The most significant predictor of how teens will do after a divorce depends on how well their parents get along. Researchers have found that conflict between divorced parents increases the risk of mental health problems in kids. Specifically, parental contention can lead to a child's fear of abandonment, which can lead to future mental health problems. Even when a divorce is amicable, it's natural for teens to grieve the loss of their family life. Expect to see your teen experience a wide variety of emotions, ranging from anger to sadness. Let them know that it's healthy to share those feelings, but make it clear that it's important to express them in a healthy manner. But for parents the big question is - HOW do I connect with my teenager?