In this conversation,we explore the complex dynamics of codependency and narcissism, sharing personal experiences and insights. They discuss how codependents often attract narcissists, the emotional toll of these relationships, and the journey towards self-awareness and empowerment. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own role in these dynamics, taking back personal power, and transforming relationships through intentional giving and self-love. Ultimately, they highlight that personal growth is a continuous journey, requiring awareness and the willingness to learn from experiences.

Takeaways

• Codependency often leads to attracting narcissistic partners.
• Both parties in a codependent relationship play a role.
• Self-awareness is crucial for breaking the cycle of codependency.
• Empowerment comes from recognizing one's own value and choices.
• Pulling back energy can help regain personal power.
• The beauty seen in others often reflects our own qualities.
• Transforming relationships requires changing intentions behind giving.
• Learning from past experiences is essential for growth.
• Life's challenges are opportunities for self-discovery.
• Awareness of patterns can lead to healthier relationships.

Sound Bites

• "You pick that person, it takes two."
• "I was so codependent emotionally."
• "It's the beginning of your change."

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Codependency and Narcissism

09:49 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Empowerment

19:32 Breaking the Cycle: Awareness and Growth

29:18 Embracing Change and Authenticity

In this conversation, We explore the concept of 'Black Angels' as a metaphor for the shadow aspects of ourselves that we often hide or ignore. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, recognizing patterns in behavior, and the journey of emotional healing. The dialogue delves into the duality of fear and excitement, the role of manipulation in relationships, and the power of language in shaping our perceptions. Ultimately, they emphasize the need to embrace our 'Black Angels' as part of our human experience, encouraging listeners to navigate their journeys with compassion and understanding.

Takeaways

• Self-discovery is an ongoing journey of peeling off layers.
• Recognizing our shadow selves is crucial for personal growth.
• Awareness of patterns helps in making different choices.
• Fear and excitement can coexist in our experiences.
• Mistakes are essential for learning and growth.
• Manipulation can be redefined as empowerment when done with intention.
• Language shapes our understanding of concepts like selfishness and manipulation.
• Being gentle with ourselves and others is key when triggered.
• We are all multi-dimensional beings with light and dark aspects.
• Trusting the universe can guide us through uncertainty.

Sound Bites

• "I want to see the Black Angel inside myself."
• "It's an endless healing journey."
• "How do you spot it?"
• "Excitement and anxiety are identical."
• "We have to make those mistakes."
• "I am manipulative, but I empower people."
• "Words are powerful, very, very powerful."
• "Be really gentle when someone triggers you."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Black Angels

05:09 Self-Awareness and Patterns

10:07 Navigating Fear and Excitement

14:52 The Role of Manipulation

19:59 Language and Its Impact

25:12 Embracing the Black Angels
30:12 Conclusion and Reflections

In this conversation, we explore the concept of ego, challenging the traditional view that it must be eliminated. We discuss the ego as a protective mechanism, a collection of identities shaped by past experiences, and emphasize the importance of integrating the ego into one's self-awareness journey. The dialogue highlights the significance of healing the inner child, building trust with the ego, and establishing healthy boundaries to navigate life effectively. Through compassionate self-reflection and inner work, individuals can foster a positive relationship with their ego, leading to personal growth and fulfillment.

Takeaways

• The ego is not inherently bad; it serves a protective function.
• Understanding the ego can lead to personal growth.
• The ego is a collection of identities shaped by experiences.
• Healing the inner child is crucial for ego integration.
• Compassionate dialogue with the ego fosters trust.
• Boundaries are essential for protecting the inner child.
• Ego can help navigate the complexities of life.
• Self-awareness is key to understanding the ego's role.
• The journey of self-discovery involves integrating the ego.
• Ego and soul can coexist harmoniously.

Boundaries are necessary to protect our energies and put a line in the sand until people can come in. It not with a negative connotation but also shows the other person where we stand and what our values are.  What is your understanding of boundaries?

Hamish shares his extraordinary journey from a successful TV industry professional to rock bottom and the transformative path that led him to a profound spiritual awakening. 

He shares a raw account of alcohol dependency and the pivotal moment of asking for help, and he reveals how the courage to be vulnerable became the gateway to profound personal transformation. 

His story unfolds from working in television, where success masked underlying struggles, to the life-altering decision to enter rehab. The revelation that "I matter" became the foundation for rebuilding his life. 

Despite losing his relationship, business, and home in South Africa, his commitment to sobriety opened unexpected doors. 

The conversation is fascinating as Hamish describes his radical decision to question everything he believed, leading to discoveries in shamanism and spiritual practices. 

His journey from judgment to acceptance demonstrates how challenging our deepest beliefs can catalyze extraordinary personal growth. This powerful narrative illuminates how surrender and openness can transform our entire reality, offering hope and inspiration for anyone facing their own crossroads.

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The story of how I overcome the patterns that kept me in a cage, being prisoner of my own reality. What is mean to live unaware and how painful that can be. The suppression of the feminine with all the power of a wounded masculine that does its best to devote to his own ego and avoiding the pain of his own inner child. A story from surviving to living life. An rough awakening of my spirit and the reward of overcoming that madness living in darkness by allowing others to tell me what and how I can live this life. 

Why are we get triggered  and what are showing us those moments when emotionally we explod inside. What is the language of them and how can we surrender to that moment. How can we take those triggers and see them as a lesson to show us something inside ourselves. Are you still give energy and emotions when you get triggered or you take a breath and choose?  How you deal with triggers and are we ever get rid of them?

Who are black angels and why we should love them instead of reject them. You, I, one day in this life we were someone else's black angel, we abused verbally or did an act the have hurt someone else in this life. We are the beauty of unity of dark and light. Embrace the teachings of the experiences we have with a dark angel and see beyond the human eyes, see with your heart, embrace life from a place of heart and the world around you will change.

We all have something beautiful buried deep inside ourselves.
 What is your treasure that you are afraid to share with the world. If you don't know yet, here you can find out what is that we all have inside but so afraid to let it out. 
 To express ourselves is powerful because we don't stay limited by our minds that are a human mind perspective, but we are not just human, we are more than human.