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Do you have, or have you had some issues with your nether regions? If so, today's episode is super important for you, as well as for all the other ladies out there, as Alex talks to Dr. Anna Cabeca about all things vulva health and offers you some real deal education on the subject. Listen in to learn some really important information about this often neglected subject.

Although your vulva may not really be a part of your body that you've given a lot of attention to, on today's show Alex goes into a number of pretty personal details about some issues that she's been having, that a lot of ladies also tend to have, with the dryness, the incontinence and the pain. Today's episode deals with your sexual and your hormonal health and Alex and Dr. Cabeca, who's been a woman's hormonal expert for years, talk about the stuff that tends to happen as you get older- and, quite interestingly, the stuff that seems to be happening to younger and younger women today. Today, they talk about what you can do to heal it and how to avoid it and get healthy and they will also be talking about the spiritual aspects of all of this. Listen in now, to hear this really great interview, where Dr. Cabeca and Alex discuss the foundations of what it means to be a happy, healthy woman, who is satisfied in her body. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/149

Do you find yourself living in a way that someone else thinks you should? Does this fly in the face of the way you would actually live, without this kind of influence? If so, you're not alone and you will really gain a lot from today's show, which is all about how women can- and really need to- start living life by our own rules, in every aspect. It's about throwing off the 'shoulds' and learning to live your life in the way that you would choose to. Listen in today, as Alex helps you to discover your own way forward.

Today, Alex shares a very heartfelt and personal story about her experience with a client, Michelle. They were talking about Michelle's body, which in her private session with Alex, Michelle described as being built like a brick sh*t house. This prompted Alex to point out to her that the words that we use really do have power. When we use phrases and words to describe ourselves, those words and phrases actually become our reality and our world and we keep ourselves stuck there. So, it's time to flip these old worlds into something else. You need to learn, when stumbling across old, limiting beliefs, to reconstruct them with love and care, so as not to scare the life out of your brain! Alex cautions you, however, that if you try to make these changes too big, or too fast, your lizard brain could rear up and start fighting you, to keep your old thoughts in place, so you really have to start small, in order to make the changes long lasting. 

The new thought that Michelle agreed to try on in her daily life, was “I am strong, capable and I deserve the self-care that I desire.” Yet, for Alex, after ending the call, something still felt off... Then she realized that it was her own lizard brain, eating into her power and her ego and it had some really nasty things to say about her body, on a very regular basis. Although Alex acknowledges the privileges that she enjoys, being a white woman, relatively thin and quite tall, she still goes through her own struggles and pain with her body, as do all of us, because we've all been raised as women, to be judged by our bodies! So, she began to work on flipping her old beliefs about her body and turning them into manageable, self-loving affirmations. This felt good, but the imperfections became meaner and more difficult to acknowledge. Alex still persevered with taking her power back and she really encourages you to do the same, because it's really necessary and it's worth it! You really do need to rewrite the story around your beliefs about your body- now, and show up in the world centered, graceful, and wise!  

Today, Alex will be interviewing Dr. Srini Pillay, a Harvard Neuroscientist and Coach, about his brand new and really inspiring book, Tinker, Dabble, Doodle, Try, which has just been nominated one of the fifty must reads by Coastal Living, for the second time. It's a beautiful exploration of creativity and what we think about being productive and how we're overworking ourselves to get more done, but it's really not working. It's about how our creativity really comes out of a space of spaciousness and doodling, in many ways. Listen in today, to get some of Dr. Pillay's really awesome tools to help you to get unstuck, keep moving forward and live by your own rules.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/148

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Would you like to learn how to talk about sex with your kids? And would you like to be able to have the conversation in a calm, open and educational tone?  This is something that a lot of parents really struggle with, even though they may be educated and open about sex in general. Today's show is a special edition, after the very first live event of Her Rules Radio, where Alex recorded an incredible panel discussion, in Brooklyn, New York City, titled Sex 101 For Parents. The two Sex Experts and Educators on the panel were Mal Harrison and Ekem Merchant. Listen in and find out how to talk to your kids in a way that will prepare them and let them know that sex does matter, but without putting too much judgment on it.

Mal Harrison is the founder of The Centre For Erotic Intelligence. She's a Clinical Sexologist and Coach, who has an amazing Ted Talk and she's also spoken around the world. She creates programs all over the country to help people to get right with sexuality and to be able to talk about it. 

