Healing E-Motion with Hazel Hyslop

Would you say that the work you do is meaningful? What makes it meaningful? Or perhaps your job is simply transactional and that you get your sense of meaning elsewhere. My interest in this topic is because of my personal journey of wanting to do work that allows me to have joy and be creative. Research from the Association of Sociology has recently focused on intersectionality and meaningful work. For example looking at class, race, gender etc and the relationship with meaningful work. In this podcast I am exploring what that means for me, while citing some examples from their recent research.

Saying yes to others and being helpful is a very good way of being. However, if you find yourself compromising your needs or wellbeing to please others, then you might be a people pleaser.

This episode explores what people pleasing is, I share examples of what this looks like and offer a few tips on how to be less of a people-pleaser in your relationhsips.

Life can be challenging at times. When we face those challenges, its very easy to loose our sense of joy. Desmond Tutu and the Daila Lama in their book, called The Book of Joy, writes that, discovering more joy, does not save us from hardship or grief. However, as we discover more joy, we are able to face our suffering. We learn that we can have hardships without becoming hard and heartbreaks, without becoming broken. In this episode, I share some of practises that I use that helps me connect to my joy. I also show you how you can connect to your joy by staying in your circle of control.

I share stories from my family and culture that influence me as woman and look at the parrallels in the current context, where women face gender bias, shame, imposter syndrome, etc.

I give personal and professional examples of women in my life.

I am starting conversations that are sometimes difficult to talk about.

Really excited to restart my Podcast after a long break. This series will be for women who are work in spaces that forces them to abandon their natural skills such as empathy, compassion, emotional intelligence and intuition in order to fit in to a male dominated industry. My series will add to theh conversation as to why we do this and what can we do differently in order to lead authentic lives.

In this new series, I am addressing Relationships in different Contexts. One of my Specialism is in Systemic and Family Psychotherapist, helping Individuals, Couples, Families and Organisational teams, address relational issues. Today's focus is on Relationship with Self through the Decades with Heather Day. After Seven years of developing My 7 Step Model of Journey to Well-being, I have decided to trial it here in my Podcasts. In this approach, I  want to challenge the idea that we have to fit into a frame in order to be happy. I propose that its our difference that gets people's our attention. Yet we have learnt to adapt into a frame that says if you don't do it this way that there is something wrong with you. You see this in families and organisations. Being different gets you labelled as weird, quirky, mad etc. So, people learned to fit in by hiding their differences. How many organisations do not elevate an employee because of their Race, Gender, Disability or Sexuality? How many times were you told, you are too experienced for this job, or too edgy?   My guest Heather Day, shares her healing journey with us, including her experiences of burn-out and breast cancer. Heather's transformational journey and study of energy healing led her to create Vibrant Life Women. Heather supports women to release old limiting patterns so they can reconnect to their 'True Self' and create a vibrant life. Contact Heather on 07966067883 https://vibrantlifewomen.co.uk https://heatherdaycoaching.com E book ( Kindle only) You are Beyond Limits https://www.amazon.co.uk/You-Are-Beyond-Limits-Rewrite-ebook/dp/B01NAZJKO8

In this new Podcast series, I am addressing relationship in different context. Today's focus is on Self. After seven years of working my model "A six Step Journey to well-being", I have decided to trial it here in my Podcasts. Its a model that I use in my work and it forms the frame of my book (still in editing mode). I want to challenge the idea that we have to fit into a frame in order to be successful. For example, everyone on social media, seems to have the same formula on how to promote yourself and how to be successful. Forgetting that one size doesn't fit all!

In the methodology that I use, I am proposing that being different is the new formula for success. I believe that,  its your difference that gets people's attention. Yet we have learnt to adapt into a frame that says if you don't do it this way that there is something wrong with you. You see this, in families and organisations. Being different gets you labelled as weird, quirky, mad, defiant and so on. People learn to fit in by hiding their differences, only to end up being stressed and unhappy. So many organisations do not elevate an employee because of their difference. Whether that be, Race, Gender, Disability or Sexuality. Or it might be because you have dreadlocks, or pink hair, or that you creative. How many times were you told, you are too experienced for this job, or too edgy? How about in your family, you were told, that you are too sensitive?

Here I want to start the conversation by suggesting that when you are clear on who you are and when others can accept you, for you, there is less need to expect everyone to fit into a framework that is long-outdated! Creating a frame that makes allowances for differences, would, I imagine, invite more curiosity, encourage greater participation and commitment to building relationships.

In the last 5 months, I have had a pause from Podcasting. During that time, I have moved home from London to the South Coast and my daughters have flown the nest. Though recent extended visits from my youngest makes this debatable. This space has allowed me to reflect on my relationship with Podcasting. Why am I doing it and for whom? Would I want to continue and if so, what would I talk about. How can I remain authentic to the process and not get positioned by expectations or even judgement of others. Finally I made a decision to do a series on Relationships.. Yes you heard me. Relationships! Who doesn't like to talk about relationships. whether its your relationship or that of others. In this new series, I am covering various themes on relationships, such as:-

Relationship with Self

Relationship with your Partner

Relationship with Work

Relationship with Spirituality

Relationship with your Body

Relationship with family

Relationship with the Environment 

Relationship with food and so on...

I hope that you can follow me and join in or even be interviewed for an episode.