Hold On, What Was I Saying?

In this episode, we are talking about ADHD and the gender differences between how it shows up in boys and girls, men and women.

ADHD has traditionally been studied through the lens of hyperactive boys, but many girls experience it very differently. Instead of obvious hyperactivity, symptoms can show up as overthinking, emotional dysregulation, masking, people-pleasing, and constantly feeling overwhelmed.

We are talking about why ADHD is so often missed in girls, why so many women only receive a diagnosis later in life, and how societal expectations can lead women to hide or mask their symptoms.

We also share some of our own experiences of feeling different growing up, navigating neurodivergence, and trying to understand our brains in a world that often wasn’t built for them.

In this episode we cover:

• How ADHD presents differently in girls vs boys
• Internalised vs externalised ADHD symptoms
• Masking and societal pressure on women
• Emotional dysregulation and feeling “too much”
• The challenges of getting diagnosed later in life
• Learning to understand and accept a neurodivergent brain

Thank you as always for being here x

Why are people with ADHD more likely to end up in toxic relationships?

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• The science behind ADHD and dopamine seeking

• Why intermittent reinforcement feels addictive

• Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) and dating

• Love bombing vs genuine connection

• Trauma bonding and mirroring

• Why healthy love can actually feel “boring” at first

• How to break the toxic cycle

We share our own experiences of being love bombed, staying in abusive dynamics, questioning healthy partners, and learning that love isn’t supposed to feel like a rollercoaster.

If you’ve ever confused butterflies with anxiety…
If you’ve chased someone who gave you hot-and-cold energy…
If you’ve wondered whether it’s love or just dopamine…

This one’s for you.

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Why does your ADHD feel 10x worse the week before your period?
Why does your medication suddenly stop working?
Why do you question your relationship, your job, your entire existence… and then feel fine 24 hours later?

In this episode, we’re talking about ADHD and hormones - the science behind estrogen, dopamine, PMS, PMDD, contraception, menopause, and everything we were never taught in school.

We cover:

• Why ADHD symptoms spike in your luteal phase

• The dopamine–estrogen connection

• PMDD and suicidal thoughts

• Questioning your relationship before your period

• Why ADHD meds feel weaker at certain times of the month

• Hormonal contraception vs copper coil

• Ice baths, cortisol & why women shouldn’t train like men

• Perimenopause & late ADHD diagnosis

• Postpartum depression & ADHD risk

• Practical tips to track your cycle and work with your brain

If you’ve ever thought:
“Is my life falling apart or am I just about to start my period?” - this episode is for you.

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This week on Hold On, What Was I Saying? we’re talking all things ADHD medication — the myths, the stigma, the side effects, and what it actually feels like to start titration.

We cover:

• What ADHD medication really does (and what it doesn’t)
• Why it’s not a “limitless pill”
• The zombie myth
• “It’s basically meth” — debunked
• Titration journeys & changing prescribers
• Concerta vs Medikinet (our experiences)
• Dopamine, oestrogen & why your meds feel different during your cycle
• Why protein breakfast is essential
• Alcohol, caffeine & hangovers on meds
• Rejection sensitivity & what medication doesn’t fix
• The texting paralysis / object permanence struggle
• Self-medicating with alcohol
• Why taking medication doesn’t make you weak

We’re not doctors — this is just our lived experience navigating ADHD medication as women.

Whether you're thinking about starting meds, currently titrating, or just curious about the stigma — this episode is for you.

Thank you for being here x

This week we’re talking about one of the most painful (and least explained) parts of ADHD: emotional dysregulation - and how it links to rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD).

From adult tantrums over hanging the washing out, to feeling physically angry during exercise, to spiralling because someone didn’t text back for 20 minutes - we unpack what emotional dysregulation actually feels like in real life.

We talk about growing up with ADHD rage, why small changes to routine can feel world-ending, and how RSD shows up in friendships, work and dating (including all the ways we’ve tried to mould ourselves just to be liked).

This episode is for anyone who’s ever thought: “Why am I reacting like this?” - and for anyone learning to be kinder to themselves while figuring it out.

Topics we cover:
– Emotional dysregulation & ADHD rage
– Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) explained
– ADHD meltdowns in adulthood
– Why boredom can feel like physical pain
– Masking, people-pleasing & dating
– Learning to be your authentic self

You’re not broken. You’re not dramatic. And you’re definitely not alone.

In the first episode of Hold On, What Was I Saying?, we dive into our personal journeys with ADHD, mental health, and the decision to start this podcast.

We talk candidly about the road to diagnosis, the life-changing impact of medication, and the joys (and chaos) of hyperfixations - hello, ADHD tax.

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See you next Monday for the next episode 🤍