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- But What if it does? Embracing Uncertainty, Reframing Your Thoughts & Calming Your Nervous System
What if it doesn't work? What if I fail? What if they don't like me?
We all know the "what if" game. But what if you asked a different question? In this episode of HIListically Speaking, Hilary Russo explores how to embrace uncertainty, reframe negative thoughts, and work with your nervous system when life doesn't come with guarantees. From the "fork in the road" to the brain's negativity bias, Hilary shares simple ways to shift the questions we ask ourselves and move from "What if it doesn't?" to "What if it does?" She also explains how Havening Techniques® can support this process and closes with a short, guided Havening experience you can try for yourself. READ "THE WHAT IF GAME" - MY ARTICLE ON MY SUBSTACK (THE BRAIN CANDY BLUEPRINT) https://substack.com/@hilaryrusso
GET THE NEWSLETTER ON WAYS TO BE KIND TO YOUR MIND DELIVERED TO YOUR INBOX https://www.hilaryrusso.com/braincandy
DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training
UPCOMING EVENTS YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS! https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events JOIN ME AT KRIPALU FOR A TWO-DAY RETREAT https://kripalu.org/experiences/heal-your-nervous-system-neuroscience-therapeutic-touch
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
15 min - Ep211 - From Survival Mode to Self-Love: Why Success Couldn't Heal His Trauma
For decades, entrepreneur and diabetes advocate Howard Steinberg appeared successful by every measure. But beneath the accomplishments was a relentless inner critic, childhood wounds, intergenerational trauma, and a deep longing to understand who he really was. In this powerful conversation, Howard shares the deeply personal journey behind his memoir, Confessions of a Problem Seeker: My Lifetime Journey from Busy Brain to Loving Heart. Together, we explore childhood survival patterns, the impact of being raised by Holocaust survivors, finding yourself after divorce and career loss, self-compassion, psychedelic healing, and why the path to wholeness begins by learning to sit with discomfort instead of running from it. If you've ever felt stuck in survival mode, join the conversation with host Hilary Russo and her guest and be kind to your mind.
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Connect with Howard https://howardsteinberg.com/
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
34 min - Ep210 - It's Never Too Late to Choose Yourself: Finding Freedom After the Fire with Deborah Santana
Many women reach midlife and feel a powerful inner urge to reinvent themselves. But how do you choose a new path when your entire life has been shaped by responsibility, relationships, expectations, or even life in the public eye? On this episode of HIListically Speaking, Hilary Russo welcomes author, activist, philanthropist, Deborah Santana. From growing up as the daughter of a pioneering interracial couple to spending decades alongside music legend Carlos Santana, Deborah shares the deeply personal story behind her memoir, Loving the Fire: Choosing Me, Finding Freedom.
Together, they explore, • Midlife reinvention and identity • Spiritual awakening and meditation • Walking through grief, change, and uncertainty • Learning to trust your inner voice • The courage it takes to choose yourself • Legacy, healing, and freedom on the other side of the fire
If you've ever felt stuck between who you were and who you're becoming, this episode is for you.
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DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training
BOOK HILARY FOR YOUR NEXT EVENT OR ATTEND! https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
40 min - Ep209 - Do You Have the Right to Die? The Love Story Inside Dementia Catch-22 with guest Erica Baccus
Do you have the right to die? Hilary sits down with Erica Baccus, author of A Promise Kept, to share the intimate and complex story of her husband John's battle with dementia and the decision they made when faced with what she calls the "dementia catch-22."
Together, they explore love, autonomy, caregiving, grief, and the ethical gray areas surrounding end-of-life choices. This is not a conversation about right or wrong, it's about understanding, compassion, and having the conversations most of us aren't prepared for… until the end of our lives is staring us in the face. Grab Erica's Book:
https://amzn.to/4usBucm (Amazon associate may earn commission) CONNECT WITH ERICA http://ericabaccus.com/ https://www.instagram.com/ericabaccus/
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DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training
BOOK HILARY FOR YOUR NEXT EVENT OR ATTEND! https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
37 min - Ep208 - Feeling Stuck? How to Harness the Habit of Flow with Laurie Smith
Feeling stuck? You might be closer to flow than you think. In this episode of HIListically Speaking, Hilary sits down with flow and creativity expert Laurie Smith, author of The Flow Habit: Creating Peace, Passion, Purpose, and Everyday Miracles, to explore how everyday moments of joy, curiosity, and presence can become powerful catalysts for transformation. Together, they unpack the truth about flow, not as something you chase, but something you remember. Because here's the shift: You don't need to learn flow… you need to reconnect with it. In this conversation, you'll discover:
- Why we're all naturally wired for flow
- How "spark moments" are actually invitations into alignment
- The role of intrinsic motivation and autonomy in well-being
- How small, intentional steps can rewire your brain for joy
- Laurie's FEEL framework: Focus, Engage, Equalize, Listen & Let Go
- The connection between flow, nervous system regulation, and emotional resilience Hilary also weaves in her HUG it Out Method, highlighting how humor, understanding, and gratitude create space for healing without the pressure to "fix" ourselves.
Grab Laurie's Book: The Flow Habit
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GET BRAIN CANDY & WAYS TO BE KIND TO YOUR MIND DELIVERED TO YOUR INBOX https://www.hilaryrusso.com/braincandy
DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training
BOOK HILARY FOR YOUR NEXT EVENT OR ATTEND! https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
39 min - Ep207 - From Trash Bags to Dignity: How Comfort Cases is Changing Foster Care
What happens when a child is handed a trash bag instead of a sense of belonging? And what if that child grows up to change the system that failed him? In this powerful and special Podcasthon episode of HIListically Speaking, host Hilary Russo sits down with Rob Scheer, founder of Comfort Cases, to talk about trauma, resilience, and what it really means to restore dignity to children in foster care. From homelessness and heartbreak to building a global movement that has helped over 300,000 kids, Rob's story is the definition of turning pain into purpose. But this conversation is bigger than foster care. It's about empathy, community, remembering that we all have a role to play to walk each other home.
