Summary: 

Happiness Simplified is a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #18, Kayvon and Dai talk about accountability. Tune in to hear how motivation and commitment go hand in hand, the negative and positive impact of accountability, and why we need to set our goals into major and minor goals. 

Time Stamped Show Notes: 

00:40 – Introduction to the podcast 

01:00 – Accountability is telling someone like a coach or a friend to check in with you about where you’re at with your goals and responsibilities 

01:20 – Accountability helps Dai determine if his clients are reaching their goals or not 

01:53 – Kayvon shares how accountability has helped him and his business 

02:06 – “Many of the business owners started their business because they want to solve their own problems” 

02:45 – Kayvon signed-up with multiple accountability coaches to help him focus on the things that he needs to do 

03:25 – Kayvon shares to his clients and friends what has made him more productive 

03:39 – Kayvon has an accountability coaching service called “Strive” 

04:18 – Accountability has both a positive and negative impact on people  

04:42 – About the book, Accountabilty: Taking Ownership of Your Responsibility  

05:00 – How commitment coaching is similar to accountability coaching 

05:25 – The difference between motivation and accountability 

05:58 – Why motivation and commitment go hand in hand 

07:55 – Some people think that motivation has an off 

09:10 – People over or underestimate themselves on what they can do 

09:37 – Having the right estimation of one’s ability is key 

10:48 – In every habit that you wish to start, start small, then increase the work gradually 

13:25 – Get a regular check-in on the process of reaching a goal 

15:00 – Be with a group of people with like-minded goals 

15:23 – Dai shares how he applies accountability as a fitness coach 

16:25 – The biggest win that Kayvon has seen is the happiness of achievement 

16:45 – “One of the greatest sources of happiness is your own point of view about yourself” 

18:45 – Keep the mindset of knowing that things change—it’s hard in the beginning then gets easier as it becomes a habit 

20:41 – 90 days is the perfect time frame to create significant change and short enough to stay connected 

21:30 – Come up with some tasks to finish for daily accountability  

22:00 – Separate your daily goal with a major and minor goal 

23:40 – Do goal setting in the evening and let your mind subconsciously think of it 

24:00 – Tell someone about your goal 

25:55 – Visit Kayvon’s beta website of his coaching service – TheAccountable.me  

26:40 – Give us a feedback and share with us what piqued your interest 

3 Key Points: 

Stay connected with your goals—emotionally and intellectually. 

The perfect time frame to create significant change and short enough to stay connected is 90 days. 

Your point of view about yourself is one of the greatest sources of happiness. 

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Summary:

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. This week, Kayvon and Dai are going to share their experience from the Summit of Greatness. They’ll talk key takeaways, memorable moments, and the speakers that made an impact on each of them.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

01:20 – Dai and Kayvon have just come back from The Summit of Greatness

01:33 – Lewis Howes’ The School of Greatness Podcast

02:11 – Dai and Kayvon will summarize their key takeaways from the summit

03:35 – Lewis’ idea was to ‘bring you home’

04:06 – How Kayvon stands out of the crowd

04:47 – Kayvon had some trouble in school because of how he looked

04:53 – For years, Kayvon tried to hide and blend in the crowd

05:15 – We all stand out in our own ways

05:45 – Kayvon’s goal in this event was to cultivate connections

06:12 – Unique names get attention

06:43 – When something requires extra work, people give up too easily

07:34 – Kayvon was nicknamed Special K –which turns out to be a street name of a drug

07:58 – Kayvon started using his nicknames’

08:25 – His nickname facilitated the start of many conversations with new people

08:46 – What Dai thinks of Kayvon’s intro at the summit

10:11 – Dai’s intro makes a genuine connection

10:37 – People found Dai very approachable

10:58 – Dai’s introduction always includes him being a dad

11:39 – It’s your family that defines you

11:56 – Be the kind of man you want your daughters to marry

12:08 – Be the type of person people want to hang out with

12:25 – Being open attracts people

13:07 – The summit was about networking and meeting new people

14:18 – Speakers who stood out

14:25 – Matthew Hussey – The Dating Guru

15:36 – Matt’s Confidence vs Competence

16:42 – Matt’s “Don’t be a sardine, be a tuna”

17:03 – Christian Howes – #1 Jazz Violinist

18:13 – Christian was a breath of fresh air for Kayvon

19:03 – Adam IN-Q delivered a very powerful message

19:54 – Kayvon felt refreshed and recharged

20:14 – Ryan Blair: Rock Bottom to Rock Star

20:57 – Ryan’s honesty had Kayvon

21:44 – Ryan’s documentary on Youtube

23:08 – We are about uplifting one another

24:31 – Stacy London on what fashion is and what fashion is not

25:05 – Fashion is an industry that is based on insecurities

25:27 – Style is about expressing yourself and who you are

26:20 – Dai’s takeaways on Stacy

28:02 – Fabio Viviani

31:19 – Fabio went from rags to riches and from rags to riches again

31:51 – Kyle Maynard

32:32 – No Excuses by Kyle Maynard

32:43 – Kyle was born with no legs and no arms

33:03 – Kyle’s parents brought him up like a normal kid

33:27 – Kyle played football, did MMA and won titles, and crawled to the summit of Mt. Kilimanjaro

