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In this episode of Mindset Hackers, my good friend Halie Avolio and I talk about imposter syndrome and the many ways it can show up, and how to start blazing your own trail and not doing things based on the expectations of others. 

Imposter syndrome is usually the feeling of:

But Hallie explains that Imposter Syndrome isn't just not having the 'skillset' of someone who is further along the path that you, but it can also be not living in alignment with your true self, therefore giving you this feeling of not being worthy.

Bronnie Ware, in her book "The 5 Regrets Of The Dying" she talks about the number 1 regret of the dying is: I wish I had lived a life true to myself. 

Hallie goes deep into how living a life that aligns with our CORE values, it puts us back into alignment and recommends journaling every day and writing down what YOUR core values are. 

Hallie also challenges you to re-frame Imposter Syndrome from being a fraud or imposter, to someone who is stepping into something new. 

Below is a list of core values commonly used by leadership institutes and programs. This list is not exhaustive, but it will give you an idea of some common core values (also called personal values). My recommendation is to select less than five core values to focus on—if everything is a core value, then nothing is really a priority.

Core Values List

Today on Mindset Hackers I will give you the 5 step formula for crushing your biggest goals and how to stay on top of them through the entire year. 

It's the 3rd week of January and its the time where most people start letting off the gas on their goals. They say that 92% of people fail at their new years resolution, yet we hear all about S.M.A.R.T goals in the corporate world. 

SMART Goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time Bound.

What is attainable? Everything! What is realistic? Codeword for 'I don't want you to fail so be realistic'. 

Ultra-athlete, best selling author and former Navy Seal David Goggins knows all about the breaking through what we think is 'realistic'. 

In his mind, he calls this the 'governor', like the device that is on a sports car that limits how fast it can go. A Porsche could go 190 without a governor, but at 135 miles per hour its cuts off the gas and prevents it from going that fast. 

According to David Goggins, when we start to want to tap out, to give up, to quit, we've only hit 40% of our capacity and that should tell us that we  have so much further we can go. 

So if we go into our goals describing them as needing to be 'attainable' and 'realistic', right there we are setting our own governor. 

Let's dive into the 5 steps that you can use to level up this year by adding:

Clarity around your goals.

A strong and compelling why (anchoring pain and pleasure).

Visibility around your goals.

Accountability around your goals.

A detailed plan of action.

Let's make it happen Mindset Hackers!

In this episode of Mindset Hackers I detail how I start the my day and create enough momentum to destroy any obstacle that comes in my path, and that would also include the limiting beliefs that (could) hold me back. 

I'll share with you the 4 mantras/affirmations that I say to my self several hundreds of times during the year. 

I say these over and over, as I take a cold shower every morning, because I am reprogramming my mind to be able to figure out anything. How to be more mentally tough. How to be more resourceful. How to keep going. 

The book that I recommend in this episode is "Mindset" by Carol Dweck where she coined the term 'Growth Mindset' and 'Fixed Mindset'. This is an excellent read and one that I find more and more value in the traits of how highly successful people look at things like learning, failure, adaptability and ego. 

Start using these 4 mantras and do them every day like I do and you'll start to program yourself with the traits of a growth mindset and be able to go deeper into your reserves when tackling some of your biggest goals. 

“He didn’t ask for mistake-free games. He didn’t demand that his players never lose. He asked for full preparation and full effort from them. “Did I win? Did I lose? Those are the wrong questions. The correct question is: Did I make my best effort?” If so, he says, “You may be outscored but you will never lose.”  Carol Dweck 

“Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.”

Did you know that the failure rate of New Years Goals is about 92%?

What is it about the 8% that actually do hit their big hairy and audacious goals?

In this episode of Mindset Hackers, my mindset twinner Hallie Avolio and I jump into why people fail at their goals and what to do to set your year off in the right way.

Hallie shares her 4 step process on setting intentions for the year.

We also dive into the concept of embodiment, the ‘feeling’ of what it is that you want to experience, and why it’s so important to use the feeling to precede the actual experience.

As Dr. Joe Dispenza says, the pathway to manifestation is to use intention to cast a line out into the quantum field and the elevated emotion is what reels it back in to create the actual experience.

This is YOUR year my friends, don’t let it be like every single other year where you set a goal, then forget about it after week number 3 or let it sit written down on a piece of paper and then stuffed in your desk drawer only to be found in August.

Short and sweet today my fellow Mindset Hackers!

There is a quote that I love: "It's better to sweat in training than to bleed in battle". 

My first intention for this year to to level up my seeking out of that which is uncomfortable and I invite you to join me to do the same.

Ultra-athlete, former Navy Seal and often called 'the worlds toughest man' is David Goggins.

I read a post from David sometime in 2021 where he talked about how we often 'check the weather' before going out and training, instead of training regardless of what the weather is like. 

This year, go out and attack life, before life attacks you. 

Have an incredible start to 2022!

"Your level of income, happiness and fulfillment is in direct proportion to your level of personal development'. - Jim Rohn.

This year commit to your own personal development. Develop yourself to the highest version of yourself and the external world will match up to that in time. 

The story is not new and one I talk about a lot here on Mindset Hackers: The dopamine treadmill.

Obsessing over the next commission, promotion or opportunity. Hopelessly focused on reaching the next level of success or hitting a moving target of satisfaction. 

