In this episode of 'Hold the Mother', I discuss what to consider when therapy isn't working. I explore signs of ineffective therapy, reasons it might not be working, and what you can do about it. I emphasise the importance of finding the right type of therapy, the appropriate mode of delivery, and a therapist that you connect with. And I also explain the benefits of a versatile therapist skilled in different modalities. 

Episode highlights: 

01:17 Understanding Different Therapy Modalities

02:04 Recognising Signs of Ineffective Therapy

13:35 The Role of Therapist-Client Relationship

13:35 The Importance of Therapist Selection

19:52 The Benefits of a Tiered Approach in Therapy

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I am trained in both Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). The beauty of this is that I can draw upon each of the modalities at different points in your therapy journey. What I use and when will depend on your treatment needs and goals. This podcast episode explores how to choose the right therapy in more detail…

Episode highlights:

• What is CBT?
• What is EMDR?
• What are the main similarities and differences between CBT and EMDR Therapy?
• How to choose the right therapy for you

What Is EMDR Therapy Podcast Episode

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Our inner child is the child part of us that carries all the pain we felt from not having our core needs met in childhood. To a certain degree, you could say we all have an inner child. However, people who were let down more often as children will tend to have a very strong inner child that can be triggered easily by what may seem like very small incidents to other people.

Episode highlights:

• What is the inner child?
• How you can tell your own inner child has been triggered
• The impact of your inner child on your adult relationships
• How reparenting in therapy can heal your inner child and what that looks like

What is Reparenting and Where Do I Start?

What is Schema Therapy?

What is EMDR Therapy Podcast Episode

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According to Tommy's Pregnancy Charity, an estimated 1 in 5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. Becoming pregnant after baby loss can be particularly anxiety provoking. This episode discusses my own experience of a missed miscarriage and may be triggering for some to listen to.

Episode highlights:

• My own experience of having a miscarriage
• The signs of anxiety to look out for in a pregnancy after loss
• My top tips as a psychotherapist for dealing with pregnancy after miscarriage

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It is estimated that around 30,000 women a year in the UK experience Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder after the birth of their baby. In this episode, I chat with Katie who had her first baby in lockdown and sought support to overcome the trauma she experienced. This is a story of hope and recovery, but may be triggering for some.

Episode highlights:

• How the use of medical terms such as "failure to progress," can lead to self-blame.
• What symptoms can happen after birth trauma
• Katie's experience of EMDR Therapy to process the trauma she experienced.

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Many of us, including mothers, can become emotionally dysregulated in everyday life. Those who have experienced a lot of stress and trauma are likely to become more dysregulated more quickly, so it’s important to know some simple, accessible ways to calm yourself down. This episode explores an exercise that teaches you how to use calming, soothing thoughts and images to regulate the nervous system.

Episode highlights:

• What is the window of tolerance?
• What are the benefits of learning to self-soothe as an adult
• Learn an exercise called "Peaceful Place" that we use in trauma therapy to regulate strong emotions

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In this episode of Hold The Mother, I explore the topic of intrusive thoughts in parenthood. We all get intrusive thoughts, although some are more bothered by having them than others. Why is this? Have a listen to find out!

Episode highlights:

• What are intrusive thoughts?
• Why do they bother some people more than others?
• My tips to manage intrusive thoughts based on a decade of being a psychotherapist

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In this episode of Hold The Mother, I talk with Shelley Bradley-Scholey, an EMDR Consultant all about Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing Therapy. I am so passionate about this therapy after receiving it myself and feeling like it 'hit the spot' much more than other psychological therapies. Join us as we explore this life-changing therapy!

Episode highlights:

• What is EMDR Therapy?
• The 8 phases of EMDR Therapy
• What emotional difficulties can EMDR be used with?
• How to find an EMDR Therapist?

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In this episode of Hold The Mother, I explore the topic of low self-esteem, a hugely common problem that many people experience for one reason or another.

Episode highlights:

• What is low self-esteem?
• How does low self-esteem develop?
• My top three tips as a psychotherapist to get started on improving your self-esteem in motherhood

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In the episode, I talk about my FREE Learning To Love Yourself Guide. You can subscribe to yours here!

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In this episode of Hold The Mother, I talk with Jacqueline Kelly, Motherhood and Matrescence Coach, about all things Matrescence - the process of losing ourselves in motherhood!

Episode highlights:

• What is Matrescence?
• The difference between Matrescence and perinatal mental illness
• Mum guilt and why we experience it, from Jacqueline's point of view

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