Hannah Hotline

Are you losing your edge, but can't figure out why? You're objectively exceptional, but you still feel like an imposter and you're shutting down in important meetings.

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams, Life Coach Hannah Kissel breaks down the 5 red flags that are silently crushing your career confidence and giving you true imposter syndrome. She dive deep into how perfectionism and people-pleasing are linked to burnout, and why you feel like you have to overgive to prove your worth.

If you are struggling with low confidence, self-doubt, or always comparing yourself to others' success, this episode is your wake-up call and a guide to taking your power back.

In this video, you will learn: - The difference between a skills gap and a true confidence issue. - How your nervous system's "Firefighter" part causes you to shut down in high-stakes meetings. - Why the world needs more of your "B+ work". - The antidote to constant comparison in competitive environments: anchoring on your personal values. - How to use "micro boundaries" to stop overgiving and people-pleasing.

Resources Mentioned: The Method that Changed My Life Internal Family Systems Therapy: https://youtu.be/SZLIEzplySU

The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a

Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com

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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams, Hannah Kissel discusses the foundational elements of well-being, emphasizing the importance of sleep, exercise, and community. She highlights how neglecting these basics can lead to burnout and health issues, especially for high performers. The conversation encourages listeners to simplify their routines and focus on small, consistent changes to improve their overall health and happiness.

• Foundations of life are more important than optimization.
• Sleep, exercise, and community are essential for well-being.
• High performers often neglect basic health needs.
• Sleep cannot be compensated for; it's a debt you can't repay.
• Consistent sleep improves mood and cognitive function.
• Start small when making lifestyle changes for success.
• Strength training is crucial for long-term health.
• Quality relationships are more important than quantity.
• Community support lowers stress and increases lifespan.
• Health should be prioritized alongside personal and professional goals.

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Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Hannah Kissel and Cory Welsh dive into the intricacies of wedding planning, the pressures surrounding body image, and the meaning of marriage. They share personal anecdotes about their wedding experiences, discuss the societal expectations placed on brides, and reflect on the importance of self-acceptance and partnership. The conversation highlights the joy and challenges of navigating relationships and the significance of staying true to one's vision amidst external pressures.

• The pressure to have a perfect wedding day can be overwhelming.
• Having supportive friends and family can alleviate wedding stress.
• It's important to stay true to your vision when planning a wedding.
• Body image pressures are prevalent in wedding culture.
• Body dysmorphia can affect how brides perceive themselves leading up to the wedding.
• Marriage is about partnership and supporting each other's dreams.
• Navigating family dynamics is crucial during wedding planning.
• Creating guiding principles can help in decision-making for weddings.
• It's essential to prioritize guest experience when planning a wedding.
• Reflecting on personal growth is important in a marriage.

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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel delves into the topic of burnout, sharing her personal experiences and insights. She discusses the three dimensions of burnout—emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and inefficacy—drawing from research by Susan Jackson and Christina Maslach. Hannah also identifies six mismatches that contribute to burnout, including workload, control, reward, community, fairness, and value misalignment. Finally, she offers strategies for addressing burnout and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's personal values in the workplace.

• Burnout is often misunderstood and misused in conversation.
• Emotional exhaustion is a key characteristic of burnout.
• Depersonalization leads to cynicism about work and clients.
• Inefficacy is a feeling of not making a difference.
• Workload can be a significant contributor to burnout.
• Control and autonomy in the workplace are crucial.
• Recognition and reward impact feelings of burnout.
• Community and connection with colleagues matter.
• Fairness and perceived inequality can fuel burnout.
• Aligning personal values with organizational values is essential.
• Creating autonomy over your time can help mitigate burnout.
• Building connections in the workplace is crucial for mental health.
• Quality rest is essential for recovery from burnout.
• Daily habits like diet and exercise impact burnout levels.
• Redefining success can lead to better mental health.
• Success should be process-oriented rather than goal-oriented.
• Understanding subconscious drivers of behavior is key to transformation.

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• Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence
• Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/
• Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/
• Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel and Katie Clinch explore the importance of living and leading by one's values. They discuss Katie's personal journey in defining her values, the impact of these values on her leadership style, and the significance of community and group coaching in personal development. The discussion also delves into the Drama Triangle and parts work, highlighting how understanding these concepts can empower individuals to take control of their lives and decisions. Katie shares her experiences and insights, emphasizing the transformative power of coaching and self-awareness.

• Values can often feel fluffy, but they are essential.
• Defining values is just the first step; operationalizing them is key.
• Family is a top value that can guide decisions.
• Moments of stress can be alleviated by remembering values.
• Leadership is about integrity and community.
• Awareness of one's role in the Drama Triangle is crucial.
• Parts work can help uncover suppressed aspects of oneself.
• Group coaching offers a sense of community and shared experience.
• Hannah's coaching style encourages deep self-reflection.
• Authentic leadership involves embracing all parts of oneself.