When you are on the treadmill, you are missing out on life. The sunrise, the air, the music, the food, the touch, the senses all become desensitized. 

You focus on things in the future, you focus on things in the past, but you miss out on the present, which is the only place you should be. 

Bobby Dysart, author of The 5 Buckets: The Framework For Living With Intention and host of the School of Intention Podcast describes his story of being successful, by the standard metrics, before Covid disrupted his new start up business and left him with half of his clients. 

During a weekend retreat, he was able to connect with himself and others on a different level, and help give him the guidance that he needed to find the truest fulfillment in life. 

He dove into meditation, self love, connection, ice bath's, yoga sessions, sharing circles, journaling, nature hikes; completely an inward journey.

After that his life was changed forever. 

He developed a deeper connection with his daily actions and built a framework for really living, which he now shares on the Mindset Hackers podcast.

The 5 buckets are: 

Relationships.

Creativity.

Health.

Learning.

Work. 

If you've found yourself on the treadmill of work and life, maybe its time to slow down and embrace being intentional, finding your purpose, and getting back to the basics of enjoying life to the fullest. 

Go to school. Work hard. Get a job and get paid 6 figures. Doctor, lawyer, architect. Work for 40-50 years and you are set.

Does that sound familiar? 

Marcus Chan was washing dishes, sometimes for up to 15 hours on a Sunday and he knew there had to be more. 

He rejected the societal constructs that said that to make money, you've got to work hard in one of those high paying jobs.

As he broke through the 100k barrier, then 150, then 200, he realized he could keep going. 

After getting 10 raises in 10 years and bringing in millions of dollars for a large corporation, he decided it was time to move on and become a sales coach for the top B2B and Sales professionals and leaders. 

Join me and Marcus and we dissect the mindset and mindset tools & practices of an 8 figure entrepreneur.

How do leaders teach their employees to cultivate a powerful mindset?

Are top sales organizations teaching mindset as part of their onboarding and training?

What mindset practices does Marcus do for himself?

What are the top limiting beliefs and stories that sales reps have that hold them back?

How did Marcus start thinking bigger and who did he learn from?

We'll get deep into Mindset on this episode of Mindset Hackers. 

Visualization, journaling, affirmations, we cover it all. 

"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten" Tony Robbins

"What we do or cannot do, what we consider is possible or not possible, is rarely a function of our true capability. Its merely a function of our beliefs about who we truly are and what we can accomplish." Tony Robbins

In this episode of Mindset Hackers, my mindset twin Hallie Avolio and I deep dive into how to let go of caring what others think about you. We talk about our back stories in coming into the versions of us that aren't restrained by the fear of judgement of others.

Some of the topics we talk about in this episode are imposters syndrome, perfectionism (fear of putting it out there), dimming our light for others, overcompensating, fear of rejection, needing external validation.

Hallie and I both have our backstories and our struggles, and we share our mindset tools that we use to free ourselves from the chains that once held us back, and now give us an absolute sense of confidence and freedom. 

When you stop worrying about what others think of you, you give yourself massive amounts of energy that will help propel you to new levels of the enjoyment of life. Your mind is the most energy consuming organ in your body and to obsess, stress or worry about what others think of us, we are just wasting energy on things that we can't do anything about. 

Confidence is the most beautiful quality that you can possess. 

"A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval" Mark Twain

Let's get authentic and real with Simon and Hallie. 

When you get hurt, you close up, you defend, you protect, you put your walls up, you close the blinds, you shut the doors, you close the gates. 

Losing someone you love. A divorce. A failed business. Getting fired. 

These are things that can cause anyone to shut down and go into Zombie mode. 

Confidence Coach Claudia Wyatt understands, she has been there, to the depths and back. 

Claudia had spiraled down after a brutal divorce and several deaths in her family including her father, sister and dog.

Blow after blow, this took its toll on her until she could barely function except on auto pilot. 

Retreated from her life, retreated from herself, she went inward in the wrong way.  

Getting by, day to day, autopilot and lost.

Eventually she reached a point where something that had to give.

Claudia details her 4 step process of healing, mindset and self love that pulled her out of her Zombie state.

She started to find her voice and to start grow. 

You may have felt the way she did, or maybe you know someone, or maybe you are in a good place right now.

No matter what your situation is, you'll get so much out of these 4 practices so make sure to listen to this episode, share with someone who could use this message, and put this into action. 

"If you want to live a life you've never had, you'll have to do things you have never done" - Jen Sincero

"The measure of your life is whether it matches your dream" - Marie Forleo

Visualization is an exceptionally powerful tool that you can use to create any dream that you wish. This is why so many high performing athletes use visualization as part of their routines, it is a way to rehearse the outcome that you want. 

Athletes that use visualization include: 

My question is if these athletes swear by visualization, and this is a tool that anyone can use, are you taking advantage of visualization to create the life that you desire?

Today on Mindset Hackers I'll share with you the next level of visualization that is even more impactful than the way that is taught by most coaches. 

I'll teach you why visualization alone (mental imagery) is not nearly as powerful as employing all 5 of your senses within your mind to make it feel more real, thus eliminating the mental resistance that you may have around creating the dreams that you desire. 

Please subscribe to the Mindset Hackers Podcast and share with anyone that you may feel will resonate wit this episode because the more we can grow these topics, the more we can help transform lives.