actually feels right for you

If you've been feeling lost, stuck, overwhelmed, behind, or unsure of what direction your life is supposed to go in, I really hope this episode helps.

New episodes of Guyset every Tuesday.

For more Guyset:

Watch full episodes on YouTube: @guyset

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If You're Going On A Date This Week: listen here

See you guys next Tuesday!

No one really tells you what life actually feels like after college.

There's no clear structure anymore. No defined path. And for the first time, it's fully on you to figure out what comes next.

In this episode, I talk about post-grad life and why this phase can feel so uncertain. The pressure to have things figured out, the questions about your career, your friends, your future, and the feeling that you might be falling behind.

I get into why this happens, why you start to doubt yourself, and how to handle uncertainty when you don't have clear answers. What it means to feel lost in your 20s, how to deal with big life transitions, and how to start trusting yourself as you figure things out.

If you've been feeling lost after college, unsure about your next step, or you're about to graduate and starting to feel this coming, this is that experience put into words.

For more Guyset:

Watch full episodes on YouTube: @guyset

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If You're Going On A Date This Week: listen here

See you guys next Tuesday!

Why does it feel like everyone is watching you at the gym? Why do you feel like an imposter, even when you've been showing up consistently?

In this episode, I break down the internal monologue of lifting, what gym imposter syndrome actually feels like, and why that voice in your head doesn't fully go away. I talk about the moment I felt like I didn't deserve a bench, how that brought me back to when I first started, and the mindset shift that changed everything.

If you've ever felt judged, out of place, or unsure of yourself at the gym or in your life, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro

0:18 Why I started lifting

2:30 Feeling like an imposter at the gym

3:45 The bench moment

7:10 "I don't deserve to be here"

9:20 The realization: no one is watching you

12:00 Why you have to keep showing up

15:00 Why guys don't talk about this

18:30 Everyone feels this way

24:30 The mindset shift

27:10 Take up space

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How do you respond to a breakup text? Should you send one after a few dates? What if sex felt awkward the first time? And how do you actually come across as confident on a date?

In this episode of Guyset, I answer real questions guys are asking about breakups, awkward sex, confidence, rejection, and navigating situations no one really prepares you for.

If you've ever overthought a text, felt unsure after a hookup, or questioned how you come across on a date, this episode will give you real, honest perspective on what to do next.

This episode covers:

• How to respond to a breakup text (and what not to say)
• Whether you should send a breakup text after 2–3 dates
• How many drinks is too many at a work happy hour
• What to do if sex felt awkward or "bad"
• How to come across as more confident on a date
• How to deal with rejection (especially when you really wanted something)

Timestamps:

02:33 How do I respond to a breakup text?

06:55 Should I send a breakup text after 2–3 dates?

09:16 How many drinks should you have at a work happy hour?

15:36 I felt bad after having sex, where do I go from here?

20:53 How do I come across as more confident on a date?

25:20 I didn't get the job I wanted, how do I deal with rejection?

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How do you stay consistent when motivation disappears? What does it actually take to build something, stay disciplined, and get better over time?

In this episode of Guyset, I break down the concept of the daily practice and why consistency, discipline, and belief are the real difference between people who succeed and people who don't.

I talk about a Juilliard flute player who practices 5+ times a day, Elizabeth Gilbert's perspective on handling both failure and massive success, and what 150 episodes of Guyset has taught me about showing up every single day.

If you've been feeling stuck, unmotivated, or unsure if what you're doing is working, this episode will help you build momentum and stay consistent even when motivation fades.

This episode covers:

• How to build a daily practice and actually stick to it
• Why success and failure can feel more similar than you'd expect
• What 150 episodes taught me about long-term consistency
• How to stay disciplined when motivation is completely gone
• The mindset shift that separates people who build something from people who don't

Motivation is fleeting. Belief isn't. And consistency is the flex.

Timestamps:

00:45 150 episodes in and what this episode is about

02:30 The daily practice concept explained

03:30 The Juilliard flute player story

07:15 What it actually takes to be great

08:45 Elizabeth Gilbert and handling success vs failure

13:45 Coming back to what you love

16:00 What building Guyset taught me

18:30 The reality of inconsistency, doubt, and rejection

20:30 Why motivation isn't enough

22:00 Consistency, belief, and long-term growth

23:45 Final takeaway: consistency is the flex

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See you next Tuesday!