Holding Space with Julia

Episode 15 – When Kids Repeat the Same Game: What Does It Mean?

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia explores why children repeat the same play themes—building the same tower, hiding the same toy, rescuing the same figure—over and over again. Through real-life examples and gentle reflections, she explains how repetition in play helps children process emotions, integrate experiences, and build mastery.

You'll learn how to recognize healthy repetition, when to stay curious, and how to support your child's healing process without rushing it.

Because sometimes, the most powerful progress looks like doing the same thing—again and again—with a little more safety each time.

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Episode 14 – The Power of Symbolic Play (and Why It Matters)

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia explores the heart of how children communicate in therapy—symbolic play. Through stories, neuroscience, and gentle reflection, she reveals how metaphor and imagination allow children to process emotions, trauma, and power safely through play.

You'll learn why a dragon, a doll, or a simple block can hold profound meaning, how symbolic play supports nervous system regulation, and how adults can honor this process without rushing to interpret.

Because when we understand the language of symbols, we begin to see that play isn't just make-believe—it's how children heal.

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Episode 13 – What a Play Therapist Is Really Watching For

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia invites listeners behind the scenes of the playroom to discover what a play therapist is truly paying attention to. Through stories and examples, she explores how themes, patterns, symbols, and energy shifts reveal the unspoken stories children tell through play.

You'll learn why a therapist watches how a child plays—not just what they play—and how presence, reflection, and curiosity help transform simple moments into pathways for healing.

Because in the language of play, every choice tells a story.

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Episode 12 – Why Children Don't Need to Talk to Heal

What if healing didn't begin with words?

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia explores why children don't need to talk to heal—and how their bodies and play often speak the truths their words cannot. Through real examples and gentle reflections, she explains the neuroscience of regulation, the power of nonverbal expression, and the role of safe, attuned presence in helping children process big emotions.

You'll learn how to recognize the language of play, what silence and repetition really mean, and why healing happens not through explanation—but through safety, connection, and being seen.

Because sometimes, the most powerful conversations don't use words at all.

Episode 11 – The Difference Between Play and Therapeutic Play

Play is the natural language of childhood—but not all play is therapeutic.

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia explores the subtle yet profound difference between everyday play and therapeutic play. Through real examples and reflections, she reveals how attunement, safety, and curiosity turn ordinary moments of play into opportunities for healing and integration.

You'll learn how to notice the emotional stories beneath a child's play, how to reflect without fixing or analyzing, and how to bring the principles of therapeutic play into your home or classroom.

Because when play is met with presence and understanding, it becomes more than an activity—it becomes a pathway to healing.

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Episode 10 – What Is Non-Directive Play Therapy?

What if play isn't just something children do—but a language they use to speak the truths they can't yet say?

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia explores the world of non-directive play therapy—a gentle, respectful approach that trusts a child's inner wisdom to guide their own healing. Drawing on Virginia Axline's Eight Principles, she shares how safety, presence, and reflection create room for a child's story to unfold naturally through play.

You'll discover how this way of being—whether in the playroom, classroom, or at home—can transform how we listen, respond, and connect with the children in our lives.

Two small words—"I feel"—can transform the way we connect with ourselves and with others. Instead of blaming or accusing ("You never listen!" "You always do this!"), "I feel" statements anchor us in our own experience and invite connection rather than conflict.

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia explores the history and wisdom behind "I feel" statements, from Thomas Gordon's Parent Effectiveness Training to the humanistic philosophy of Carl Rogers. You'll hear how this practice shifts our nervous systems from defense to openness, and how it can be used in parenting, partnerships, classrooms, coaching, and even in the way we speak to ourselves.

Through real-life examples and gentle reflection practices, Julia shows how "I feel" creates accountability, clarity, and compassion—all while modeling to children and adults alike that emotions are safe to notice, name, and share.

Because when we begin with "I feel," we build bridges instead of walls, opening the way to repair, connection, and trust.

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In this episode of Holding Space, Julia pauses to share more of her own story—the decades she has spent creating safe spaces in residential homes, shelters, schools, and therapy rooms, and the personal journey that brought her here. Along the way, she opens up about the vulnerable side of this work: how hard it can be to hold space for herself, and how a simple reminder—"With Kindness"—guides her to show up authentically with compassion at the microphone.

This episode is both a reflection and a turning point. Julia looks back on the ground covered so far—naming feelings, "name it to tame it," co-regulation, mirror neurons, emotional safety, and the Feelings Wheel—and invites listeners to notice how these pieces form a toolkit rooted not in perfection, but in presence. She also shares what's ahead: deeper conversations about meltdowns and shutdowns, boundaries, somatic practices, compassionate language, and the ways emotional safety shapes our closest relationships.

At its heart, this episode is about honesty, tenderness, and the courage to begin again—with kindness for ourselves and others—as we continue practicing the art of presence together.

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What's really underneath when we say, "I feel bad" or "I'm upset"? Too often, we stop at vague words that don't fully capture what's alive inside us. The Feelings Wheel is a simple but powerful tool that helps us get more specific—moving from "mad" to "frustrated," "disrespected," or "powerless," or from "happy" to "calm," "safe," or "inspired."

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia explores how naming emotions clearly shifts us from overwhelm to understanding, from reactivity to connection. Through examples with children, partners, and even ourselves, she shows how the Feelings Wheel can turn a moment of snapping or shutdown into an opportunity for clarity, repair, and intimacy.

You'll also hear how this tool expands our language for positive emotions—allowing us to share not just that we feel "happy," but that we feel "peaceful," "light," or "courageous." That deeper naming builds stronger bonds and helps us be seen more fully in our relationships.

Because when we name what's real, our nervous systems soften, our connections deepen, and we discover that emotional safety begins with language.

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What happens when our nervous system decides it isn't safe to feel? For many of us, the response is to shut down—going quiet, disconnecting, or numbing out. This isn't weakness; it's a survival strategy our bodies learned, often long before we had words for it.

In this episode of Holding Space, Julia explores how shutdown shows up in children and adults alike, why it happens, and how we can begin to gently shift it. Through everyday examples with kids, partners, friends, and even ourselves, she shows how unsafe responses can close the door to connection—while safe, compassionate presence creates a pathway back.

You'll learn how emotional safety can be rebuilt, why shutdown is wisdom (not failure), and how small choices—pausing, softening, and offering presence—open the door to trust and healing.

Because when feelings are welcomed instead of dismissed, our nervous system learns it's safe to stay open, and real connection can begin again.

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