Hanging Out 4ever

Have Grant and I ever thought of cheating on each other? And could he live without me?

Over the last 30 days, we've gained a ton of new besties!! (Welcome in!!) so we figured that it would be cute and fun to do a lil couples quiz episode, so we can share more about us, our relationship, and some of the obstacles we went through to make it to nine years.

So if you're new here, this will be a cute little roadmap of our relationship and our dynamic all the way from how we first met to where we are now and if you've been a Bestie for a while, this will be a cute little refresher!

And definitely ask your partner some of these questions!

As always, let us know what you think about this episode and welcome in to all our new besties. We're so happy you're here!!

BTW: We are developing a relationship connection card deck for you to ask deep, personal and fun questions with your partner that have helped us make it to where we are! Can't wait to share more on this and help y'all explore and navigate conversation with each other💓

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-Grant & Aja

Listener Letters

WOOF, Besties — this one was rough. Some episodes we walk away from with a good chuckle and a lil bit of WTF energy, but this wasn't one of them. Monster-in-laws are everybody's nightmare, but these listener letters take it to a whole new and terrifying level. If there's one thing we learned, it's how normalized it is to treat women poorly and that, unfortunately, some people are very creative in their cruelty. Get a barf bag, because these might actually make you sick. 
We hope you don't lose faith in humanity.

Here are the stories we dive into today:

1. My Mother in Law Got Me Pregnant 🤰
2. My Father in Law Had My Nudes on His Phone
3. I Prayed for This Man but I Miss My EX 🫣

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories — we hope y'all are doing better now 💓 To submit your own listener letters, click here.

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

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-Grant & Aja

OK besties, in this episode we're answering a long standing question that many of you have asked what does my family specifically my Dad think of me dating a white guy? So our special guest is none of them my Dad, Michael and I sit down with him and a one-on-one conversation.

We get into everything from meeting Grant the first time, to his expectations of me dating, and on top of that I read him some of the hate comments that I receive for dating a white guy. And trust me these aren't even the worst of them.

If you're in an interracial relationship or have questions about interracial relationships, hopefully, this episode helps you answer some of those.

Feel free to chime in! 

-Aja

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If you've been with us for a while you'll know that Aja used to  not believe in marriage and was fine to just "hang out 4ever" with Grant. But apparently things have changed.

They talk about they potential of getting married, the social pressure expected out of people who date long term and what marriage really means.

Let's get into it Besties and as always, let us know your thoughts!

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Happy Sunday Bestie Babes! Welcome to the 'Ladies Lounge' a new mini series apart of the Hanging Out 4ever podcast with Aja where we keke, keep it real and talk everything about dating and dealing with men.

Welcome to the first episode which is one of the first steps you should take in a relationship, 
'How To Run a Strict Program with Your Man'

Sit down, pour up, or clean your house, whatever you're doing, put on Ladies Lounge and let's get into it.

New Episodes every other Sunday!

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Hey Besties, this one goes deep. Probably our most honest episode yet.

Aja and I talk about what our life and relationship looked like when she was at her most depressed — and how she would take it out on herself. None of this was easy to share, because depression never is. But as always, we hope what we've gone through helps you feel a little less alone.

This episode does discuss self-harm, so please listen with care.

If you're in a tough place right now — you are not alone. Call or text 988 anytime, 24/7. They're always there, and so are we.

We love you, Besties 💓

Drop us a text if you've ever felt this way and want to get it off your chest.

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She's building most controversial product to ever come out of Harvard Business School and it all revolves around women, pleasure and orgasms 👀

Aja sat down with Morgan Hewett, founder of Devin Toys one of the first AI-powered sex tech companies in the world fully centered around women, and we get into what that actually means, how the Devin works and learns you and your body in real time and also roleplays with you, and why she believes women deserve sexual experiences that are fully designed around them.

Which makes us wonder, why is sex only feel like an uncomfortable topic when we start centering women in the conversation around pleasure and desire? Thats the bigger question and part of the backlash she's faced at Harvard from students to professors and in the real world from husbands and male investors.

Morgan believes orgasms and sexual exploration go beyond the experience of sex, they actually teach women about autonomy, confidence and self awareness.

Ladies, this episode is your sign to date yourself, unlearn performance in relationships, find out what it looks like to reconnect with your body without shame and center yourself in the bedroom once and for all. 


Morgan Hewett

@Morgan.Pink.Founder
https://devintoys.com/

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This episode was one we knew we had to have, and it was a long time coming. Grant opens up to Aja about the moments he realized he wasn't man enough for the relationship he wanted to have with her. From being emotionally passive, to struggling financially, to putting in the bare minimum, and almost losing Aja completely — Grant shares what the most difficult parts of growing up while being in a relationship really look like, which is something people don't talk about nearly enough.

Aja and I have been together since our early 20s, and you don't realize how far you have to grow until somebody is putting a mirror in your face and showing you exactly what needs to change. Growing to be the man she needed wasn't easy, but it was what it took to become the partner Aja deserved.

In this episode, we get into the years of clashing, the resentment that built up, and the breaking point where Aja couldn't see a future with me anymore and how she felt as someone who refused to lower her standards for love. We talk about what it actually felt like for me to not show up as the man in the relationship, what finally pushed me to change, and how Aja began to trust me again — the small moments, the big shifts, and everything in between.

If you're in a relationship where you feel like you're falling behind, struggling with how to be the man your partner needs, or trying to figure out how to rebuild trust after you've dropped the ball, we made this episode for you. 
This is our real experience and relationship advice as two people who lived through it, chose each other anyway, and made it to the other side. 

Leave us a comment and let us know where you are in your journey, let's talk it out and hopefully we can help get you to the other side too.

Because we love it over here and want that for you.

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Hey Besties! We’re keeping it light on this week’s episode… but trust us, the next few weeks are about to get heavy.

So before we dive into all of that, we decided to switch it up and ask each other some very serious “Would You Rather” questions. And by serious, we mean the kind that lowkey reveal how you really think about love, loyalty, jealousy, boundaries, and SECRETS.

Let's get into this would you rather couples edition and see if either of us are a red flag 👀

p.s.

Sorry Vegans :(

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Hey Besties! We sat down with pro-sex content creator Lady K to talk about how Women experience pleasure, shame, ego, submission, dominance, and what happens when a Woman stops centering men and starts centering herself in the bedroom.

There’s this weird thing in society where Women are allowed to be sexualized but are made to feel that aren't actually allowed to enjoy sex, not allowed to want more and not allowed to raise the bar. That Women are seen as sources of pleasure for men while being shamed for exploring their own sense of pleasure in the same way men do.

Y'all know we hate patriarchal double standards over here so Aja and Lady K dive deep into all of it from why strong Women desire being dominated in bed to what men get wrong about Women's desire as a whole.

Let us know what y'all think about everything and if you've ever had problems exploring your sexuality out of shame, nervousness or anything else!

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