34:37 – Dai’s friend Hersh’s story

37:46 – We gain inspiration from certain people in our lives

39:15 – Kayvon is glad he went to the summit

39:50 – Get out there and start talking to people

40:57 – Don’t be too quick to judge

41:23 – Please leave a review on iTunes!

41:40 – Connect with Dai and Kayvon on Twitter

 

3 Key Points:

Networking is essential in all aspects of entrepreneurship.

Remember to list the takeaways from every new lesson learned.

When you’re real, when you’re genuine—that’s when you inspire and uplift.

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Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast where we teach you about simple things to make your life awesome. In Episode #16, Kayvon and Dai discuss the key to clarity, exercises to help you find it with greater ease, and how confusion is frequently tied to challenging childhood experiences.

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Time Stamped Show Notes: ● 00:58 – Dai shares how he’s doing while on the road ● 01:31 – How Kayvon is doing o 02:05 – Kayvon’s father had health issues o 03:34 – Kayvon’s friend on EMDR therapy ● 04:10 – “We all have memories that are traumatic” ● 04:33 – Starting to live your life from belief o 05:09 – Identifying beliefs from early childhood ● 05:32 – The EMDR therapist alters the association and puts a new belief o 06:51 – Kayvon underwent EMDR sessions o 07:47 – “Stories develop in our minds through habitual choices” ● 09:25 – Habits as an excuse ● 10:08 – “We use different reasons as alibis to NOT change” ● 10:50 – Kayvon’s example from medical school ● 11:56 – Action orientation ● 12:45 – EMDR is pragmatism o 13:51 – Kayvon researched about EMDR o 14:48 – EMDR is Kayvon’s way to get clarity ● 15:32 – Dai turning away from alcohol ● 17:51 – A lot of personal habits are influenced early in life ● 18:15 – Living in the same pattern is similar to addiction ● 19:22 – Where Kayvon is right now in his EMDR therapy ● 20:33 – “Let the new level of clarity come up” ● 21:30 – Take time to explore and navigate ● 22:26 – TRY this EXERCISE o 23:01 – Get a sheet of paper o 23:14 – Column 1 – Write… o 23:47 – Column 2 – Write… o 24:04 – Column 3 – Write… ● 25:24 – The freedom model ● 27:42 – Some habits are just automatic ● 28:07 – Try the two exercises in one ● 29:48 – We encourage you to participate! ● 30:30 – Connect with Dai and Kayvon on Twitter

3 Key Points: 1. Beliefs come from personal memories. 2. Memories play a great part on your life choices. 3. People use reasons to use as alibis for not changing.

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Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things you can do to make your life even more awesome. In Episode #15 Kayvon and Dai discuss the normalcy of up and down experiences, and how the common constraints and definitions we tend to impart upon ourselves are damaging.

 

Time Stamped Show Notes:

 

●      00:28 – Introduction to today’s topic

 

●      00:46 – Dai shares his year of transition and how it impacted him

 

●      02:23 – “All of us experience Ups and Downs”

 

●      03:48 – Dai discusses his experiences from the road

 

o      05:24 – “I was physically tired…And it shifted to a negative direction”

 

●      06:13 – Remember that tomorrow is a new day with a new opportunity

 

●      07:39 – “The way we talk about life is how it moves through our head”

 

●      08:43 – Kayvon’s experiences from the past and how those have changed him

 

●      10:02 – Our brain gives meanings to non-specific, non-correlated facts

 

●      10:28 – “Behaving in a certain way doesn’t have to be negative”

 

●      11:01 – All of us, not matter our peculiarities, are normal human beings

 

●      12:57 – Strategies on dealing with ups and downs that worked for Dai and Kayvon

 

o  14:42 – Stop focusing on the negative

 

o  14:59 – Improve upon the positive

 

o  16:32 – Look at the physicality (reality) of situations—don’t let your imagination wander too much

 

●      19:50 – Subscribe on iTunes!

 

3 Key Points:

 

1.     Every person experiences Ups and Downs–it’s normal!

 

2.     Investing energy on negativity thoughts will only fuel negative actions.

 

3.     Every day is a new opportunity.

 

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Episode 14

Summary:

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the

simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #14 Kayvon and Dai

talk about tough love. Listen in for a routine to help you take responsibility

for the good and bad in your life; advice on dealing with people who are

hurting; and what you can learn from disgraced baseball player Pete Rose.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

●     00:45

– Introduction

●     02:40

– Voicemail and communication

●     05:00

– People now use apps like Roger for asynchronous voice communication

●     07:00

– “Tough love” - how does it work?

