Hello, Lovely

What is Confidence? In this episode of the Hello Lovely Podcast, I talk about what confidence actually is and how it’s created. I share a personal story about recently joining a business mastermind with a group of talented and hardworking women. My business is growing, and I could see the momentum building. I didn’t want to be in a position where I was trying to catch up with that growth later, so I made the decision to invest in my business and in myself now. Getting into the mastermind didn’t happen the first time I applied. My initial application was rejected and my application fee was refunded. I applied again and was rejected again. After taking time to pray, evaluate my priorities, and check in with myself, I realized the opportunity still aligned with what I wanted for my business and my future. So I applied again, explained my situation clearly, and this time I was accepted. That experience reinforced something powerful for me: confidence isn’t about talent, skill, or experience. Confidence is created through decisions and consistent action. Confidence is continuing to take action until you figure things out. It’s choosing to keep going even when the process requires persistence. It’s planning, deciding, taking action, and following through. In this episode, I also introduce the three areas that create genuine confidence: your priorities, your relationship with yourself, and your decision-making process. Over the next three episodes, I’ll be breaking down each of these areas and showing you how to build confidence in all three. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover: • What confidence actually is and how it’s created• A personal story about applying for a business mastermind• Why confidence is built through decisions and action• The role persistence plays in developing confidence• Why confidence isn’t limited to experience, skill, or ability• The three areas that create genuine confidence: priorities, yourself, and decisions

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Keep It Simple, Not Easy In this episode of the Hello Lovely Podcast, I talk about the difference between trying to make life easy and learning how to keep things simple. This topic came out of a very hard season in my life after losing my brother and sister a few years apart. During that time, I felt overwhelmed, anxious, exhausted, and stuck. Because everything felt so heavy, I thought the best plan was to make everything as easy as possible. That sounded like the right solution. But what I found was that trying to make everything easy actually made everything feel harder. When we expect something to be easy, anything that doesn’t match that expectation can start to feel complicated, frustrating, or exhausting. In this episode, I share how that showed up for me in everyday things like taking out the trash, doing laundry, and cooking. None of those tasks were impossible, but the expectation that they should feel easy created so much extra drama around them. What helped me was making a small shift: instead of asking how to make something easy, I started asking how to keep it simple. That one change gave my brain something measurable to work with. Keeping something simple opened the door to practical solutions, creativity, and a more streamlined process. It helped me move out of feeling stuck and into feeling more efficient, intentional, and clear. In this episode, I talk about how this shift can help with everyday life, especially when you’re overwhelmed or carrying a lot emotionally. You do not have to expect everything to be easy. But you can begin simplifying things in a way that supports you. Sometimes that one small change in language can change the way you move through your day. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover: • Why trying to make everything easy can make life feel harder• The difference between easy and simple• How expectations around “easy” create extra frustration and drama• Why keeping things simple gives your brain something measurable• Real-life examples like the trash bag, laundry, and cooking• How simplifying a process can create more clarity, efficiency, and energy Download the Interview with Yourself Worksheet

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Confidence in Your Decisions In this episode of the Hello Lovely Podcast, we wrap up the three-part confidence series by exploring the final piece: confidence in your decisions. Throughout this series we’ve talked about three areas that build genuine confidence — your priorities, your relationship with yourself, and your decisions. In this episode, we look closely at how decisions affect your daily energy and clarity. Every person already has a decision-making process. It’s the automatic way your brain evaluates options and chooses what to do next. Many people don’t realize this pattern exists until they pause and take a closer look at it. One example of a common pattern is what I call the pressure-regret cycle. This is when someone spends a lot of time and energy trying to make the “right” choice, feeling pressure before deciding, and then immediately second-guessing the decision afterward. You might recognize this pattern in everyday situations — ordering at a restaurant, making a purchase, choosing a program or job, or deciding how to spend your time. The pressure to choose correctly can feel exhausting, and the regret afterward can make it hard to fully enjoy what you chose. Often, the real issue is not the decision itself but the judgment that follows it. When someone believes they are a person who makes bad decisions, that belief creates pressure before the choice and regret afterward. When you become aware of this pattern, everything begins to shift. Instead of judging every decision, you can learn to choose intentionally, trust your process, and evaluate only when something genuinely needs adjusting. Confidence in your decisions means you know how you choose, you know what matters to you, and you move forward without constantly questioning yourself. When that pressure and regret cycle is removed, your mind becomes clearer, your energy increases, and you can focus on enjoying the choices you’ve made and moving forward. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways!

