We are living in challenging, confusing, and troubling times, on a personal and on a global scale and portals for transformation are opening in every direction. On a personal level we can feel like we are being forced to accept and adopt changes that we are not ready for and maybe didn’t want. Our resistance to change can be high and sometimes we refuse it entirely. 

It’s not a character flaw to want to maintain the status quo but rather than looking at what we are not moving towards, I think it is more beneficial to look at what we are trying to hold on to and why, rather than blame, shame, criticize, and judge ourselves for not being able to release it. 

Why do we hang onto something even if we know it isn’t useful, helpful, or know that the situation or person is not going to change?  And we will go so far as to sabotage ourselves if we venture too far away from the status quo, doing anything to avoid change.

Whether we open that portal to change or it is opened for us because a situation ends or someone decides they are ready to move on, our resistance to change can surprise us. We can become very feisty when we feel we’re backed into a corner and we are convinced that we need to hang on to what we have even though it is not working for us, we aren’t happy, and we don’t see a future in it.

There is no way we can explore the benefits of transformation if we believe we are not willing or ready to make changes. And contrary to opinion, everything we hang on to does serve us, it just doesn’t serve us in ways that help us move forward. Instead, it serves our need to be validated, vindicated, to be right, to be acknowledged, to not lose, and to avoid failure.

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