●     07:35

– Toughness can be honest

●     08:30

– What does Kayvon answer if his daughter asks “Are you okay?”

●     08:45

– You can be honest or not - Kayvon tries to be honest when he’s not okay

●     10:30

– “Velvet boxing gloves” - giving tough advice from a place of love

●     12:30

– Dai often deals with people who are hurting deeply

●     14:00

– Before Kayvon started dealing with his physical health, he was dealing with

his mental health

●     15:00

– Reached out to Dai for help

●     17:20

– Sometimes you need to give tough love to yourself

●     17:40

– A 5-minute exercise to practice tough love

o      On

a piece of paper, write 3 things that went wrong today and ask how you

contributed to that result

o      Then

write 3 things that went right today and how you contributed to that result

o      Repeat

each night or as often as you can

●     20:20

– Dai worked in sales - and he used to ask himself how he could have dealt with

a customer differently

●     22:00

– Pete Rose used to keep a baseball notebook so he couldn’t be caught out with

the same pitch twice

●     23:02

– The Happiness Project - think of 3 things

every night that have brought you happiness

●     25:40

– Affirmations and gratitude work. Be happy, grateful, and proud of yourself

●     26:40

– Tell us what you’re happy about and proud of! It would make our day.

 3 Key Points:

1.       Don’t

be humble. Don’t be cocky - but be proud of who you are and what you’ve done.

2.       Be

honest with the people around you - even when it’s tough

3.      

Write down what went wrong in your day and what went

right, and how you contributed. By taking responsibility for the good and bad

you’re showing yourself tough love.

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Episode 13

Summary:

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the

simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #13 Kayvon and Dai

talk about empathy. Listen in to hear about putting yourself in someone else’s

shoes, how empathy is a skill like any other, and what you can do to develop

it.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

●     00:40

– Introduction

●     01:43

– “Empathy is the most under-utilized human emotion”

●     02:15

– Empathy is both and emotion and a skill

●     03:22

– Dealing with your own challenges lets you get closer to how other people are

feeling

●     04:20

– Kayvon had English as a second language - so he knows the definition of

‘empathy’ and ‘sympathy’

●     05:25

– Sympathy is acknowledging others’ emotions - empathy is understanding them

●     06:30

– People are very quick to judge

●     07:50

– How do you go about teaching yourself empathy?

●     09:00

– Life experience helps to produce empathy

●     11:30

– Sometimes there is too much of an experience gap to empathise

●     15:00

– Bedside manner - how do doctors manage empathy?

●     17:20

– Patients are helped by a doctor’s empathy

●     19:15

– Parents want nothing more than to make their kids’ sadness go away

●     20:15

– Empathy is a skill that we need to practice

●     21:02

– Try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes before the next episode

●     21:30

– Tell us how it goes! We’d love to hear back from you.

 

3 Key Points:

1.       Empathy

isn’t practised enough - people are often quick to judge

2.       To

practise empathy, turn to your own experiences. When have you felt something

similar?

3.      

Honest connections rely on empathy

 

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Episode 12

Summary:

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the

simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #12 Kayvon and Dai

talk about being a victim of circumstance. Tune in to hear why pain and

suffering don’t have to make you a victim, how to make sustainable changes in

your life, and the guru who taught his students to “remember yourself”.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

●     00:45

– Introduction

●     02:25

– “Being a victim of circumstances”

●     02:45

– What are the concepts there? Can we unpack those ideas?

●     03:22

– “When we’re victims, our mental state is challenged”

●     04:25

– There is real victimisation - but how do we deal with tough situations?

●     05:07

– In his early life, Dan adopted a victim mentality

●     07:08

– Dan gave up drinking - after realising that even if circumstances gave him

‘permission’ to drink, it was something that was making him unhappy.

●     07:50

– Making changes is about taking control of your own life, even when it’s

incredibly hard

●     09:30

– Changes start with yourself - then with others to help you sustain the change

●     11:00

– “We are people with power and choice”

●     12:05

– How do we deal with the real situations that cause us pain?

●     14:00

– Acknowledging that you are still there, and matter, in painful circumstances

●     15:15

– “Stop and remember yourself”

●     17:30

– You do matter in your life

●     18:40

– In school we learn to highlight all of the wrong things

●     20:30

- “I’d rather be Tigger than Eeyore”

●     21:40

– What do you think? Connect with us on social media.

 

3 Key Points:

1.       Hardship

and pain are real - but you always have a choice about what attitude you take

2.       Changes

start with yourself, but to be sustained they need help from other people

3.      

Stop and remember yourself. You take up space. You

matter.

