HEARTY (formerly Writing Threads)

Heather and Stephanie share some funny (& sometimes embarrassing) stories and Steph also shares some BIG NEWS! Then stay tuned for suggestions of good ol' blogger friends that have stayed on the Internet (& elsewhere) being funny. It's a "WHO TO FOLLOW" segment of Writing Threads! 

Mentioned in this episode: 

Glennon Doyle Momastery Carpe Diem 2012

Ann Imig

Glennon Doyle

We Can Do Hard Things

Ellie at One Crafty Mother

Katherine Stone

Leane Vandeman

Kristen Howerton

Dadcation - Michael Mobes

Ree Drummond, The Pioneer Woman

Amy Wilson

Meagan Francis

https://www.momfluential.net/about/

Wendi Aarons

Jenny Lawson

Robin O'Bryant

Janelle Hanchett

Heather and Steph process what happens over time with both sexual assault and spiritual trauma, and how both kinds of trauma are triggered by similar things. This is a heavy conversation, but the hope is that it brings some knowledge to people who may not understand, and the comfort of recognition for those that do understand. Thank you for bearing witness. 

#triggerwarning #spiritualtrauma #storytelling #writing #sexualassault #transphobia #keeptranskidsalive #beinganally

Mentioned in this episode: 

The Soul at the Center- Heather King on Medium

Matthew Paul Turner on Instagram

Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed

She’s Got Issues- Bipolar 2 Disorder “Chasing the Sparkle” with Mary Katherine Backstrom podcast episode

Steph and Heather take turns recording to each other in this episode about setting the bar too high and then feeling defeated by not living up to your own idea of how things should be. Of course, Steph and Heather also discuss what they're reading, watching, and listening to. Thank you for being here! 

Quotes from the show: 

"We need to be mindful of the bars we've set of someone else set, or we've allowed them to be set for us."  - Stephanie Wilson

"We do our best even when it doesn't look like our best from the outside." - Stephanie Wilson

"Keep track of YOUR OWN growth." - from a post-it on Steph's desk

Mentioned in this episode: 

Tiny Beautiful Things - Elizabeth Gilbert

Reservation Dogs on Hulu and FX

Abbott Elementary on ABC

What About Holly, the podcast

Whiskey When We're Dry

The Handmaid's Tale on Hulu

Inside Amy Schumer  

In this episode Heather shares about a local controversy in her small community, how it feels, what doubts arise, and how it can make her spin with anxiety. Listen as Steph reflects her thoughts and feelings about the ways Heather is feeling and thinking through it all. When do we speak up? When do we take a pause? How do we gauge our reactions and recognize that they are often privileged reactions. What do we really want to be in the world? Big Questions, but maybe sometimes the answers are more simple than our spinning minds would like to make them. 

Am I standing up for marginalized people? Am I responding in healthy ways? Am I going to make mistakes? These (&many more) are the questions we often ask that leave us stepping away quietly to do nothing, and we're not doing that anymore. 

There is a healthy pause, and then a framework for doing better. 

Mentioned in this episode:

Ann Imig - 5 Minute Mood Lift

Maggie Ginsberg

Jeremy Goldberg (almost positive this is the right Goldberg for the courage and stupidity quote. Please correct us if we’re wrong!)

Jill Krause and her company Bufahlow

God Forbid - documentary on Jerry Falwell, Jr.

You never know what we might talk about. In this episode we talk about control, or the lack of it, how we manage to cope when we can, and much more. A topic that arose is sex work, so listen to our thoughts about that cultural debate, huh? This and more, we're glad you're here for it. 

The Patient on Hulu

Bad Sisters on Appletv+

Culpable Season 2 podcast

Girls Next Level podcast

Melody Beatty episode of We Can Do Hard Things Codependence: How to Stop Controlling Others

ACLU.org Sex Work is Real Work and it’s Time To Treat it That Way

LGBTQ Communities and Sex Work

Thanks for supporting the arts by Viva Las Vegas Liv Osthus,TedXPortland 

***TRIGGER WARNING** (suicide, suicidal ideation, death, grief, Alzheimer's, chronic mental illness, addiction) 

This episode is holds a lot of sensitive information. Please skip this episode if you are struggling in any way, especially with your mental health or are grieving. If you choose to listen be sure you are supported and have a plan for who to call if you feel vulnerable or alone. Thank you. 

