In this episode, I’m talking about uncertainty tolerance, why your brain hates it so much, and why learning to tolerate uncertainty is actually one of the most important skills required to heal chronic pelvic pain.

If you deal with anxiety, OCD tendencies, reassurance-seeking, flare fear, or constantly wondering “What if this doesn’t work?”, this episode is for you.

We’ll talk about:

Why anxiety and OCD are really attempts to create certainty

Why your brain keeps searching for guarantees (and why that never works)

How intolerance of uncertainty keeps your life smaller and more fear-driven

What uncertainty tolerance looks like in both the long-term and the day-to-day

Why allowing the possibility of a flare is part of how healing actually happens

What most people are missing when fear spikes and symptoms return

I’ll also share why so many people feel like they’re “starting over” again and again, and how having a clear framework for moments of fear and uncertainty changes everything.

Free Workshop Invitation

If healing has been feeling like two steps forward and one step back, and every flare makes you feel like you’re starting over, Rachel invites you to join her free live workshop:

How to Stop Starting Over 🗓 Monday, January 26th ⏰ 12 PM Eastern

In this workshop, Rachel will:

Help you understand what’s actually happening in your nervous system during flares

Show you how to respond differently in the moment of fear or symptom spikes

Introduce the Rewiring Recovery Roadmap, her framework for building and sustaining momentum even when symptoms fluctuate

Help you assess what’s been working, what hasn’t, and what to do next

You’ll leave with clarity, direction, and tangible next steps.

👉 Save Your Seat!

Healing is possible for you. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep starting over.

Learn More About My New Coaching Program:

https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/healing-program

Add Yourself To The Waitlist For My New Coaching Program: https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/m4wq35ssfl

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Accepting a neuroplastic or nervous system based explanation for chronic pelvic pain isn’t just intellectually challenging, it can be emotionally loaded, especially for women who have already experienced medical gaslighting, dismissal, or invalidation.

In this episode, Rachel explores why resistance to a mind-body approach makes so much sense, and why difficulty accepting a neuroplastic diagnosis is often not about disbelief, but about self-protection.

Rachel shares her own journey of initially feeling defeated and offended by the idea that her pain could be related to her nervous system, and unpacks how black-and-white thinking, medical trauma, and systemic failures in women’s healthcare can make neuroplastic explanations feel threatening rather than empowering.

This episode is for you if:

● You’ve ever bristled at the suggestion that your pain might be “your nervous system”

● You’ve felt angry, resistant, or shut down when mind-body work was mentioned

● You worry that accepting a neuroplastic explanation means your pain isn’t real

● You’ve been stuck cycling between medical testing, alternative treatments, and self-doubt

● You want validation and real answers, not dismissal

In this episode, we cover:

● Why mind-body explanations can feel emotionally unsafe after medical gaslighting

● How black-and-white thinking keeps people stuck between “it’s structural” vs “it’s all in my head”

● The very real impact of historical and societal dismissal of women’s pain

● What neuroplastic pain actually is (and what it is not)

● Why ignoring psychosocial context is not ethical care

● How validation and accurate pain science can and should coexist

● Why choosing a mind-body approach is not giving up, but moving forward

● The hidden fear many people carry that “if it’s neuroplastic, I have to heal alone”

Free Workshop Invitation

If healing has been feeling like two steps forward and one step back, and every flare makes you feel like you’re starting over, Rachel invites you to join her free live workshop:

How to Stop Starting Over

🗓 Monday, January 26th

⏰ 12 PM Eastern

In this workshop, Rachel will:

Help you understand what’s actually happening in your nervous system during flares

Show you how to respond differently in the moment of fear or symptom spikes

Introduce the Rewiring Recovery Roadmap, her framework for building and sustaining momentum even when symptoms fluctuate

Help you assess what’s been working, what hasn’t, and what to do next

You’ll leave with clarity, direction, and tangible next steps.

👉 Save Your Seat!

Healing is possible for you. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep starting over.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

When you’re healing chronic pelvic pain, there are moments that feel terrifying, discouraging, and defeating, moments where it feels like you’re back at square one and nothing is working.

In this episode, I share one simple phrase that carried me through countless moments of panic and despair on my own healing journey:

“This is part of it.”

This phrase helped me stop interpreting flares, fear, and doubt as signs of failure, and instead see them as a predictable part of the healing process.

In this episode, I walk you through:

• How “this is part of it” interrupts the spiral into urgency and despair

• Why outsourcing reassurance never actually brings relief

• The powerful shift from asking “What if I can’t do this?” to “What do I need to support myself through this?”

• How to move from self-doubt into self-support during hard moments

If you’re in the messy middle of healing and questioning whether you’re still on track, this episode is for you.

Nothing has gone wrong.  You can get there from here.

👉 Sign up for the free workshop here: How To Stop Starting Over

Other Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/painflareplan

🎧 Recommended Listen: “This Is the Part Where” by Kara Lowentheil on the Unf*ck Your Brain* podcast

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

If New Year’s feels more devastating than hopeful, this episode is for you.

For many people living with chronic pelvic pain, January 1st doesn’t feel like a fresh start. It can feel like a painful marker of how long you’ve been in pain and how much you wish things were different.

In this episode, I talk about why arbitrary time points like New Year’s often work against your nervous system, and how to reflect on your healing journey without turning it into proof that you’re behind or failing.

We cover:

• Why healing has no deadline and doesn’t follow a linear timeline
• How to use reflection without judgment or pressure
• What to look for when assessing progress beyond symptoms
• Why healing can feel like starting and stopping, over and over again
• What actually helps you maintain momentum when symptoms fluctuate

If you’re tired of feeling like every flare means you’re back at square one, I want you to know you’re not doing this wrong. What’s usually missing isn’t effort, it’s clarity.

I also share details about my new FREE live workshop, How to Stop Starting Over, where I’ll teach you how to respond to symptom spikes without spiraling and how to create and sustain momentum  in your healing.

👉 Sign up for the free workshop here: https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/r3freayg1g

You deserve a life beyond chronic pelvic pain. I want to help you get there.

Rooting for you, always 💜

Other Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/painflareplan

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

If you’ve ever started healing work and felt more anxious, activated, or symptomatic, this episode will help you make sense of that experience.

We’re talking about why healing can feel unsafe at first — and why an increase in symptoms or discomfort doesn’t automatically mean something has gone wrong. In fact, it’s often a sign that your nervous system is changing. 

You’ll learn the five phases of nervous system rewiring, why awareness can initially amplify symptoms, and how rest, joy, and pleasure can feel threatening when you’ve been oriented to urgency or pain for a long time.

We’ll also talk about the “push–pull” phase and what it really means when your system tries to pull you back toward the familiar.

If you’re in a season where things feel loud or confusing, this episode will help you understand what’s happening — and how to support yourself through it.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why healing often feels worse before it feels better
• How your system interprets all change — even good change — as threat
• The phases of nervous system rewiring
• Why rest, joy, and pleasure can feel unsafe at first
  

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach 

Get your free Pain Flare Plan:

https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/painflareplan

Learn more about my course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Rachel explains why pelvic PT often calms symptoms for a short period, but rarely resolves chronic pelvic pain long term, because most treatment focuses on the physical response rather than the nervous system state driving the patterns.

This episode validates why relief fades, helps you make sense of the gap, and reinforces that healing is still absolutely possible.

In this episode you’ll hear:

Why pelvic PT isn’t trained to address nervous system drivers

Why tight muscles are a response, not the root cause

Why pain isn’t a reliable guide in chronic symptom rehab

How pelvic PT works best when paired with a mind-body approach

Course Discount Podcast listeners receive fifty dollars off the course with code BEYOND50 before December 3rd, 2025.

Learn more and purchase at: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course

Links:

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

 ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, Rachel talks about a belief that keeps so many people stuck. The idea that pelvic pain is different from every other type of chronic pain.

She shares why pelvic pain really does feel uniquely heavy for many people, and also why it is not different in the ways that determine your ability to heal.

Rachel explores the shame, isolation, fear of infection, medical dismissal, and impact on identity and relationships that often come with chronic pelvic pain. She also explains why the nervous system works the same way no matter where symptoms show up, which means neuroplastic pelvic pain can be unlearned.

Course Discount Podcast listeners receive fifty dollars off the course with code BEYOND50 before December 3rd, 2025.

Learn more and purchase at: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course

Links

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

 ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I should be further along by now” or “I just need this pain to go away,” this episode is for you.

Rachel dives into one of the most common emotional hurdles in mind-body healing: the urgency to heal. That deep, desperate feeling that you need to be better now.

You’ll explore where that urgency really comes from—the fear that this might never go away, the grief for time and experiences lost, and the belief that your life can’t move forward until the pain is gone.

Through compassion, honesty, and practical tools, Rachel helps you:

Understand why your urgency is valid and where it stems from

See how urgency actually keeps your nervous system stuck in protection mode

Learn how to relate differently to the “urgent” part of you with compassion instead of pressure

Shift into safety, trust, and patience so your body can finally do what it’s designed to do—heal

You’ll also hear how adopting the mindset “it takes as long as it takes” can calm your nervous system and speed up the healing process by releasing pressure and fear.

If you’ve been feeling behind, pressured, or afraid you’re running out of time, take a deep breath before you listen. You’re not behind. You’re not out of time. It’s safe for this to take as long as it takes.

💜 Resources & Links:

Rachel’s self-paced course, Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain, which walks you step-by-step through her mind-body framework for healing. This course will only be available for independent purchase until December 3rd. After that date, it will only be offered through group or 1:1 coaching.

Use code BEYOND50 for $50 off before December 3rd: thepelvicpaincoach.com/course

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

 https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Have you ever felt that sudden spike of fear — what if this time it’s a real infection?

If you’ve been on a mind-body healing journey and experienced this worry, this episode is for you.

Rachel shares her personal experience navigating infection fears (especially around UTIs) and the framework she now teaches clients for handling those moments with clarity and self-trust instead of panic.

You’ll learn how to tell when to seek medical care, how to support your nervous system (no matter what’s going on), and how to stay grounded in a mind-body approach — even when there’s a possibility of a true infection.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

 ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

What if belief itself feels like the barrier?

In this part two of the belief mini series, Rachel shares how to move forward even when you’re filled with doubt.

You’ll learn how to take action without certainty, work through fears that something was missed medically, and make peace with not being “100% certain” — while still healing.

In this episode:

The two layers of belief: symptoms vs. self

Why waiting for 100% certainty keeps you stuck

How to move forward with doubt (and still make progress)

Listen if you’ve ever thought:

 “I want to believe I can heal... but I’m just not sure.”

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

 ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.