7 Motherhood Myths That Are Making You Miserable 

'Healing requires action" - Leashia 

In todays show I will give you the first steps to healing in motherhood. If you'd like to to receive the 7 Motherhood Myths Workbook that goes along with this episode then please click this link and I will send it straight to your inbox, along with weekly podcast updates and heal hacks. 

In this episode we uncover:

01:57  Society’s s unrealistic expectations of motherhood

03:42  (1) We can avoid screwing up our kids by doing more of the right things

04:18  Why we need to heal our wounds as parents

05:44  (2) We shorten them everytime we invest in our own needs, desires & interests

06:46  Why self-care is an important part of parenting

07:58  (3) Guilt is the price we must pay for the love we experience

08:41  Understanding mum guilt

09:53  (4) Asking for help is a sign of weakness

11:20  Why is it important for mums to have a support system

13:59  (5)  You should be enjoying every moment of motherhood

17:45  (6)  Our children's questionable choices reflect bad parenting on our part

21:15  (7)  There is a right way to parent

Key Quotes

04:25  Doing all the right things doesn’t mean you aren’t going to mess up your kids because the truth is perfect parenting is an illusion. No matter how hard you try you’re going to impact your children in ways you don’t necessarily want to & intend to.

04:48  Every human on this planet is here to face, overcome & grow beyond the challenges.

06:10  It’s also vital for mums to remember & honor their own goals, thoughts & emotions & to make time to take time for themselves.

11:20  It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help, it is a sign of strength & wisdom to let supportive family & friends into your life.

16:15  You aren’t meant to love every minute of motherhood, not all sacred moments are pleasant & that doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you.

17:32  It’s not for you to self-reflect over, it’s just you dumping your thoughts & feelings on a piece of paper so they are not staying stagnant inside you.

22:11  Doing things in a way that works for you & your family is the best strategy. The right way for you is a unique as one of a  kind connection that you share with your child.

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Are you pregnant or a new mum navigating the in's and out's of motherhood?

If yes

This episode is for you.

In this episode you’ll learn:

08:47 Why is preparing for motherhood is so important 

12:57 Understanding childbirth trauma

19:58 Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) vs Matrescence

21:58 How to cope & manage PTSD

25:29 Identifying your support system & its importance for new moms

31:49 How to avoid power struggles in your relationship

34:23 What are the treatments for PTSD

37:05 Simple ways to begin the journey as a new moms

40:01 How dad can help new moms after childbirth

42:32 Kristen’s biggest lesson in motherhood

Key Quotes

12:30 We should have been educated about our birth decisions, understand all the options that are out there for us & how to advocate for ourselves, but also how to find trusted medical providers that you can have a share of conversations with so that if it doesn’t go through the plan you want to change what you wanted to happen, you can do that in a trusting way with your provider & not feel like you go through birth trauma. - Kristen O'Dell

29:17 We also have to learn that when we do release that to our support system, we have to do that with trust. Trust that they are gonna take just fine care of that baby it might be in a little bit different way than we do it, but the baby will still be fine, healthy & fed. And it's our time to rest & not worry about some of those details that really don’t matter that much. - Kristen O'Dell

29:43 If you found that there’s a better way to fold the diaper to prevent leak & they’re not doing it, they’re going to figure that out on their own & that will be their own lessons to learn as a parent in a way. Sometimes when we push that on our partners they feel inadequate. - Kristen O'Dell

31:48 Becoming a mother is gonna get you to heal if you don’t, then your relationships will suffer because you don’t know how to communicate your needs. - Leashia Arrowsmith

33:50 Women don’t want anyone to feel something is wrong & so we normalise the postpartum symptoms that we’re having. - Kristen O'Dell

37:04 Women need the support & it doesn’t have to feel so heavy & hard. - Leashia Arrowsmith

43:23 Listen to all the information you get around you, not just the internet, listen to aunties, grandmas, paediatricians & dietitian consultants & take the information & create your own combination of motherhood that works for you. Don’t put pressure on yourself to make someone else’s journey yours, because there is no identical walk through motherhood that is the same for each person and it’s also not the same for yourself. - Kristen O'Dell

44:36 Becoming a mother & taking care of an infant that you need to find your own recipe for doing that & you take it from all the different parts of you here & you just try until what works for you. - Kristen O'Dell

Kristen O'Dell, FNP-BC is a board-certified family nurse practitioner with over 17 years of experience in Neonatology and Newborn Medicine.