Learn more about Rob, Comfort Cases and How You Can Help Change Lives comfortcases.org Follow on social media at @comfortcases
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
44 min - Ep206 - How to Stop Stress from Managing Your Life with Brett Cotter
What if stress isn't the enemy… but the signal? In this episode, host Hilary Russo sits down with Brett Cotter, founder of Stress Is Gone, to explore what it really means to release emotional pain instead of powering through it. We talk about nervous system exhaustion, the layers underneath jealousy and fear, supporting veterans and first responders, and the often-overlooked impact of secondary trauma on helpers and healers. This conversation on HIListically Speaking is about safety, self-regulation, and remembering you were never broken to begin with. If you're feeling overwhelmed by the noise of the world, or your own inner critic, this one will feel like a reset. Connect with Brett Use code HILARY for 10% Off March Women's retreat or any Stress is Gone offerings https://smpl.ro/al/GRTdFzqAkJkTaD7eKVMmZrcJ/57111-Hilary CONNECT WITH BRETT https://www.stressisgone.com/ (Code: HEALING for 50% off discount session) https://www.instagram.com/stressisgone/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/stressisgone https://www.linkedin.com/in/brett-cotter-6513693/ https://www.StressIsGone.com https://www.StressIsGone.org
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
55 min - Ep205 - Doodle Your Destiny: How to Rewire the Brain and Manifest Through Art with Colette Baron-Reid
What if the simplest way to shift your life… started with a pen and a blank page? In this expansive and joy-filled conversation, Hilary sits down with internationally respected intuitive, author, and artist Colette Baron-Reid to explore how intentional art can rewire the brain, regulate the nervous system, and open us to synchronicity in ways vision boards alone can't. From celebrating 40 years of sobriety to rediscovering line art during the pandemic, Colette shares how doodling became more than self-expression, it became a portal to resilience, surrender, and conscious co-creation. Together, they unpack the difference between instinct and intuition, why manifestation isn't about control, and how creating from a state of "stupefied gratitude" helps us rehearse possibility instead of fear. You'll hear the powerful story behind her book "The Art of Manifesting" and why leaving space for the unexpected, what she calls the "zone of synchronicity," may be the missing link in calling in what you truly desire. If you've been craving a way to feel grounded, inspired, and creatively alive in uncertain times, this conversation will remind you that art isn't a luxury, it's human technology for hope. CONNECT WITH COLETTE https://www.colettebaronreid.com/
https://www.facebook.com/colettebaronreid/https://www.instagram.com/colettebaron_reid/ https://www.youtube.com/@ColetteBaronReid/
Get a free card reading from Colette! https://www.colettebaronreid.com/resources/pick-a-card/
Grab Colette's book The Art of Manifesting here https://amzn.to/4kYcBlD (Amazon associate may earn commission)
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DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
59 min - Ep204 - Military Marriage and Divorce: Finding Your True Identity
What happens when you've spent years camouflaging your identity for someone else's career and suddenly it's time to reappear? In this episode of HIListically Speaking, Hilary sits down with Heather Sweeney, author of Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage, for a raw and honest conversation about life after military marriage, divorce, and rediscovering who you really are. Both women are former military spouses who've navigated reintegration and rebuilding purpose. They talk about identity loss, resilience, single parenting, career rediscovery, and the unexpected strength military life leaves behind. If you've ever felt invisible in someone else's story, this episode is for you
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MUSIC by Lipbone Redding https://www.lipbone.com
53 min - Ep203 - The Part of Divorce No One Talks About (But Every Woman Feels) with guest, Therapist Oona Metz
January has earned a difficult nickname in legal and mental health circles: Divorce Month. But what's really happening when the holidays end, and so many women begin questioning their marriages? In this episode of HIListically Speaking, Hilary Russo is joined by Oona Metz, therapist of 30 years and author of Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women. Together, they unpack why couples often hold on through the holidays, how chronic stress shows up in the body, and why divorce is not a failure, but a loss that deserves care, grief, and support. Oona shares her own divorce journey, her groundbreaking model of divorce grief, and why community, humor, and agency are essential for healing. This conversation is for women on the edge of a decision, in the middle of separation, or supporting someone through it, and for anyone ready to release shame and redefine what it means to choose themselves.
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About HIListically Speaking with Hilary Russo
From the publisher's feed
A globally top-rated podcast that's your master class in holistic health and wellbeing. Named #1 of the "15 Interview Podcasts You Should Tune Into" by SquadCast, HIListically Speaking is conversations of stories from trauma to triumph through health, healing, and humor. Discover what it takes to HUG it Out with yourself, be a happy and healthy grownup, and "be kind to your mind".
Host Hilary Russo creates the space for stories to be shared, lessons to be learned, and lives to be changed with some of the top luminaries and visionaries in the holistic health, wellness, and neuroscience space. From her own healing journey and work as a Certified Holistic Health Coach and Certified Havening Techniques® Practitioner and Trainer, she's discovered that the sweetest tools for transformation and active, emotional well-being are already in your hands. It's what she calls "Brain Candy" and she's about to fill up your jar. Finding balance is possible once we choose to connect to the deepest parts of self. It's time to up your dose, tune in and thrive!
Created/Hosted by Hilary Russo
Music by Lipbone Redding