Adrienne Jones joins Steph and Heather for one of their deepest dives yet. Striving to hold Adrienne's heart and words in a safe place, Heather and Steph dive into the tragedies Adrienne has experienced, including the loss of her mother to Alzheimer's disease and her husband to debilitation life-stealing deep depression, after years of being his primary caregiver. Adrienne writes profoundly and exquisitely about her life as she is experiencing it, and links to where to find her can be seen below. Thank you for holding space for Adrienne, and for showing up to learn and grow. Peace to each of you. We love you. 

Adrienne Elizabeth Jones lives in Albuquerque, New Mexico. She believes in the difference between 'truth' and 'fact', the healing capacity of canine friends, and the life-changing power of story. Her writing has appeared in Brain, Child Magazine, The Mennonite, Jezebel, and elsewhere. Find her at nopointsforstyle.com or on most social media platforms as @nopoints4style.

Adrienne's blog, No Points for Style

Adrienne on Insta 

Adrienne on Facebook

Writing Threads on Facebook 

Writing Threads on Insta 

Come along as Heather and Steph record separately to each other. Steph asks Heather questions about alcoholism and both Heather and Steph talk about a new perspective, "rest as resistance", inspired by the We Can Do Hard Things episode with Tricia Hersey. Steph shares more about burnout as a single mother and how to stay positive when you are too exhausted to imagine things getting easier, smoother, or better. Then stick around for an AMAZING list of shows, podcasts and good books! Thank you for being here! 

Still True by Maggie Ginsberg

Whiskey When We’re Dry by John Larison

The Patient on Hulu

We can do hard things Episode 139 – October 13, 2022 “No More Grind: How to Finally Rest with Tricia Hersey”

Rest is Resistance, a manifesto by Tricia Hersey

Anxious Achiever podcast with Jill Smokler “Scary Mommy’s Founder on When Life Throws Curveballs”

Jill Smokler’s podcast “She’s got Issues” episode 4 Friend Breakups- Accepting when a friendship is over

The Bling Ring: Hollywood Heist on Netflix 

Ep 106 of True Story with Tig & Cheryl: The Real Bling Ring Hollywood Heist

All Good People Here by Ashley Flowers

Cheers to Leaving!  Ep 46: Hot Takes 

DAHMER: Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story

This episode is a conversation with the talented award-winning writer, Maggie Ginsberg. Heather and Maggie have known each other for years, and happen to share a sobriety date because of a blog post Heather wrote in the wee hours when she decided to quit drinking. Listen as Maggie and Heather share the details of how that came to be and how Maggie and Heather have now been sober together for almost thirteen years. The story of alcoholism is told in Maggie's new gripping and powerful novel, Still True, so of course Maggie and Heather dive deeper into the burdens the characters carry, their secrets, and much more; like when is it time to NOT share the truth? And when is it time to come clean? Where are the boundaries? And lastly, Maggie and Heather discuss what they're NOT watching, and why, AND Maggie recommends two of her favorite authors and their books. Get those. But first, go RIGHT NOW and get Still True. It will stay with you. It will make you think. It will make you believe the characters are real, living in Wisconsin, and maybe you'll get to go see them one day. That's good writing. Thank you, Maggie. 

Maggie Ginsberg is a senior editor at Madison Magazine and a longtime award-winning contributor to city, regional and national magazines. She lives in Wisconsin with her family. Still True is her first novel.

Some old school bloggers from back in the day may know her as Maggie, dammit, from the blog Okay, fine, dammit, and as the founder of Violence UnSilenced, which was an online community and platform for survivors of sexual and intimate partner violence to speak out. You can find Maggie on Facebook

Mentioned in this Episode:

Heather records alone and asks Steph some questions, one light and silly, and one more serious and deep (of course). Steph responds and shares more of her story and Heather tells a little more about hers as well. This episode was inspired by our friend and listener, Riley. Come along! 

Mentioned in this episode: 

Nick Kroll on Netflix 

Rebecca Woolf's book All Of This

Maggie Ginsberg's book Still True