Here's The Thing...Lauren Cardinale, CMS-CHt, FIBH, CPC

A smell, a phrase, a tone, a thought - any of them (and more) can send us reeling back to an experience we wish we never had. PTSD is the most notable form, but previous trauma- physical, mental and emotional - takes place in so many smaller ways as well. We often wonder whether we are just being dramatic, or if there is really something there. This show is about trauma, how we can identify if a past experience is affecting us, and what we can do about it - with a special guest who is a trauma therapist. Items to note: books - "The Presence Process" and "The Body Keeps Score", website - www.eftuniverse.com

They say grieving is a process. Loss is something we experience throughout our lives- disappointments, break-ups, and deaths are all part of life. However, not only can these experiences be painful and challenging because of their intensity, we often don't know how to talk about them, prepare for them, or know how to deal with them when they show up. We are often faced with loss and lack the power to deal, feel, and heal. In this show, we talk about how to grow and move through grief. We’ll discuss the five stages of grief, a few lessons to take from it, and then I’ll discuss a method used in grief coaching.

Our emotions have a vast range, but the not-so-good ones can be the real buggers! Good emotions just feel, well, good - but the not-so-good emotions keep us out of alignment – not good. Sometimes the despair or grief we are feeling seems like it will never end, or the anger and resentment.Tonight we’re going to talk about the scale of emotions and how to consistently, and consciously, work your way "up" - from wherever you are. This is about incrementally moving up that scale, consistently, by consciously choosing thoughts. It is a practice, but it is a quantifiable destination as well.

Big, fat, right in front of your face EXCUSES! Where there is a will, there is a way, yes, but sometimes we make excuses because we just prefer there isn't a way - so we don't have to take responsibility and be uncomfortable as we grow! Those of us who complain and blame, stay stuck. We insist that everything is out of our control. We hand all of our power over to our circumstances instead of taking responsibility and changing our lives ourselves - but Here’s The Thing…..an excuse is just a challenge that you give your power to. To shift your reality, you must control your thoughts and actions. Success is not about your circumstances. It's about who you are BEING.

We make room for a remarkably narrow range of personality styles. We are told that to be great, is to be bold. To be happy, is to be sociable. We see ourselves as a nation of extroverts – which means we’ve lost sight of who we really are. In this show, we are talking about the spectrum of introversion through ambiversion, all the way to extroversion, how to know where you are in that spectrum and the amazing benefits of all of it – particularly in this world that is a “CULTure of personality”.

So, how old are you? How often do you get that question – perhaps not very often past the age of 13, but why? Because of the sensitivities around it! Oh, the expectations with each age - whose expectations? Just about everyone. The age to get married, or have kids, what we're supposed to be doing, look like and feel at 30, 40, 50 and up! Do you hide your age? Do you believe that if people really knew your age, things would change for you? Why do we have so many attachments and expectations?! Tonight we’ll be talking about WHO'S GOT YOUR NUMBER?" Age, the attachments, and why it really is JUST A NUMBER!

Age is such a sensitive subject, but it really IS just a number.

How great do you feel with a new haircut or some new clothes? What about when you drop a few pounds or even get a new car? The changes are on the outside, but we certainly feel it on the inside as well. But which happened first, the change, or the feeling? In this show, we’ll be discussing the necessary steps for making (lasting) change - and find out if change happens from the inside out, or the outside in. A special guest joins me, and I guarantee, this discussion will not be what you are thinking!

What we want is connection, freedom, abundance and energy - Love. What weighs us down and stops us is anger, resentment, being ungrateful, and not having clear boundaries – in essence, varying forms of fear – yes, fear. In everything we do, we are either moving towards love, or away from fear. It’s the flip side of the same coin. In the abundance loop, it starts with gratitude, then peace of mind, which leads to wise choices and positive outcomes. Listen for practical exercises for maintaining high energy and a true understanding of how our reality is a direct reflection of the thoughts we think - in EVERY way.

The friendly neighbor, your caring uncle, your funny friend, the short-tempered client, the angry co-worker, the frustrated classmate.....but the DIFFICULT person – that’s something different, right? It implies something negative, but without knowing WHY they are that way. We’ve all been there—trying valiantly to reason with an incredibly difficult person. The situation proves frustrating, maddening, and sometimes even frightening. The truth is, you can’t reason with an unreasonable person. However, there are proven techniques to better manage such dicey situations. Listen as we talk more about these difficult people, what makes them difficult, and how to deal with them so that life doesn't have to slow down just to avoid them!