Heal Through Humor

In this episode, Talia Bombola interviews Dr. Lina Haji, a forensic and clinical psychologist. They bond over their shared interest in debunking myths and misinformation. Dr. Haji shares her background and career in forensic psychology, including her experience working in prisons. She explains her inspiration for pursuing forensic psychology and her personal passion for the field.

Talia and Lina highlight the dangers of misinformation and misdiagnosis in the field of psychology. She emphasizes the need for qualified professionals to address and correct this misinformation. Additionally, she discusses the impact of technology and social media on vulnerable populations, as well as the need for laws and regulations to catch up with these advancements.

In this conversation, Talia interviews Thais Sky, a fellow psychoanalytic therapist. They discuss the healing power of psychoanalytic therapy and the role of the therapist in providing a secure attachment and a safe space for clients.

The two have a dynamic discussion about The Worthiness wound. They explore the impact of the subconscious mind and beliefs on behavior and the importance of self-discovery and insight; delve into the unconscious mind and the role of defenses in protecting against pain and differentiates between insight-oriented psychotherapy and skills-based coaching; highlight the significance of listening and investigating assumptions in therapy and the value of exploring the here and now. They emphasize the journey of self-understanding and the profound impact of talking. They also address the issue of limited access to psychoanalytic therapy and advocate for expanding access to all individuals.

Connect with Thais at https://www.instagram.com/iamthaissky/

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:52 Journey into Psychoanalytic Work

09:13 The Limitations of Insurance in Long-Term Therapy

10:03 Differentiating Coaching and Psychotherapy

11:22 The Need for Awareness of Different Modalities

14:37 Insight-Oriented Psychotherapy vs. Skills-Based Coaching

22:53 The Healing Power of Therapy

23:22 The Role of the Therapist

24:20 The Subconscious Mind and Beliefs

25:18 The Journey of Self-Discovery

26:22The Unconscious Mind and Defenses

32:06 The Journey to Self-Understanding

33:03 Creating a Safe Space for Exploration

35:19 Access to Psychoanalytic Therapy

37:31 The Injustice of Limited Access

In this conversation, Talia Bombola LMFT, and Emily Celis LMFT discuss their personal and professional journeys, the challenges of balancing multiple roles, and the importance of living in alignment with one's values. They explore the concept of embodying a holistic lifestyle and the need to prioritize what truly matters in life. They also touch on the grief process of letting go of certain visions and the importance of self-reflection and self-care. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of finding balance and making choices that align with one's values and priorities.

Follow Emily on IG https://www.instagram.com/sagewellnessctr/

00:00 Introduction and Personal Connection

02:55 Balancing Multiple Roles and Priorities

07:58 Living in Alignment with Your Values

12:02 The Grief Process of Letting Go

16:03 Finding Balance and Embracing a Holistic Lifestyle

23:11 Exploring Identity and Regret

25:24 The Challenges of Decision Making

27:07 Defining Courage and Bravery

30:29 Believing in What's Meant for You

37:40 Loss, Growth, and Embracing Change

41:38 The Role of Therapy in Personal Growth

43:08 Creating a Holistic Healing Collective

44:14 Embracing the Sage Method for a Holistic Lifestyle

Takeaways:
- Balancing multiple roles and responsibilities requires self-reflection and prioritization.
- Living in alignment with one's values and priorities is essential for a fulfilling life.
- The process of letting go of certain visions and embracing new ones can be a grief process.
- Finding balance and making choices that align with one's values and priorities is key to living a holistic lifestyle.
- Courage and bravery are necessary for making difficult decisions and aligning with one's true self.
- Therapy can provide support and guidance in navigating these processes.
- Loss can lead to growth and new opportunities.
- It's important to surround oneself with people who believe in and support personal growth.

In this episode, Talia Bombola, LMFT, interviews Erika Ettin, the founder of A Little Nudge, a company that helps people with online dating. They discuss the importance of online dating and how to navigate the challenges that come with it. They also explore the evolution of online dating over the years and the impact of technology on dating. The conversation highlights the need for efficiency and time management in dating, as well as the importance of knowing one's needs and intentions. They also discuss the balance between work and dating, the role of boundaries in relationships, and the societal pressure to find a partner.

Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alittlenudge

Chapters

01:14 The Importance of Online Dating

06:00 Efficiency and Time Management in Dating

08:16 Balancing Work and Dating

10:03 Knowing Your Needs and Intentions in Dating13:12Avoiding Rushed Relationships

15:30 The Importance of Autonomy in Relationships

24:35 Exploring Relationship Envy and Jealousy

29:06 Redefining Success in Relationships

30:07 Identifying Obstacles in Dating

32:36 Understanding Potential in Relationships

33:24 Being Authentic and Communicating Needs

35:08 Balancing Ambition and Relationship Building

36:26 Exploring Assumptions and Blind Spots

47:38 Relationship Advice

Takeaways
- Online dating can be a valuable tool for meeting potential partners, but it requires effort and intentionality to be successful.
- Efficiency and time management are crucial in online dating to avoid wasting time on unproductive interactions.
- Knowing your needs and intentions in dating is essential for finding a compatible partner.
- Balancing work and dating can be challenging, but it's important to prioritize both aspects of your life.
- Setting and maintaining boundaries is crucial in healthy relationships.
- Society's expectations around marriage and children are changing, and it's important to make choices that align with your own values and desires.
- Challenge societal expectations and judgments in making life choices.
- Communicate openly and honestly about relationship envy and jealousy.
- Recognize the cumulative nature of relationships and the importance of individual moments.
- Challenge assumptions and be authentic in dating and relationships.
- Value flexibility, assertiveness, and communication in relationships.
- Recognize and communicate personal needs and preferences.
- Respect boundaries and seek consent in all aspects of relationships.

In this episode, Talia interviews Dr. Ashley Southard discuss the concept of the over-functioning woman and her under-functioning partner in love relationships. She shares her personal journey and how it led her to specialize in helping women in unfulfilling relationships. The origins of the over-functioning woman concept resonates with many women. She also explores the influence of childhood and parental relationships on adult partnerships.

This conversation explores the dynamics of over-functioning and under-functioning in relationships, particularly focusing on the experiences of women. They discuss the concerns about children's well-being when parents are going through a divorce. They emphasize the importance of teaching children how to advocate for themselves and navigate difficult situations. As children grow, their needs shift from physical support to emotional support, and parents need to adapt their parenting style accordingly. The conversation also explores the importance of modeling healthy relationships for children and the different approaches to co-parenting. It is crucial for parents to be in integrity with themselves and live according to their values. They should also teach their children to listen to their inner truth and make courageous decisions. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the trap of over-functioning and the need to find balance in parenting.

Follow Ashley on Instagram @drashleysouthard and learn more about her practice here https://www.drashleysouthard.com/

In this re-release episode, Talia Bombola interviews Britt Frank on her book The Science of Stuck, which has a new workbook out now!
The conversation covers the life stories of the speakers, their experiences with therapy, the inspiration behind writing a book, and the impact of knowledge on therapy. It delves into the importance of understanding the brain, the role of therapy, and the significance of archetypal psychology in trauma and relationships. The conversation covers a wide range of topics related to relationships, communication, emotional regulation, and the dynamics of the nervous system. It delves into the complexities of human behavior and the impact of childhood The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding and validating emotions, setting boundaries, and navigating the multifaceted nature of the human mind.

Takeaways:
- The importance of personal experiences with therapy in shaping one's approach as a therapist.
- The impact of knowledge and understanding of brain science on therapy and client outcomes.
- The significance of archetypal psychology in trauma and relationships.
- Understanding the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships
- Differentiating between niceness and kindness in relationships
- The importance of emotional regulation and validation in communication
- Recognizing the multifaceted nature of the human mind and the role of the nervous system in relationships

In this episode, Talia Bombola interviews Robyn Isman, a therapist specializing in working with parents of anxious children. They discuss the importance of working with parents in addressing childhood anxiety and the concept of anxiety as a gateway diagnosis. Robyn explains the interpersonal aspect of anxiety and how parents can inadvertently accommodate their child's anxiety. They also emphasize the importance of parental accountability and empowerment, as well as the need for parents to apologize and take ownership of their actions. The conversation highlights the challenges and learning process of parenting and differentiating anxiety from personal preferences.

In this conversation, Talia Bombola, LMFT, and Robyn Isman discuss anxiety in children and teens. They explore the importance of understanding anxiety versus oppositional behavior and the impact of anxiety on parent-child relationships. They also highlight the benefits of addressing anxiety and increasing independence to decrease anxiety. The role of parents in anxiety treatment, including validation and belief in children, is emphasized.

The conversation concludes with a discussion on the power of modeling emotional regulation, the challenge of balancing emotional and physical health, and the importance of humor and lightness in parenting.