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The Relationship with Yourself In this episode of the Hello Lovely Podcast, I talk about something that influences every part of your life: the relationship you have with yourself. This topic builds on last week’s episode about believing in yourself. Once you understand that believing in yourself isn’t strange or unrealistic, the next step is looking at the relationship you have with yourself and why it matters so much. Your relationship with yourself acts as a filter for everything in your life. The way you think about yourself influences how you approach your priorities, your work, your relationships, your goals, and even the way you experience your circumstances. Many of us look outside ourselves for things that will make us feel better. We might look to food, shopping, distractions, or other comforts when we’re overwhelmed. Those things aren’t inherently bad, but they often work like temporary relief instead of addressing the real issue. They don’t solve the root cause of how we’re feeling about ourselves. In this episode, I explain why developing a relationship with yourself is so valuable and why many of us avoid doing it on purpose. Sometimes we worry that focusing on ourselves might be selfish, or we’re afraid of what we might discover when we look at what we’re truly thinking about ourselves. But the truth is, when you begin paying attention to your thoughts with curiosity and compassion, you start to see that what you’re thinking about yourself is simply a collection of sentences in your mind. And those thoughts can change. One of the most powerful ways to begin improving your relationship with yourself is by learning how to check in with your thoughts intentionally. When you listen to yourself the same way you would listen to a trusted friend, you begin clearing the filter that shapes how you see your life. And when that filter becomes clearer, everything else begins to shift. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover: • Why your relationship with yourself influences every part of your life• How your thoughts about yourself act as a filter for your experiences• Why many people avoid looking at what they think about themselves• The difference between surface-level distractions and solving the root cause• Why compassion and curiosity are essential when examining your thoughts• How building a stronger relationship with yourself can change how you show up in the world

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Motivation to Get Stuff Done In this episode of the Hello Lovely Podcast, I talk about motivation and how to create it so you can actually follow through on the things you want to do. Many of us think motivation comes from our circumstances. We might believe we’ll feel motivated when we have the right schedule, the right plan, the right time of day, or the right resources. But what I share in this episode is that motivation doesn’t come from those things. Motivation comes from what you’re thinking. Our brains are constantly evaluating what we see and experience and offering thoughts in response. Those thoughts then create emotions, and those emotions drive the actions we take. When we don’t feel motivated, it’s usually because of a thought we’re thinking in that moment. Our brains are constantly evaluating what we see and experience and offering thoughts in response. Those thoughts then create emotions, and those emotions drive the actions we take. When we don’t feel motivated, it’s usually because of a thought we’re thinking in that moment. For example, if you’re thinking something like “What’s the point?” or “It doesn’t matter,” that thought will naturally lead to a feeling of discouragement or lack of motivation. And when you feel that way, it becomes much harder to follow through on what you planned to do. But when you intentionally choose a thought that creates motivation, the feeling changes. And when the feeling changes, the actions you take begin to change as well. In this episode, I walk through the simple process of how our thoughts create feelings, how those feelings create actions, and how those actions produce results. Once you understand this process, you can begin choosing thoughts that help you create the motivation you’re looking for. One of my favorite thoughts to use is simple: I’m going to figure it out. When I think that, I immediately feel motivated to take the next step. Motivation isn’t something we have to wait for. It’s something we can create — one thought at a time. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. In this episode, we cover: • Why motivation doesn’t come from circumstances• How your thoughts create emotions and actions• The connection between thoughts, feelings, actions, and results• Common thoughts that lead to feeling unmotivated• How to identify the thought you’re thinking before you stop following through• Choosing thoughts that help create the feeling of motivation

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Believing in Yourself is Not Weird In this episode of the Hello Lovely Podcast, I talk about what it really means to believe in yourself — and why it’s not as strange or “woo-woo” as it might sound at first. For a long time, when I heard people say believe in yourself, I brushed it off. It sounded vague and unrealistic. But when I started looking more closely at what believing in yourself actually means, I realized something surprising: we are all already doing it. Believing in yourself is simply the thoughts you think about yourself. Many times the thoughts we believe about ourselves sound like this: I can’t do it. I won’t stick with it. It’s hard for me. Something’s missing. Sometimes those beliefs even show up through comparison with other people. We might think they’re smarter, they have connections, or things are easier for them. When those thoughts repeat often enough, they start shaping the way we see ourselves. But the important thing to understand is that these thoughts are still beliefs about ourselves. If we believe we can’t do something, that’s still believing in ourselves — it’s just believing something limiting. In this episode, I talk about how changing the thoughts you choose about yourself can shift how you feel. When you think something like I’m not good enough, you might feel insecure or discouraged. But when you think I can do this or I’m following through on this no matter what, your emotional experience shifts. Even if the situation hasn’t changed, the way you feel about yourself can. Believing in yourself doesn’t mean repeating thoughts you don’t believe. Instead, it means choosing thoughts that genuinely help you move forward and fuel the results you want to create. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. In this episode, we cover: • What believing in yourself actually means• How your thoughts about yourself shape how you feel• Common thoughts that quietly reinforce self-doubt• Why confidence is connected to what you think about yourself• Practicing new thoughts that support the results you want• How intentionally choosing thoughts can help you follow through Download the Interview with Yourself Worksheet

