Dear Mary,

My kids are eating everything in sight.  My god, I don’t know where they are putting it all.  I’ve never gone through so much food in my life.  I think I have enough for the week and the little scavengers are eating days worth of food in an afternoon.  It wouldn’t be so bad if I could run to the store but those days are gone.  I don’t want to starve them or give them an eating complex but there’s got to be a middle ground.  Help.

Eating me out of house and home

Dear Mary,

I’m starting to freak out.  It’s May and all the plans I had made for my kids this summer are falling apart.  Their camps aren’t happening, summer internships and jobs aren’t happening.  My husband going back to work probably isn’t happening.  What the hell am I supposed to do with all of them?  It’s been hard enough for two months, how will I manage for several more?

Losing my Sh*t in Summer

Dear Mary,

I’m not sure if I can take this much longer. My partner has no respect for my work at home hours. He continues to barge in while I am on phone calls or zoom meetings to ask random questions such as “is this milk still good”? 
I mean, are you serious?! Read the expiration date or smell it!

Ugh!

Sincerely - The Death Glare

Dear Mary,

I’m trying to stay connected to my partner while cooped up all day and night.  We haven’t found any way to have sex. We usually end up with at least one kid or another in our bed for part of the night.  I get that, They are out of sorts but what are we to do about a sex life?

Sexless in Pandemic

Dear Mary,

My district has determined that my high schooler will be graded on a pass/fail basis for the rest of this year.  I’m so upset by this.  It will mess up his GPA and screw up his chances on getting into the college he wants.  We’ve worked so hard to keep him on track for a high level academic education and this will surely make him a less qualified candidate.  I’m so upset by their lack of ability to not give grades and understand how important this is.

Signed,

The Administration gets an F

Dear Hail Mary,

I used to dread the weekends when my partner was home and the unspoken tension could not be avoided.  Monday mornings when my partner went to work could not come fast enough.  Now we’re stuck together in the house with no escape mechanism.  I feel like I’m about to explode and have no outlet.  How do I navigate this without blowing a gasket or becoming an alcoholic?

Cranked up and Ready to blow

Dear Mary,

My partner got to sleep late, which meant I slept late and now I’m writing to you because the truck to pick up the recycling passed our house while I was in the bathroom so we missed it and I am asking myself, look it’s 2020, exactly how much housework am I supposed to do?!

My partner is not great at these things normally which is fine because he works all day at an office and  I am happy to help out since I work from home.

With the pandemic he is at home all day every day. I’m doing twice the dishes (why is my favorite egg pan never clean?!) and I feel like I’m handling most of the chores.

Is this reasonable? I don’t want to be a jerk while he is adjusting but I don’t want to be taken advantage of either.

Dishpan Hands

Dear Mary,

Please help me, I’m at my wit’s end with my partner.

Working from home in our tiny spaces means that I am downstairs at my “desk” in the kitchen, often on the phone.

My partner has been staying up late talking with friends. I understand trying to find this new normal is hard and I’m glad he is doing this without drinking.

That said, when he gets up at 10 AM and fires up the espresso machine right next to my desk and the volume goes up to ten while I’m on the phone talking with a client it makes me feel like I’m living with a teenager, not a grown man. Isn’t it obvious I’m on the phone? Is he that clueless?

I’m telling him my schedule for the next day so he can plan around it but planning doesn’t seem to be his forte.

At my Wit’s End

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