She has taken care of over 10,000 infants, attended more than 5000 deliveries, many of those c/sections and she has helped an estimated 8,000+ moms/babies get through those first crucial days of breastfeeding.

She specializes in the first month of life but also has expertise in pregnancy, labor, breastfeeding, and the first year of life. While trained in Western medicine (at Columbia University) and currently working in a hospital, she takes an integrative holistic approach to wellness and really listens to her patients.

You can find Kristen here: https://www.newmommyguru.com/

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Motherhood can help us unlock the deepest parts of ourselves, we can harness the power of this journey and use it to inspire our untlimed potential & spiritual growth

In today's show we uncover

04:26 What is matrescence

09:38 Misconception about motherhood

11:58 Kirryn’s journey to discovering matrescence

21:27 Learning to trust your intuition

23:51 Expanding parenting paradigm

26:46 Spiritual awakening through motherhood journey

28:18 Importance of a support system

32:51 Acceptance & letting go

40:03 How self-care makes you a better mom 42:10 Tips & tricks to navigate matrescence 44:52 What Kirryn learn from her children

49:03 The difference between an energy coach & energy healer

Key Quotes

03:57 We go through this massive shift & we need to allow that space for ourselves to journey through the transformation. - Kirryn Lee

04:41 When our child enters our lives, we shift & change in every aspect & element of our life. - Kirryn Lee

06:55 It’s not about parenting, it’s not about your children, we can so often get forgotten as the incredible women that we are because our whole life revolves around children. - Kirryn Lee

08:54 ‘Saying please’ & ‘Thank you’ is the determination of whether we are worthy or good parents. - Kirryn Lee

09:26 Motherhood is like an initiation, it’s initiating you into the new self & you’re not meant to be your old self. - Leashia Arrowsmith

11:19 It’s okay to revisit, release things & let things go because it creates more space in your life to bring in things that really do feel aligned & do infatuate in you. - Kirryn Lee

16:20 There’s something bigger out there supporting & guiding us. - Kirryn Lee

20:28 Motherhood is a beautiful journey & it can be a spiritual journey & we can use it as an opportunity to move into spiritual awakening. - Leashia Arrowsmith

30:19 There’s so much more richness in being witness. - Leashia Arrowsmith

32:26 You can show up to coaching calls but if you’re not doing the work in between, change isn’t gonna happen so there’s such a deep level of responsibility through this journey & you have to want it. - Kirryn Lee

45:41 You are deeply worthy, you can have the things that you want & you can use your voice. - Kirryn Lee

Today’s guest is Kirryn Lee, she is a Matrescence Mentor, Childbirth Educator, co-parent to two little gals and recovering people pleaser. She’s on a mission to support other mothers to stop living to please others and start living for their magnificent selves. Matrescence, which is the process of becoming a mother, throws us into a whirlwind of self doubt, grief, disconnect, loneliness and a whole bunch of other toughness no one tells us about! This transition is begging mothers to pay attention and Kirryn believes this time is a spiritual awakening for all. Through her podcast Matrescence Awakening, group programs and 1:1 mentoring, Kirryn is supporting Mama’s to demystify the spiritual world and become their own healers through the bigness of this transition. As someone who used to hold judgemental opinions on spirituality; and also used to hold herself high on the mothering pedestal well before she had actual human children; Kirryn knows firsthand the power of leaning into the unknown, releasing perfectionism and surrendering to the messiness of it all.

Connect with Kirryn Instagram www.Instagram.com/kirryn_lee

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This 6 minute Embodiment Meditation will help you get out of your head and back into your body.

It's no secret that most of us live in our heads and we have completely disconnected from our bodies.

Unfortunately living this way stops us from accessing our wisdom, connecting to our intuition and harnessing our feminine qualities - which are all paramount for creating deep connection with ourselves and with our loved-ones.

In this meditation I guide you out of your mind (where most of us are operating from) and back into your body (where you wisdom lives)

We start with creating a sense of safety within the body because to heal from the inside out we must FIRST feel safe.

But most of us DON'T feel safe inside our skin - that's why we do anything like - overeat, take drugs, over exercise, drink, gossip, vent, ruminate, scroll social media to stop us from FEELING.

But all that is about to change.