Ekem has been working in Public Health for twenty years, with a focus on Adolescent and Women's Health and Community Health Centre training directly in schools- even at Alex's son's school. People tend to swarm to her with questions when they find out what she does, but she loves talking about it, so it's great!

Planned Parenthood is the nation's largest provider of sex education, reaching a million and a half people per year! They and the schools rely on the parents to be the backup at home and to help the kids to integrate what they are supposedly learning in schools. However, not all kids are getting the same education and this results in people learning so many different aspects and information about sex. 

A few days ago, after the Bill Cosby trial had been dismissed, one of the jurors said that because one woman went to his house wearing a top which revealed her bare midriff, it implied consent. Alex nearly lost her mind when she heard that, as she sees that as rape culture at its worst! Rape culture blames the victim for enticing their rapist! This is why parents really need to learn to talk with their children about sex right now! Parents need to teach them that no matter what someone is wearing, you are not allowed to touch them without their consent and that you also need to listen to them during sexual or intimate activities. They need to know that no one has the right to cross your boundaries, abuse you or rape you because you're wearing revealing clothing.  This is why this topic is really so important. Alex points out that when you allow your children to believe that women are to blame for their rape, it leads to people becoming jury members later on, who uphold this sexual culture that makes either women or men who are the victims, blameworthy. Listen in now, to hear the panel discussion and to get some much-needed support around this really important issue.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/147

Have you ever heard of Soul Camp? Well, if you haven't yet, you really need to listen in to today's episode, where Alex talks to Michelle Goldblum, one of its founders. Alex was lucky enough to be invited to speak at the very first Soul Camp, a couple of years ago and she will be teaching there again, at the East Coast Camp in August of this year. Listen in to find out how it started, back in 2014 and how much you will gain from going there. 

Today, Michelle explains how she and her dear friend, Ally, created Soul Camp, what it is and also, what inspired them to put together what is basically a three to four-day play-date for adults! Listen in now, to find out all about Soul Camp and how it came to be what it is today.

Also, don't miss Alex's important information about her recent skin cancer diagnosis. She finally found some beauty products that are safe and healthy for your skin. Listen in toe learn what she recommends.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/146

I think we all have a list. That’s right, a F-It List. This List is not quite a Bucket List, where you check things off that you want to do before you die. Instead, we can use a F-It list to get rid of the things that are weighing you down. This tool uses all the powers of Positive Psychology at our disposal, allowing you to get rid of anything that drains you. 

As women in the modern world, we carry around habits and thoughts attached to shame, kind of like how we carry heavy books in a backpack. What’s in your shame backpack that you are ready to put down? What are the thoughts and habits that are keeping you from a fulfilled and happy life? Are you ready to make a F-It list?

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/145

Have you ever heard yourself saying: “I'm kinda clear about what I want, but I keep getting in my own way.” Or “I'm not sure what I want...” Or even “I don't know how I feel- I'm just confused.”? Well, today, Alex talks about the lack of clarity, the confusion and the self-sabotage that all women seem to experience. She attributes this to the fact that we, as women, have all been trained to minimize our thoughts, emotions and even our strengths and talents. Alex points out that we have shut ourselves down, in so many ways and for such a long time, that

Alex points out that we have shut ourselves down, in so many ways and for such a long time, that we have become completely out of practice with connecting with what is true and good. We're so disconnected that even our ability to create what we want and feel the way we'd like to feel has become severely damaged! Our ability to stop harming ourselves with negative thinking or bad eating habits has also been affected because it's all connected! Listen in to find out more.

Today, Alex talks about Minimize Me, which she explains, is such a big show topic, that she's turned it into a whole blog series. (You can access the blog on either www.alexandrajamieson.com, or on www.herrulesradio.com) The gist of it is that we're stuffing down our strengths, covering up our quirks and ignoring our truth! Alex hears this, almost daily, from clients and friends and she's definitely experienced this for herself, throughout her life. Listen in today, as Alex gives you some ways to overcome your habit of minimizing your dreams, desires and even your truth!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/144

Do you know what it actually means for women to step into their power? This is really something that needs to be considered when you look at the frightening and  dangerous things that are going on for women in Texas at the moment. The Texas lawmakers are trying to make it even harder for women to have control over their bodies and their lives, by attempting to make it illegal to drive a woman to a safe abortion provider!  

