Heart & Chutzpah Podcast

In this episode, Kamala speaks with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, author of sixteen books, and host of the podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Dr. Shaler helps awaken listeners to recognize the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. We discuss the effects of Hijackal parents on children, who learn to operate in some unhealthy ways - just to survive childhood. Dr. Shaler offers practical insights to recognize the emotional abuse and the effects, to heal, and transform from life with a Hijackal.

Fathers are a little girl's first love. For better or worse, they mold how their daughters see themselves, their confidence and abilities.

In this episode, Kamala shares about her experiences with her father - from adoration to bitterness, a dysfunctional push-pull: desire for Daddy's approval, while resenting his constant disapproval. And a hurtful decision to prove him right - to everyone's detriment.

Time, forgiveness, and healing allow for a renewed appreciation for an imperfect relationship.

If you were raised to be a good girl, you probably heard "everybody makes mistakes" but your experience was that you were supposed to be practically perfect! You didn't have leeway to make messes or just experiment and see what happens. Even as an adult, you may so dread making public mistakes that you hold back from trying new things.

But, you can't move mountains if you aren't willing to flub up once in a while. So, if you need it, here's your permission slip to experiment with "being bad."

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."

Recently, we've witnessed a murder of a black man at the hands of a person who was sworn to protect and serve. We are shocked and outraged. Bottled up anger, fear, frustration and pain have been uncorked, and we are suffering.

In this episode, Kamala brings through a transmission to soothe that suffering, while allowing for the fire in the belly to keep stoked, that we can be a stand for justice and take action from a healthier, more serene heart.

Do you struggle with self-love and self-appreciation? Many women do! Often this stems from childhood wounds - not feeling you'd been really seen, heard, or valued.

An aspect of that small child is still alive in you, still craving love and attention, still craving the recognition that she's real, that she matters. What if you could give that part of you more of the love she so desperately wanted - NOW?

Try an exercise of loving up that little one - and see what happens!

What woman doesn't want to be thought of as being beautiful in some way? For Baby Boomer women, steeped in a culture of women's value being equated with her beauty, and movies of beautiful Disney princesses (and evil stepmothers), aging and fading looks can hit us hard. We may "know better" but part of our identity may be tied up with having been considered young and pretty. Superficial though it may seem, it's a pain many women grapple with - and hesitate to talk about BECAUSE it seems so shallow!

What if Snow White's "evil" stepmother was just a perimenopausal woman grieving her fading beauty? Society puts a heavy emphasis on beauty for women. So, naturally, how we look becomes a part of our identity. As we age, and we're no longer "young and pretty," it can be a blow to our ego, a loss of how we've seen ourselves.

It's a first world problem, for sure, but can be tough for many women. We can grieve the loss - and learn to recognize the real beauty is still inside.

Mother's Day may trigger some deep emotions about your relationship with your mother. Many of us experienced some wounding with our mothers - from over-involvement to too little. History reveals that this wounding has gone on for generations - women. Today, we have more choices and ability to heal for ourselves and our entire lineage.

As the Shelter in Place orders are lifted or loosened, how will you emerge? Has the time spent at home increased your awareness of an inner voice inviting you to live differently, to live more fully? Maybe move some old mountains that have been in your way?

Founder & Lead Visionary of Creative Age Consulting Group, The Wealthy Life Mentor Emerald GreenForest is an internationally known speaker, transformation artist, Be The Change "Movement To Watch" Award Winner and one of America's Premier Experts. She is the Executive Producer and Hostess of the Apple Top 100 ranked Men On Purpose Podcast & the Apple Top 75 ranked Wickedly Smart Women Podcast and is hired to consult with high achieving leaders who are called to be the Vanguard of the Creative Age.