Are you ready to start feeling what needs to be felt and heal from the inside out?

Your journey starts here

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Are you a busy mama who struggles with mum-guilt?

Do you feel guilty when you yell at the kids or give them “too much” TV time?

Do you feel like a “bad mum” because you work and wish you could spend more time with the kids?

If yes this episode is for you In this episode you’ll learn:

02:52 What is mum guilt

06:14 Why we experience mum guilt

07:20 Top 4 things that mums feel guilty about

08:17 Mum guilt vs. shame

10:58 What is the function of guilt and shame

12:09 Key benefit of negative emotions

13:25 How negative emotions affect our body

14:49 Understanding secondary emotion

16:28 Importance of identifying primary & secondary emotions

18:01 A guide to overcoming mum guilt

22:07 The healing mum guilt framework

Key Quotes

04:11 Mum's guilt escapes no one. If we leave our thoughts & beliefs unchecked, mum guilt can start to run our motherhood journey & stops us from enjoying the ride.

11:49 When we choose to see emotions as functional & meaningful instead of just uncomfortable & inconvenient, we can choose to use our emotions as a resource instead of seeing them as an obstacle.

13:11 Every emotion when it’s pure can serve a function & when we clean up our emotions they can guide us to a life of integrity & happiness.

16:28 When we can identify our primary & secondary emotions we can meet our child from a more loving space.

23:57 You can’t think your way out of emotions, you can’t rationalize your way out of emotions, you can go into all of the stories & you can connect all the dots but it isn’t gonna change anything until you actually process the emotions inside the body.

26:50 The journey of motherhood can feel so mentally & emotionally overwhelming & I don’t think anyone really prepares us for that part of the journey & if we haven’t learned the tools to regulate our emotions & speak up for our truth then we gonna suffer in silence.

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Do you often feel frustrated, exhausted and annoyed by the motherhood journey?

Do you find it hard to self-regulate or feel triggered by your children big emotions?

Do you often feel anxious on your motherhood journey?

If yes this episode is for you.

In this episode you’ll learn:

02:12 Understanding the role of a Trauma-Informed Motherhood Coach & Emotional Wellness Expert

04:21 How does culture affect our attitude & behaviour

06:41 Managing differences & conflict over parenting styles

11:50 Why you should hire a coach

13:11 Signs that you need a Trauma-Informed Motherhood Coach

14:36 The most important healing tool for mothers 18:25 What you need to know about emotional safety

21:37 Parental influences on children's self-regulation

23:08 How to support an emotionally dysregulated child Key Quotes

05:39 So many of us have this anxiety because we’re so afraid to talk out.

16:03 I help people find their safety & that’s the biggest most important thing I feel that anyone can do & it’s easy to find in that moment - find things that help you feel safe.

18:12 Safety doesn’t have to be in our body because some people don’t feel safe in their bodies especially if they have been through trauma and so it might be outside of them.

21:24 If you don’t feel safe inside the body then you can start to look around you for other things that might help you feel safe.

22:04 One of the biggest mistakes I see most parents make is they try to teach the child to self-regulate before regulating themselves.

26:43 Some people can fall into that trap as you do this work & I’ve certainly fallen into the trap myself. And I was thinking, ‘I gonna always do it all perfectly & otherwise, I’m gonna traumatised my kids’. But what I realised is no matter what we traumatised our kids. We just have to learn to live with the fact that there are some points when we gonna be traumatised by something we did do or something we didn’t do or something we said. That is their experience & they’re allowed to have that experience. We can’t control it & it's letting go of that control.

27:26 You are only responsible for yourself. Yes, they are your children but you are not responsible for how they feel, how they act, or what they do, you are just the guide.

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Interviewer - Hi, I'm Steph, I'm a Human Design Alchemist. I guide through Human Design Readings and coaching, to allow you to truly find yourself and your place in the world with your unique gifts and show up in the best, most authentic version of yourself to lead a magnificent life. Would you like to find our soul calling, true purpose & inner voice? Would you like to develop your strengths, gifts & intuition to find joy, abundance and success? Arm yourself with confidence, trust and knowing that your next step of the journey has led you here. Learn life skills & tools to find and empower yourself, heal your soul, and develop your gifts & intuition, so you can lead your best life, be the best version of yourself & live the life you were meant to live which sets your soul on fire. If this lights up you, you’re in the right place.