 

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Episode 11

 

Summary:

 

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #11 Kayvon and Dai talk about eliminating grey areas. Tune in to hear why Kayvon hates backup plans, how to escape analysis paralysis, and a tip for tough decisions from Benjamin Franklin.

 

Time Stamped Show Notes:

 

●     00:35 – Introduction

 

●     01:30 – Dai tried parkour for the first time today

 

●     03:17 – Kayvon attended a relationship workshop

 

●     04:22 – Today’s topic: “No gray areas”

 

●     04:55 – “You either commit or you don’t. Make a final decision.”

 

●     06:07 – One of the reasons we don’t make decisions is that we ask the wrong questions

 

●     06:30 – Ask yourself why you’re doing things: and then make a decision. Any decision.

 

●     07:50 – ”You can have everything you love in life as long as you give up everything you don’t.”

 

●     09:30 – Get rid of the gray areas and backup plans

 

●     11:00 – How do you help people act instead of weighing up the options?

 

●     13:05 – Pick something. You don’t have to kill the other options: but pick one option and give it a try

 

●     14:48 – Benjamin Franklin would list all the pros and cons of any choice

 

●     15:30 – Listing choices and taking time to weigh them up is a great way to get out of your own head

 

●     18:00 – “Make the sale and figure out the logistics after”

 

●     19:17 - “Do or not do: there is no try”    

3 Key Points:

 

1.       Make a choice. Any choice. Action is always better than paralysis

 

2.       You can have time and energy for what you love if you eliminate the things you don’t

 

3.       Take some time to work on your choices - brainstorm, create a list, or use another tool to get out of your head

 

 

 

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Episode 10

Summary:

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the

simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #10 Kayvon and Dai

talk about give and take. Tune in to hear their thoughts on the pleasures of

giving, how creating a community uplifts you, and why it’s sometimes good to be

selfish.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

●     00:30

– Introduction

●     01:12

– “Get versus Give”

●     02:17

– Kayvon connected with Dai through his free Sunday Funday project

●     03:02

– What has Dai got from his giving act?

●     04:35

– Dai wanted to create a community of people who would uplift each other

●     05:55

– “I wanted to pay it back”

●     08:00

– Dai finds the atmosphere in the group uplifting even on his toughest days

●     09:50

– ”You are the most important person in your life”

●     11:00

– Be selfish - let yourself recharge

●     12:00

– “Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others”

●     12:45

– Kayvon’s advice is to be your kindest version of yourself to the people you

love the most

●     13:30

– There’s a relationship between getting and giving: give and take

●     15:00

– Give people the opportunity to help you

●     16:00

– If you share a dream, suddenly you aren’t ‘asking for help’ - you’re giving

people the opportunity to come together and help build a dream with you

●     19:17

- There’s no separation between getting and giving. Giving makes us feel good.

Getting is a connection with other people.

●     20:25

–  What are your thoughts? Help us learn

from you!

3 Key Points:

1.       You

are the most important person in your life: be kind to yourself and let

yourself recharge

2.       Allow

people the opportunity to help you

3.      

There’s no separation between ‘getting’ and ‘giving’ -

it’s all part of connection and exchange

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Episode 9

Summary:

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the

simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #9 Kayvon and Dai

discuss what to do when things go wrong. Tune in to hear why you should admit

your mistakes, how to talk to someone with different core beliefs, and why

sometimes it’s best to give up and move on.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

●     00:36

– Introduction

●     02:15

– “Is this the right hill to be climbing right now?”

●     02:50

– How do you remain open to being wrong?

●     04:02

– For every successful project, there are 9 failures

●     04:45

– “Every No means you’re one step closer to a Yes”

●     06:50

– Kaycon usually realises he’s wrong when someone else comes into the equation

●     08:15

– Admitting your mistakes does not make you a weaker person - it just makes you

a person

●     10:05

– When Dai started to admit he was wrong, he found his relationships

functioning better

●     11:20

– “Learn to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on”

●     13:30

– “When you’re coaching - what’s the process of teaching someone whose core

beliefs are different to yours?”

●     14:20

– The best thing is to assess the level of their emotional intensity at that

moment

●     15:00

– If there’s a chance for a conversation, then try to ask questions that open

up new possibilities in their mind

●     15:50

– “Sunk cost” - Sunk costs shouldn’t affect the decisions that you make about

the future

●     19:00

– It can be hard to let go of the time, energy, and money that you’ve poured

into a project. But whether you continue or not, the sunk cost is gone.

●     20:25

–  What’s a sunk cost that you found hard

to let go of? And what did you learn from it?

 3 Key Points:

1.       There

are nine failures to every success - so don’t let them get you down

2.       Forget

sunk costs. They’re lost, whatever decision you make about the future.

3.      

Avoid arguing with people. Try to ask questions that

open up the possibilities in their mind.

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