Hanging Out 4ever

Besties, our most asked question is "what is it like dating interracially?" but our second???!!

"How have y'all been together for NINE years?"

So we're finally answering it.

This week we're talking about what actually keeps a long-term relationship healthy, from communication and trust to keeping the spark alive, learning your partner, and why some couples grow together while others slowly drift apart.

If you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or single wanting insight to help your dating journey, this episode will give y'all a few things to take into your own relationship/lives

Let us know what you think and how you've stayed in love with your partner over the years!

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

WE'RE BACK WITH ANOTHER EPISODE OF BESTIE-MAIL

Yes, this is later than our normal release time. Aja had jury duty. It sucked. but anywhooo,

We're back with more dilemmas, more drama, and more people who need advice from us and you.

Lets lock in because these are... interesting
This week we've got
1. A couple who are exploring polyamory 👀
2. A Black girl who'se white boyfriend is racist 😭
3. A badass Queen, who doesnt wanna change her last name once she's married.

Whip out your glasses and notebook, we're all therapists on this episode.
and Besties, we def need to hear your thoughts on this one. 
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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Besties, in this week’s episode, Aja invites you into the Ladies Lounge for a serious conversation about dating a guy other men would classify as a “simp.”

Unfortunately, there’s a dominant narrative that men who “simp” for their women are weak or emasculated, and Aja is here to argue the opposite.

Let’s break down what the term simp really means and how a popularized, often misused phrase has been weaponized against men who actually give a sh*t about their girlfriends, partners, and wives.

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 !

and theres a BIG DILEMMA about pregnancy and childbirth that we NEED to talk about

Theres a lot to unpack, grab a glass of wine, put on a robe and put on a facemask. We gotta help these people out. 

Here what we jump into today:

1. My Girlfriend Cheated on Me
2. My Husband Doesnt Care if I  Die
3. WIBTA if I Cut My Sister Out of My Life
   
   

Here are some highlights and thoughts out of context:
If more women knew about the perils of pregnancy less woman would do it without first educating themselves.
Cheating is never a mistake!
People who abuse children DO NOT CHANGE

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
To submit your own listener letters, click here.
Apply to be on our dating show, click here.

P.S LET US KNOW HOW YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS HIDING SOMETHING SUSS!👀

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Hey Besties!

In a previous episode we shared how breaking up saved our relationship and we got a TON of questions on the real reason we broke up, a lot of y'all were wondering about the "Why?" so in this episode we talk about what happened that made Aja break up with Grant.

We get into, why we broke up, how jarring that was, Grants lack of confidence/self belief and how his self image became a snowball effect of how our breakup unfolded and the big decision that made us both realize we wanted to keep trying.

Grants life was falling apart and that blindsided Aja. But the falling apart made everything fall into place and we wouldn't be here without it. Lets talk about how f***ed everything was and what was the turning point to make Aja choose Grant again, and for them both to choose each other again, 4ever.

Let us know if yall have ever gone through a break up that was really just a reset and share your why!

To submit your own listener letters, click here.
Apply to be on our dating show, click here.

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 !

And in this episode DL. 

Y'all this one has us shaking in our boots, because WHAT DO YOU MEAN your ex boyfriend was DL and now his man wants to fight you??

Theres so many things to unpack, we need to find a therapist and sit on their couch because this one was a doozy 😭

Here what we jump into today:

1. I Found Out My BF is DL!
2. My BestFriend Is Choosing Her BF Over Me
3. My Ex's Boyfriend Want's To Fight Me
   
   

Here are some of our thoughts out of context:
Boob guys are weird, you cant have healthy friendships with women who are men obsessed, and ALWAYS check your partner phone if you're suspicious! 👀

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
To submit your own listener letters, click here.
Apply to be on our dating show, click here.

P.S LET US KNOW HOW YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS HIDING SOMETHING SUSS!👀

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Why are we always fighting? Why is everything always a problem with you? Why can’t you just be happy?

In this episode we get into conflict, resolution  and how to get to the other side of an argument with your partner. 

Somebody has to be the one bringing up the hard topics and that’s not always easy, especially when you want things to work.

Sometimes in relationships, we fight to be understood, heard, valued and seen and we get into all of that in this episode.

Friendly reminder: just because you bring up that things could be better in your relationship, does not mean that nothing is ever good enough, it’s okay to want things to be better and as close to perfect as possible. 

If you’ve ever felt like this, chime in!

If you have a story you want to submit to us, click here.

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 !

And in this episode the men tell all. 

We need to remember men are people with feelings and today they’ve stopped by to share. Bodyshaming, divorce and dead beat baby daddies- OH MY

Put your counselor caps on because we’re gonna dive in, break these stories down and give some advice.

Here what we jump into today:

1. AITA for wanting to divorce my wife?
2. My baby daddy makes me feel TRAPPED
3. My wife HATES my body and I don’t know what to do.

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
To submit your own listener letters, click here.

P.S LET AJA KNOW IF SHE SHOULD BREAK UP WITH GRANT TO INCREASE THE YEARN 👀

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Addiction but make it comedy! 

This week we talked to the one and only Juicy Mawma, comedian, content creator and 3 years sober girly- about her journey through sobriety, what partying in LA looked like for her, doing coke, drinking, and the realization that the lifestyle she was living was affecting every area of her life, including the men she was choosing to date.

If you are on a journey through addiction towards sobriety, this episode is definitely for you.

Remember, life is hard besties and we all have our vices, but that does not mean that we need to be controlled by them.

Stay cute, stay cool, stay safe, get sober, be juicy!

@JuicyMawma

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Listener Letters

Besties, we've officially increased the Listener Letter episodes to twice a month, due to popular demand!
We've got some dilemmas here that we need to address and they are certainly things that a lot of people go through.. Well, except for the last one, that one is pretty unique.

As always, we get into it!
But FR for real we actually need to talk about how society raises women to date based on potential and not actualized partnership.

Here are the stories we jump into today:

1. It's been 6 years and my BF isn't pulling his weight
2. My ex was murdered and my boyfriend doesnt understand my gried
3. My daughter has an OnlyFans, am I a bad dad??

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
To submit your own listener letters, click here.

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

Comment Your Thoughts!

Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Comment Your Thoughts!

Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja