In this episode of The Healing Mothers’ Club, we continue our mini-series on the impacts of narcissistic abuse on motherhood. If you grew up with narcissistic parents, you know how hard it can be to break the cycle while raising your own children. Today, I’m sharing the key elements of healing that help you move from parenting out of survival mode to parenting with presence, safety, and authenticity.

·       Why self-regulation is essential when your child’s big emotions trigger your own survival responses

·       The practice of “Emotional Safety Hygiene” and how it strengthens your nervous system

·       How EMDR therapy and healthy boundaries support true cycle breaking in motherhood

✨ Join the waitlist for my upcoming EMDR group therapy here

DISCLAIMER:

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome back to the Healing Mothers’ Club! As part of the mini-series on the effects of narcissistic abuse on motherhood, Danik is joined by Mel Guttman, a licensed IFS therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse and family estrangement. 

In today’s episode, we cover:

• What is self-gaslighting and how to get out of the fog;
• How IFS Therapy and EMDR Therapy are game-changers for survivors of narcissistic abuse (and how talk therapy can only go so far);
• Why you may want to maintain a relationship with your narcissistic parent as a mother yourself, even if you logically know maintaining the relationship can be toxic;
• The “Scapegoat”, the “Golden Child”, and the narcissistic parent dynamic;
• The moments that make us realize our parent is actually a narcissist (Mel makes a link with the show The Bear on Hulu);
• The decision of going no-contact, low-contact, or to remain in full contact;
• The fear our child might become a narcissist.

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Connect with Mel Guttman here:

Instagram: @fallengoldenchild

TikTok: @fallengoldenchild

Website: https://www.ifswitch.com

Email: [email protected]

Connect with Danik Bernier here:

Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms

Website (EMDR Therapy in Alberta, Ontario, and Quebec): danikbernier.com

❗FREE guide: When the Scapegoat Becomes a Mom (a guide on assertiveness and boundary setting with your narcissistic mother)

DISCLAIMER :

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

If your child’s tantrums trigger a deep sense of overwhelm, fear, or even rage, this episode is for you. As a mom with a history of emotional neglect or narcissistic abuse, you may be parenting from survival mode without even realizing it. In this episode, I explore how unresolved childhood trauma shows up in motherhood and why your nervous system responds to your child’s big emotions as if they’re a threat. Understanding these trauma patterns is the first step in breaking the cycle.

In this episode, I talk about:

• How emotional neglect from a narcissistic parent resurfaces in parenting
• Why moms experience fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses during their child’s meltdowns
• The hidden trauma behind mom rage, people-pleasing, and emotional shutdowns

✨ FREE GUIDE: When the Scapegoat Becomes a Mom (a guide on assertiveness and boundary setting with your narcissistic mother)

Connect with Danik Bernier :

Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms

Psychotherapy website (Alberta, Ontario, Quebec 🇨🇦): danikbernier.com

DISCLAIMER :

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome back to another episode of the Healing Mothers’ Club! In today's episode, we kick off a special mini series where we deep dive into what it's like to do motherhood as a narcissistic abuse survivor.

As always this episode is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not meant to replace a mental health assessment or psychotherapy provided by a licensed health professional.

Key Points Discussed:

• What narcissism is according to Dr. Ramani;
• We briefly touch on Danik's experience as the granddaughter of a covert narcissist;
• How narcissism abuse from parents shapes the nervous system of their children (and grandchildren), and has lasting impacts in adulthood;
• What needs to happen in order to break the cycle;
• How to start visualize your future relationship with the parent presenting with symptoms of narcissism in your life (boundaries or no-contact).

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Connect with Danik:

·      Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms

·      Click here to download the FREE GUIDE: "When the Scapegoat Becomes a Mom: A Guide on Assertiveness and Boundary Setting with your Narcissistic Mother"

DISCLAIMER

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier delves into how moms can best prepare for the (unfortunately inevitable) generalized sense of overstimulation that happens when kids go back to school. She gives you tips and tricks on how you can navigate this tough situation so you feel like your family isn't the odd one out and you have a better idea about what needs to be prioritized. Because attunement to our kids' needs is something that we can build.

Connect with Danik! :

·      Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms

DISCLAIMER

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier preps us to manage the overstimulation our kids come back from school with. It's almost that time of year where they come back home and it looks like yelling, trash everywhere, and probably you in the bathroom crying trying to manage our overwhelm. Danik encourages us to focus on co-regulation right away. When our kids get home, instead of demands and asking them questions, we want to be ahead of the game (even if they seem calm). They need time to acclimate to their new rhythm of school, as do you! Tune in for more insights and strategies to help you self-regulate and manage expectations when it comes to the new season upcoming for all moms and their children.

Resources:

1.    Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass

2.    The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz

Connect with Danik! :

·      Instagram

·      EMDR Consultation for EMDR trained therapists

DISCLAIMER

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier delves into how moms who experienced emotional neglect in childhood can still become attuned and responsive to their children's needs. She explores the reasons behind the challenges these moms face and offers practical tips for developing emotional attunement. Through self-awareness and emotional literacy, Danik provides a compassionate roadmap for mothers to nurture their children with empathy and love, despite their past experiences. Tune in for insights and strategies to help you connect more deeply with your child and yourself.

Resources:

1.    Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass

2.    The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz

Connect with Danik! :

·      Instagram

·      EMDR Consultation for EMDR trained therapists

DISCLAIMER

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome back to another episode of the Healing Mothers’ Club! In today's episode, we explore the often overwhelming experience of summer, especially for those without the support of an extended family. Danik shares insights on dealing with the feelings of isolation and deception that many moms face when summer doesn't meet their idealized expectations. From managing overstimulation and anxiety to finding peace in small moments, this episode provides validation and practical advice for healing moms navigating the summer months.

Key Points Discussed:

• The challenges of summer for moms without a support system
• The emotional impact of going no-contact with extended family
• The common feeling of deception when summer doesn't match expectations
• The importance of recognizing the romanticization of summer
• How to find moments of peace and self-regulation amidst the chaos
• Reframing summer as a neutral season and accepting its ups and downs

Connect with Danik:

·      Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms

·      Click here to download the free guide to Anger + Self-Regulation (and get on my email list)

DISCLAIMER

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today I’m addressing a topic that's been highly requested by listeners and Instagram followers: experiencing anger as a mom with childhood trauma.

Listen as I explain why anger is a taboo subject, why moms who are childhood trauma survivors might have a really hard time expressing healthy anger, and what to do about it.

If you've enjoyed this episode, it would mean the world to me if you could give it 5 stars and leave a review!

Resources mentioned:

• Self-Regulation for Moms Masterclass
• Sign up to my newsletter
• Episode 12, "Nervous System Regulation vs. Emotional Regulation for Moms"

Connect with me! :

• Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms

DISCLAIMER

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome to The Healing Mothers’ Club! I'm Danik Bernier, mom of two, trauma therapist certified in EMDR, and parenting coach for childhood trauma survivors. In this episode, we explore the transformative power of self-regulation through the story of Beatrice, a fictional mom who mirrors the real struggles and victories of many of my clients. Learn how Beatrice moved from feelings of inadequacy and chaos to a more regulated, connected, and peaceful parenting approach. This episode is part of our 7-day mini-series leading up to the Self-Regulation for Moms Masterclass. Enroll now—doors close July 8th at midnight! The link to register is in the show notes. Tune in tomorrow for the final episode of our series. Thank you for listening!

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Connect with Danik:

Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms

DISCLAIMER

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.