We all have those moments, those vivid memories from relationships with our exes that make us question ourselves. On a recent group coaching call that I offered to students of my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, a client shared one of the times this happened to her and asked the question, “Why does he think I’m a monster?” In this episode, we explore the stories we create for ourselves, based on how we feel our partners think about us. I share some examples from my own dating history, how I take ownership of the role that I played, and how we also get to create the thoughts that serve us. And from there, how to do the work of recommitting our brains in order to create the result of finding someone better.