Handing the Shame Back

Meet Oliver le Clerk
Survivor. Partner. Dog Lover.

When Olly was 10 years old his dad’s cousin - who was a convicted paedophile, started grooming him. He was 13 when he was sexually abused by him. This man was considered deeply religious, and pastor of a church. As life progressed for Olly, he met his wife, who a year into their relationship disclosed her own history of sexual abuse. To learn how this couple navigated their own history of this, watch the show.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

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Anke Richter
Decult Founder and Director. Author. Journalist.

Anke Richter is an award-winning international journalist, author and cult-awareness advocate in New Zealand. She is the founder and director of Decult, a charity focused on exposing coercive control and supporting people affected by cults and high-control groups. Anke is the author of Cult Trip: Inside the World of Coercion & Control.

The Decult 2026 Voices of Courage Conference is being held on 24 and 25 October in Christchurch, New Zealand. Virtual tickets are also available, so you can watch the conference online from wherever you are in the world.

https://decult.net/
https://events.humanitix.com/decult-2026-cult-awareness-conference
https://ankerichter.net/

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

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Meet Olly Starr (He/They)
Survivor. Writer

Olly is from Iowa and was sexually abused as a 6 year old by the son of his mother's boyfriend. That happened once. When he was 13, he was abused on multiple occasions by his ‘best friend’ who was a few years older. He did tell his father, who Olly felt remained neutral instead of fully supportive of him. This caused ongoing trauma for years, culminating in 37 admissions to a psych unit. Olly’s story is inspirational and therefore a must watch.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

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Meet Jay Sefton
Survivor. Mental Health Counsellor. Actor. Playwright.

Jay was chosen to play “Jesus” in the Passion Play by a priest in the catholic church. He was 13 years old.

He was so thrilled to be selected, as he always wanted to be an actor. What was to follow were years of sexual abuse from this priest which took place not only within the vestibule but also on camping and ski trips.

Jay is now a renowned playwright and actor. If you’d like to connect with him or see his latest play called Unrecognised, visit his website at https://www.unreconciledtheplay.com/, or follow him on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/unreconciledtheplay/. Alternatively, you can email him at [email protected].

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org 

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Meet Dr Caroline Ansley

Co-host of Cult Chat Podcast. Survivor. Clinical lead of the cult informed professional network.

If you want to understand more about the closed systems cults are; watch this interview. Caroline has a wealth of experience and knowledge to share in this space. She describes how cults actually operate, and the loss of identity that ensues. She is a survivor of child sexual abuse at the Centrepoint Community (Cult) when she was just 7 years old.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

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Marcus is a Survivor.

He was adopted at 3 years of age and was abused from the age of 7 years old spanning a 10 year period. His abusers were many and included both men and women. His marriage involved more abuse culminating in him being stabbed by his wife, but as men were not considered to be ‘victims’ of physical abuse at that time, he felt he could not lay charges. His story is inspiring and offers hope and support to all men who struggle to find their voices.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

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Meet Rebecca Rose
Healer. Survivor. Outdoor Enthusiast.

She was abused for the first seven years of her life by her godfather, her fathers best friend. He took her to a lot of events where the drug ketamine was used to keep her compliant and also block her memory. She was also sexually abused by both her mother and father, although she believes this happened independently of the other. Rebecca also talks about navy intelligence with links to the CIA and NASA being implicit in her abuse.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

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Gloria is joined by Sean Lyons, Chief Online Safety Officer at Netsafe NZ, where he has worked for 20 years and also serves as Netsafe’s functional lead on Child Sexual Abuse online.

With experience in both the IT industry and education across the UK and New Zealand, Sean has a keen interest in how technology can be used to perpetrate harm online and how it can better be used to address it.

Sean is an active member of INHOPE, the international association of online child sexual abuse hotlines, and also serves on the Meta Safety Advisory Council.

A thoughtful and important conversation for parents, caregivers, educators, and anyone wanting to better understand child safety in digital spaces.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

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Meet Kathie A.
Strong advocate of Survivors. Widow of a survivor.

In 2016 Kathie’s husband Kevin told her about his abuse at the hands of a catholic priest when he was 13 years old. Fast track to age 52, when he had a sudden cardiac arrest and his life was brought to an abrupt end.

Watch the story unfold as Kathie courageously shares all that led up to his passing, and her incredible advocacy both before and after this tragedy.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

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Meet Brianne Williams
Survivor. Counsellor. Outdoor recreation enthusiast.

Brianne was abused from 2 - 14 years of age. Her abusers were her father and her paternal grandfather. It was an open secret in their family, and was, she felt generational. Brianne did really well at school and was a high achiever, but as she states, all it did was mask the reality of the trauma she was experiencing.

If you’d like to connect with Brianne, please visit: https://briannehwilliams.com/

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

We are on all social media platforms:
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