Takeaways
- Anxiety in children and teens should be explored and understood, distinguishing it from oppositional behavior.
- Addressing anxiety can lead to closer parent-child relationships and increased independence in children.
- Parents play a crucial role in anxiety treatment by providing validation and belief in their children.
- Modeling emotional regulation and using supportive language can have a significant impact on children's emotional well-being.
- Bringing humor and lightness to parenting can help create a positive and supportive environment for children.

Robyn's Links:

@parentingtheanxiouschild

02:55 Anxiety as a Gateway Diagnosis

05:50 The Importance of Working with Parents

09:13 The Interpersonal Aspect of Anxiety

13:02 The Role of Parents in Accommodating Anxiety

15:55 Empowerment and Accountability for Parents

22:12 Parenting as a Learning Process

24:00 Differentiating Anxiety from Personal Preferences

24:58 Exploring Anxiety in Children and Teens

26:23 Understanding Anxiety and Oppositional Behavior

27:49The Impact of Anxiety on Parent-Child Relationships

28:48 Benefits of Addressing Anxiety in Children and Teens

29:44 Increasing Independence to Decrease Anxiety

30:23 The Role of Parents in Anxiety Treatment31:11The Importance of Validation and Belief in Children

31:59 Modeling Emotional Regulation and Validation

33:19 The Impact of Parental Invalidation on Children

34:08 The Power of Validation and Supportive Language

36:12 The Challenge of Balancing Emotional and Physical Health

37:06 The Role of Parents as Role Models

38:14 Differentiating Between Parent and Child Responsibilities

39:29 The Power of Naming and Validating Emotions

40:27 Bringing Humor and Lightness to Parenting

43:19 The Importance of Modeling Behavior and Language

44:36 The Impact of Humor on Parent-Child Relationships

46:00 Resources and Courses for Parenting the Anxious Child

In this episode, Talia Bombola and Dave Glaser discuss the challenges of creating content in a healthy relationship and the importance of setting boundaries and privacy. They also explore the impact of social media on relationships and the evolution of dating apps. The conversation delves into the talking stage and the dangers of getting stuck in that phase. They emphasize the need for authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability in relationships, as well as the importance of fine-tuning the picker and raising relationship standards. In this conversation, Talia Bombola and Dave Glaser discuss various aspects of relationships and offer valuable insights. They explore recognizing patterns, setting boundaries, and unprogramming relationship programming. They emphasize the importance of seeking objective advice and avoiding biased opinions from family and friends. They also discuss the influence of curated content on social media and the need to trust one's gut instincts. The conversation delves into the fallacy of 'if they won't, someone else will' and the importance of effective communication. They highlight the benefits of long-term healthy relationships and the power of weekly check-ins. Finally, they discuss the nuances of healthy relationships and the importance of taking space and communicating needs.

Takeaways
- Creating content in a healthy relationship can be challenging, as it may require setting boundaries and respecting privacy.
- The evolution of dating apps and social media has changed the dynamics of dating and relationships.
- It is important to differentiate between the talking stage and dating, and to avoid getting stuck in the talking phase.
- Authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability are crucial in building healthy relationships.
- It is essential to fine-tune the picker and raise relationship standards to attract emotionally available partners. Recognize patterns in your relationships and set boundaries to create healthier dynamics.
- Seek objective advice from counselors or trusted individuals rather than relying solely on biased opinions from family and friends.
- Be mindful of the influence of curated content on social media and actively search for diverse perspectives.
- Trust your gut instincts and cultivate your inner voice to make decisions that align with your values and needs.
- Regularly communicate with your partner through check-ins to deepen intimacy and address any concerns or needs.

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This week, Talia sits down with fellow psychotherapist Britt Frank. They discuss what led Britt to the field, what being stuck looks like, how to know it's time to change, what you can do to get unstuck, the joy of therapeutic journey, the power of childhood, and more.

Connect with Britt:
scienceofstuck.com
IG: @brittfrank

Connect with Talia:
taliabombola.com
therapywithtalia.com
IG: @taliabombola

In this episode, Talia sits down with mental health counselor and Instagram-viral therapist, Stassi of @BossyStassi. They talk self-awareness, knowing that if you're feeling something someone else out there probably is too, the way we project our feelings when we know others are suffering, and the fact that we can't rescue people.

Connect with Stassi:
evergreenwellnesstherapy.com
IG: @bossystassi

Connect with Talia:
taliabombola.com
therapywithtalia.com
IG: @taliabombola