According to a study done by the University of Texas recently, in the six years since Planned Parenthood and other safe abortion providers and women's health clinics there have been de-funded, the death rate in maternal health has doubled. This de-funding has also resulted in the closure of more than eighty clinics, most of which were in rural areas where no alternative care facilities have been provided. This means that in the two years since the cuts were implemented, the remaining health clinics in the state of Texas are only able to serve half the women who were being taken care of before.  

Alex points out that de-funding Planned Parenthood and making safe abortions harder to obtain does not stop abortion. It only stops safe abortion. This is why Alex refers to woman's health as a revolution. It's a battle being waged every day and women's lives are at risk! This is what prompted her to give a talk at The Women's Empowerment Expo in Washington DC on the Memorial Day weekend. Listen in today, as Alex gives you a brief overview of the talk that she gave at the Expo, called The Foundations of Women's Power.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/143

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Years ago in college, I investigated some women’s health clinics for a newspaper article and found several fake ones, who only provided misinformation. Then I went to a Planned Parenthood clinic. Boy, talk about a world of difference in the quality of the information, as well as in the level of respect and dignity with which I was treated! Not judgment, no pressure, just the facts!

There is a disturbing trend going on right now, where many states are trying ban abortion - a further assault on women’s health in our country! Today is a show that isn’t about politics. It’s about women and their health. It’s about being able to make choices about your health and family that are in the best interests of your family. Women of color are disproportionately affected by abortion, further keeping many families trapped in poverty.

This week’s interview is with Dr. Willie Parker, the author of Life’s Work - A Moral Argument for Choice. He grew up in a Christian home in the deep South. As a Doctor, he realized that in order to show true Biblical compassion to women, he needed to provide abortion services. His journey has been a transformative one, as he eventually left his Obstetrics practice and gave up his penthouse in Hawaii, to begin life in the deep South as an itinerant abortion provider traveling between Mississippi, Alabama, and Georgia. Listen to his amazing interview as he beautifully lays out the moral case for compassion through choice.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com.

What if you knew that your true confidence and power are actually buried in the very parts of you that you have disowned? Today, Alex talks about the insanity in the world that causes you to hide parts of yourself, in order to be acceptable. She points out that this ensures that you remain unfulfilled, miserable and at war with yourself. She explains that there is a path to the woman you crave to become. It's unruly, messy and a bit naughty, and it asks you to trust the parts of you that you have previously disowned and warred against. This is the path of The Feminine Genius. Listen in today and find your inner knowing.

The guest on today's show is LiYana Silver, an incredible, beautiful and smart torch bearer for the world that's coming, in which feminine leadership flourishes. She 's a coach, a teacher and a speaker who supports women to find the full expression of their feminine strengths in their work, love, and lives, through her mentorship, her blog and now also her new book, which Alex assures you is different from anything you've read before. It's about connecting you with the inner knowing of your body and Alex asks you to listen in with an open mind. Join Alex and LiYana today and find out where your true power lies.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexjamieson.com/140.

Are you on the precipice of figuring out what is specifically right for you in your life? Or are you still struggling to get to know who you really are? Either way, you'll gain a lot from this show, as it's all about helping you to find the best version of you. Alex knows that it can be really tough to find your truth in this culture of ours. We all tend to copy others in what they do and sometimes even in their mannerisms, so it becomes pretty hard at times to get clear on what feels right (or wrong) for us. Alex has found that exploring what lights you up and makes you laugh is a really great way to discover who you are, particularly if you're feeling stuck, so today, she invites you to pursue this and find out. She shares a weird and funny little story about John Hodgeman, a super smart and witty writer, comedian and actor, who also has a podcast, called The Judge John Hodgeman Show. Listen in now, to hear her funny story.

Also on the show today, Alex talks to one of her favorite new authors, Stephen Cope about those relationships that have meaning. Stephen, a sweet and lovely man, is a Social Worker and a Scholar in Residence at Kripalu, an incredible Retreat Centre on the East Coast, which is also the largest yoga research institute in the western world. Stephen is a Kripalu Ambassador and he's also the author of some great best-selling books, including Yoga And The Quest For The True Self and The Wisdom Of Yoga. His latest book is called Soul Friends- The Transforming Power Of Deep Human Connection and it looks at relationships and friendships in life and helps you to understand how you become who you are, in relation to your friends. Stephen gives some great historical examples and some personal stories too. Listen in today and find out more about discovering yourself in relationship to other people.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/139