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Today you will discover YOUR default trauma response PLUS

In this episode you’ll learn:

03:29 How trauma is imprinted in our body?

05:31 The definition of trauma

05:52 Understanding little ‘T’ & big ‘T’ trauma

06:16 Types of trauma experiences

07:21 Importance of understanding our trauma

07:42 Recognizing the 4 trauma responses

12:40 What is trauma imprint

12:49 What are adaptive behaviours

13:50 How trauma affects the body

Key Quotes

06:14 Trauma doesn’t always have to be from our childhood, it can be passed on from other people, with our family we called it generational trauma, or it can be cultural, it can be acute trauma or it can also be collective trauma.

06:55 We are all energy, we all fade off each other.

07:29 Understanding & exploring our trauma gives us a deep insight as to why we do the things we do & how we can start to unravel these adaptive behaviours & change them for good.

11:36 Your ability to cope with stress can depend on your genetics, early life events, personality, social & economical circumstances.

13:50 When we don’t process our guilt & our shame & we punished ourselves for the actions we’ve taken when we were in the stress response, it can manifest into physical symptoms like pain, fatigue, digestive issues & much more.

14:56 When we’re calm we can make better more aligned decisions. We can move out of survival & attachment & move into calm & healing.

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In this episode you’ll learn:

01:14 How I transitioned into my coaching career

03:17 Steps to become the person you want to be

03:52 Why every mother needs a Motherhood Coach

04:25 The truth about motherhood

07:07 (1) Get unstuck & gain positive reinforcement

08:27 (2) Overcome your overwhelm

10:16 (3) Crush your limiting beliefs to reach your true potential

11:35 The misconception about hiring a coach

12:30 Signs that you need a coach Key Quotes

03:15 We cannot change, what we cannot see.

05:05 I see so many women struggling, they feel isolated, burnt out & lonely because motherhood isn’t easy. It’s the most life changing transition you’ll ever go through on your life journey & that’s why you need support because you know it’s gonna trigger you, it’s gonna challenge you, it’s gonna change you & rock you to your core. You’re meant to feel lost on your motherhood journey because you’re being reborn, motherhood is a rebirth.

06:22 Motherhood is like an initiation, it’s initiating you into your new life.

08:00 Learning how to identify & dissolve painful beliefs that are running in the background can move you out of that helplessness & clear up a lot of the confusion as well.

09:15 All transition especially motherhood challenge is to re-examine our sense of who we are or the capabilities that we may have taken for granted & can be painful to let go of the person you used to be.

10:40 To achieve the results you want, you mostly need to change your attitude or your underlying beliefs.

12:07 A coach can bring some great tools & resources for success but you have to show up & do the work. It’s not your coaches job to change you, you have to be committed to doing the heavy lifting yourself if you want the relationship to work.

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In this episode you’ll learn:

01:48 My background story and journey to becoming a coach


05:06 The impact of trauma on our lives

07:28 Navigating generational & childhood trauma

09:15 What's the difference between big ‘t’ and little ‘t’ trauma

10:36 Recognising the signs of trauma 10:57 Importance of inner work

12:34 Why is it important to have a coach

14:22 Not your average coach - what sets me apart from the rest

15:07 Healing in motherhood journey & its importance

Key Quotes

09:16 We all experience trauma to some degree. Trauma is a spectrum, we have everyday trauma, or what some people called little ‘t’ trauma like being bullied at summer camp or being shouted at by our loved one and then we have big ‘t’ trauma like being in a car accident for going to work. These things are all trauma and I’ve ever processed in the same way inside the body so it doesn’t matter if you experience big ‘t’ trauma or little ‘t’ trauma, it’s all held in the body the same way.

11:43 Your emotions are the foundation of everything else you experience in your life. Learning how to process your emotion effectively is one of the most important skills you ever learn for optimal health & deeply fulfilling relationships, if you don’t do the emotional work first everything else will just fall apart around you.

12:21 The only way to have a deeply fulfilling relationship with our loved ones is to heal ourselves first.

13:19 Most people get stuck because they know the information but they have trouble applying it.

14:57 Instead of fixing behaviours, I help clients find the feelings beneath the behaviours so that we can get to the root of the problem.

15:28 I see so many moms being bogged down by the unseen mental, and emotional life of motherhood. My belief is - we all need more support when it comes to the enormously life-changing event that is motherhood.

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