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🚨 Got a career challenge?

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Email: [email protected]

• Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence
• Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/
• Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/
• Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the Fawn Trauma Response, a lesser-known reaction to trauma characterized by people-pleasing and appeasement behaviors. She discusses its roots in complex trauma, particularly in corporate environments, where individuals often struggle to advocate for themselves. The conversation highlights the importance of awareness, practical steps to overcome fawning behaviors, and the role of Internal Family Systems therapy in understanding and addressing these responses. Kissel emphasizes that change is possible and encourages listeners to seek help and support.

• The Fawn Trauma Response is often misunderstood and under-discussed.
• Complex trauma can lead to a range of responses, including fawning.
• Corporate environments can exploit the Fawn Trauma Response for productivity.
• Individuals with higher ACE scores are more prone to burnout.
• Awareness is the first step in addressing trauma responses.
• Practical steps include learning to say no and setting boundaries.
• Somatic practices can help individuals reconnect with their bodies.
• Internal Family Systems therapy can aid in understanding trauma responses.
• It's important to recognize that you are not broken and can change.
• Seeking help from therapists or coaches can facilitate healing.

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🚨 Got a career challenge?

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• Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence
• Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/
• Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/
• Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a transformative therapeutic method that has significantly impacted her life and work with clients. She explains the fundamentals of IFS, including the concept of parts, manager and firefighter roles, and the importance of self-energy. The discussion emphasizes understanding and transforming these parts for personal growth and emotional healing, while also addressing the significance of self-awareness and the role of empowered parts in navigating life's challenges.

• Internal Family Systems therapy can transform your life.
• Understanding your parts is key to emotional healing.
• Manager parts often manifest as harsh inner critics.
• Firefighter parts are impulsive and seek to numb pain.
• Exiles are vulnerable parts that carry trauma and shame.
• Self-energy is the essence of who you are, unbroken and unburdened.
• The goal of IFS is to understand, not eliminate parts.
• Transforming parts can lead to personal growth and better decision-making.
• Parts polarization helps resolve internal conflicts.
• You're not broken; having intense parts is normal.

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• Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence
• Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel discusses the emotional complexities of career transitions, drawing on her personal experiences and the framework of Martha Beck's change cycle. She outlines the four phases of this cycle—death and rebirth, dreaming and scheming, the hero's journey, and mastery—emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and understanding one's identity throughout the process. Kissel provides insights into how individuals can navigate these transitions, encouraging them to prototype new career paths and engage in meaningful conversations to gain clarity.

• Career transitions can be emotionally intense and chaotic.
• Martha Beck's change cycle has four distinct phases.
• You cannot skip any phase in the change cycle.
• Phase one involves identity loss and can feel like burnout.
• Phase two is about dreaming and exploring new possibilities.
• Prototyping new career paths is essential in phase two.
• Self-compassion is crucial in phase three of the journey.
• Understanding your strengths can guide your career decisions.
• Engaging with others in your desired field provides clarity.
• Career pivots often require significant inner work and reflection.

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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel interviews Kate Mason, who holds a PhD, a communications expert, and coach known for her work with executives and founders, particularly in the tech industry. They both explore the intricate relationship between likability and power, drawing from personal experiences and cultural contexts. They discuss strategies for enhancing likability, navigating tense relationships, and the importance of calm communication. The conversation emphasizes that communication skills can be learned and that genuine relationships are built on honesty and self-awareness, rather than people-pleasing behaviors.

• The dichotomy between power and likability is subjective.
• Both power and likability can coexist in a professional setting.
• Personal experiences shape our understanding of communication.
• Cultural contexts influence perceptions of communication styles.
• Self-awareness is key to improving likability.
• Feedback should be viewed as a gift, not a threat.
• Calmness in communication can influence the room's energy.
• Communication skills can be learned and developed over time.
• People-pleasing can undermine genuine relationships.
• Disappointment is a natural part of relationships and can be communicated openly.

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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Cory Welsh shares her transformative journey through the Life and Work Transformation program, detailing her experiences from level one to level two. She discusses the importance of community, emotional regulation, and effective communication frameworks, particularly nonviolent communication. Cory reflects on the internal changes she has experienced, how she navigates challenges at work and in personal relationships, and the significant impact of the program on her self-awareness and confidence. She emphasizes the value of support from peers and the importance of investing in personal growth during times of transition.

• Cory felt a strong connection to the community built during the program.
• She experienced a pivotal moment of transformation in her personal life.
• The frameworks learned helped him navigate tough conversations at work.
• Cory gained deeper self-awareness of her values and triggers.
• She learned to respond rather than react in challenging situations.
• Nonviolent communication became a key tool in her interactions.
• The program provided a safe space for vulnerability and sharing.
• Cory observed significant changes in herself that were not always visible externally.
• She emphasized the importance of investing in personal growth during transitions.
• The difference in energy between level one and level two was notable, with more accountability and support.

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• Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence
• Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/
• Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/
• Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com