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Ep. # 3 – Realistic vs. Possible Goals can be possible and realistic. I’m sharing how you can keep your priorities #1 and create new results that line up with your priorities. You don’t have to forget who you are when you set new goals. You can improve your relationships, reach your goals, and keep your priorities without kicking yourself or wearing yourself out. I’ll be sharing how that’s possible in this episode. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What realistic really means and how it’s subjective. What happens when we think ‘I can’t because….” Your choice of what’s possible will impact your goals. How you can create new results without compromising your priorities. Featured on the Show: Canva – my creative outlet for design. (Where I make my cheesy T-shirts). If you are ready to take this work deeper and work with me one-on-one, join my Genuine Confidence program. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your Hello, Lovely yeah, girl! moments!

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Realistic vs Possible In this episode of the Hello Lovely Podcast, I talk about the difference between something being realistic and something being possible — and why the way we think about those two words can shape what we do next in our lives. Many times when we want to start something new, our brain offers a long list of reasons why we can’t. It might sound like: I can’t because of time, money, energy, my job, my family, responsibilities, or the unknown. All of those things can be valid concerns. But when we start by assuming something isn’t achievable, we often block ourselves from even seeing the next step. The phrase “be realistic” can sound very official and responsible. But when we look closely, it often prepares us for disappointment before we’ve even tried. Instead of thinking about what might be possible, we sometimes shut down the idea entirely. In this episode, I explore the definitions of realistic and possible and how those ideas affect our thinking. Realistic can mean what we practically expect to achieve. But possible simply means something is able to be done. And when we believe something is possible, we open ourselves up to new actions, solutions, and opportunities. I also talk about how our brains naturally resist new things because new actions require learning, trial and error, and sometimes failing along the way. That resistance can show up as a long list of reasons why something won’t work. But when we start asking a different question — What if this were possible? — we begin creating space for new results. Whether it’s confidence, a new job, paying off debt, improving relationships, or starting something creative like a podcast, the difference between realistic and possible often comes down to what we believe we can create. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. In this episode, we cover: • Why the phrase “be realistic” often prepares us for disappointment• The difference between realistic expectations and what is possible• How the brain creates reasons why we “can’t” do something• Why new goals require trial, error, and learning along the way• Asking a different question: What if this were possible?• How believing something is possible changes the actions we take

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Ep. #2 – What Are Goals For? How many times have you set goals, got really excited about them, quit, and then beat yourself up? That was my experience for years. It’s so disappointing. When you set a goal to prove you’re good enough to yourself or other people, you end up linking your worth to the goal results. When you believe that you matter, the goals you choose to take on mean something to you. They are things you want to experience. Not prove. Things you want to enjoy because they add spice to your life. I’m sharing 6-tips to help you fully validate your goals before jumping in and explaining why that’s so valuable to do. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: Goals don’t change your worth.  Your approach to goals matters. You can enjoy your life on the way to your goals.  How to fully validate the goal before you start. Featured on the Show: If you are ready to take this work deeper and work with me one-on-one, join my Genuine Confidence program. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your Hello, Lovely ‘yes, girl’ moments. and my hydrangeas….

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What Are Goals For? In this episode of the Hello Lovely Podcast, I share a different way to think about goals — one that removes pressure and reconnects your ambitions with what truly matters to you. For many of us, goals quietly become tied to our sense of worth. We believe that achieving something will finally prove that we’re good enough. But I want to offer another perspective. Your life is already valuable. Your worth isn’t determined by results. Goals can simply be a way to add interest, growth, and a little more “spice” to your life. In this episode, I walk through the six standards I personally use before committing to any goal. These standards help me make sure the goal is something I genuinely want to pursue — not something driven by pressure, comparison, or the need to prove myself. When a goal meets these standards, the journey toward that result becomes far more enjoyable and meaningful. I also invite you to think about the person you’ll become along the way. Instead of waiting until the result happens to feel confident or fulfilled, you can begin embodying that version of yourself right now. The thoughts, habits, and behaviors that create new results are available to you today. I often compare goals to putting together a puzzle. The finished picture is satisfying, but the real beauty is in placing each piece along the way. Personal growth works the same way. The journey itself shapes who you become. If goals have ever felt heavy, stressful, or tied to self-criticism, this episode will help you approach them with more clarity, curiosity, and enjoyment. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover: • Why goals should never be used to prove your worth• The six standards I use before committing to a goal• How reevaluating replaces quitting when pursuing meaningful results• Removing self-criticism from the goal-setting process• Why the journey toward a goal matters as much as the result• How to begin becoming the person you want to be today

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