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Have you ever struggled with reconciling the equality you want in a relationship and the empowerment you have in your life with dating online? 

.... Okay - that sentence might have just blown your mind a little bit.  But in this episode I'm joined by life & relationship coach Teresa Thomas, M.S, who's here to tell us that the way we identify ourselves and the things we want don't have to be mutually exclusive.  As a person who identifies as a Black feminist, she understands that society can often make you choose between your identities and your desires, but dating can be inclusionary and can uphold your individuality... if you make space for it and know how to look for what you want.

This episode is chock full of such beautiful inspirational wisdom and it's our honor to have Theresa as our guest for Black History Month... yeah that's right, we chose to celebrate Black History Month over Valentine's Day on #single and we couldn't be happier about it. 

Put on your big girl panties, it's time to get your feminism on!

Learn more about Teresa here.

Work with Teresa here.

If you've ever felt frustrated or out-of-sync with the speed which your matches want to move, you're SO not alone.  The timing of everything - from when to move off the app, when to trust someone with your phone number, when to meet up, and when you're ready to send sexy texts/ pics doesn't just vary from person to person, it seems like it varies greatly between men and women. 

My guest Jessica and I discuss why is it that men seem to want to talk to you like you're their girlfriend when they haven't yet put in the time or effort to even meet you.  We also check in with our VOP Karl who's over in England to talk about his experience with different speeds on both sides, and how long distance relationships come into play in this whole equation. 

If you've ever been called "sweetheart" before you're someone's actual sweetheart, this episode's for you... and be sure to stay tuned to our thirty-minute mark, where Jeanette shares an audio surprise you won't want to miss! :) 

When it comes to dating apps, are you winging it?  Swiping right with abandon or whenever someone seems cute or sane enough to have a conversation with?  That might be a good starting point but you may find that ultimately there's not enough to sustain you, and that's because you're not dating strategically.

April Davis is the founder/ president of Luma, a privately-owned matchmaking firm with 40 locations across the US.  A certified life coach as well, she coaches her clients on the one thing she sees that's missing in today's dating culture: value and goal-based dating.

Plus, she shares with us her tips on how to negotiate the emotional minefield of being single during the holidays!! 

Don't miss this final guest expert episode in our matchmaking series.  We've had a blast getting to know all these incredible women and we hope it's illuminated the process and made you curious about working with a matchmaker in 2021.  Let us know how it goes!

Learn more about April here.  To join the Luma database, click here.

What's your "baggage"?  Divorced, STIs, single mom of three kids, intimacy issues?  Our two experts - Michael Naisteter and Jaime Bernstein - are pro matchmakers from company Three Day Rule with backgrounds in sex positivity/ education and coaching the transition from co-parenting to single parenting.  They share their wisdom & insight with us on how to hurdle the barrier of facing your scary perceived baggage with someone new by knowing your value and doing the prep work needed to have these kinds of conversations.  As Jaime says,

"Part of being an adult and being able to grow and move forward and have successful interactions and relationships is having difficult conversations that are awkward and are uncomfortable, so I think you have to stop hiding behind the excuse that it's too scary.  Your life will be better on the other side once you face that fear."

If you agree that these positive ladies are just the bees knees and want them in your life, sign up for a profile at https://www.threedayrule.com/work_with_us.

Learn more about Michal here

Learn more about Jaime here

Did you ever get to that point in a relationship where your higher, smarter, grown self just sorta knew that you had to walk away cause it wasn't working out?  Not because you didn't love the person, but because a part of you could see that they weren't willing to work on their shit (while you've been working on yours all this time) and you knew that without that link, the problem wouldn't fix itself.    

It takes a GROWN-ASS WOMAN to truly know her whole self, and know her full value to walk away from what's not working.  Cause this dating stuff isn't for the birds.  It challenges you in ways you never thought possible.  And it teaches you too, about what you like and don't like, about what's important to you and what's a dealbreaker.  My guest Lindsey will inspire the heck out of you to take a deeper look at what you need, what triggers you, and what you ultimately deserve so that you approach dating from the happiest, healthiest place possible. :) 

Excited to bring you our third episode in our Meet a Matchmaker Series!  Meet Tammi Pickle, VP and Partner of Elite Connections Matchmaking Agency which has been a female-founded, family-based (we're talking Tammi's mom!) company matchmaking singles since allllll the way back in 1994!!!  That's right - from matching by snail mail into the digital age, Elite has now grown up to thirteen (!) offices nationwide and internationally.  If that isn't a success story of female vision, leadership and badassery, I don't know what is. 

Tammi shares with us her insider knowledge from working with and around her mom since 2000, including whether dating in the US is harder than in other countries, how to become a priority and not an option, and leaves us with her top three "Don'ts" for dating in 2020.  If you're thinking about working with a matchmaker or even if you just wanna join their massive database, you can check them out at www.eliteconnections.com to speak to Tammi or one of her associates.  Tell them #single sent you and for goddsakes tell us what happens!!!